Um, and what if I did need sympathy and attention after such a momemt? Please clairfy your position… are making fun of my emotional state or truely being the bigger man here?
You’re good… But… you’re a guy, aren’t you?
No shit, Sherlock. You after a sympathy hug, or not?
Yes! I’ll take that hug damit. You’re not going to go tell everybody about this are you?
Of course I’ll tell. Nothing to be ashamed of.
Next time you feel that you are sick of women, just go up to the first straight white male you see, and ask for a sympathy hug. You might even start a [arlo]movement[/arlo].
Hey, I’m not trying to start a panic… hopefully, these were simply two isolated incidents that simply caused a coincidence. But it’s enough to do a double take I’ll tell you that much. As somebody stated in an earlier post, the Carolinas produces and unfair share of beautiful women… shit like this was bound to happen I suppose.
Um, perhaps you should turn this problem around and look at it another way.
You are attracting shallow, self centered, women, with no real interest in you as a person. You are being seen as a thing, and your own personality is not a relevant part of any relationship you are currently finding. You hang around bars, and attend keggers, looking for hot babes.
Now accept one premise. You can’t change women as a group. So, if you want to change your life, you have to change your behavior. So, stop going to keggers, and looking for hot babes. After all, you yourself say that doesn’t work. Go places where sincere, personally involved, honest open women hang out. Do things that you find interesting, and get to know the women who do those things because they find those things interesting. Make friends with at least twelve women whom you absolutely don’t want to have sex with. I DO NOT MEAN take pity on lonely ugly chicks. I mean make friends with women. Join a little theater group. Do volunteer work. Pick something, and then be you, without trying to get laid, with the women who do what you picked. (it’s exercise for your psyche muscles, kinda like working out on your abs.) Let your pride in your income go, it won’t help you. You don’t need to be ashamed of it, but quit thinking of yourself as a wallet and you will treated less like one.
Don’t do anything to get babes. Don’t get babes. Get a life, and a real human personality, unrelated to money, bars, cars, or alcohol. Take your time.
Somewhere along the way, you will meet some women that have a slightly different view of men, perhaps even including you.
Tris
Darn good advice.
After reading this most enjoyable thread, I’d have to say you guys have been swooshed fairly well.
This guy is either one of the biggest jerks I’ve read in a while or he’s just made up the biggest load of crap on the boards in a couple of days. He contradicts himself several times over and only one person has called him on it. He’s whining about shallow women and he’s about as shallow as they come. Just one small example, his statement about women saying they love you and then dumping you for the next richer guy, called on it, then he says he’s talking about the women dumping their guys for him, well yea, but how does he know they told the other guy they loved him? What a load. It makes for fun reading to a point. But geesh after a while you’ve got to see through him.
I just hope to hell he moved here and wasn’t born in the South. Makes me want to go home and call my son and grill him to make sure he doesn’t think and act like this brat, no manners, no morals and no personality to speak of.
If he really was God’s gift to women he certainly wouldn’t have to be on a messageboard bragging about it. He’d be above that.
You’re a moron.
IMNSHO I do believe Thaidog is looking for a trophy wife. One that will pop out kids, keep her figure, stay at home cleaning said kids and the house while he goes out and makes the money. She has dinner on the table for him when he gets home and doesn’t mind when he’s out all night “with the boys” drinking and picking up floozies who are “better looking” than said supermodel wife. The grass is always greener elsewhere…
Too bad I’m already married 
pencilpusher, I don’t think that Thaidog ever even insinuated that he was looking for a trophy wife, and he certainly didn’t give me the impression that he would go out picking up floozies. He said he’s faithful, and I’m going to take his word for it.
Thaidog, I’ve got a few friends like you in similar situations, and, honestly, the best advice that I can give you is to stop looking. I know, I know; in the OP, you stated that finding a girl is not a priority in your life right now–and that’s a good thing, IMHO. However, it does on some level seem to be bothering you, and that is most assuredly not a good thing. Thus, the best advice I can give you is to stop looking.
And I mean totally stop looking. Don’t accept propositions from random strangers you meet at keggers (you can still GO to the keggers, mind you, just don’t pick people up there), don’t go on any blind dates, and don’t think of any women as potential mates. Think of them as potential friends. This also extends to–if you can take it–not getting laid for a while. Most importantly, spend some time on you. Find some things you really enjoy and do them with people. Get to know some women, and get to know yourself. Try to talk to women at work (if there are any). Do some group activities, or–on the off chance you’re still in school–get to know the girls in your class. Think of them as double-agents; they’re not REALLY girls, they’re just playing the part, and can show you a hell of a lot about what females are REALLY like. Also, if possible, mention income as little as possible. And have fun being yourself, being single, and being free.
Then, after you’ve done this for a while–maybe six months–take stock of your life. See what you’ve found. Maybe you’ll have a couple of female friends who are now suddenly much more interesting to you (if you catch my drift). Maybe they’ll ask you out, honestly interested (in that case, take the hint). Maybe you’ll have many more friends in general, or maybe you’ll have healed enough to start looking for a date again. But you’ve obviously been hurt, so you shouldn’t look right now. Don’t pour salt in that wound.
I wish you the best of luck.
ultress, again, I so totally agree with you. This guy can not be for real!
After this gem:
I have to say, there’s no way I can take this seriously at all.
Sometimes… Sometimes guys aren’t very popular with women because there is precious little likeable about them.
It seems to me that you probably don’t have model looks yourself, nor the world’s most outstanding personality, but you do have a fat wallet. Well, that’s what certain women are primarily going to be attracted to - especially if they’re gorgeous women who can have their pick of superficial men.
If you want a woman to like you for YOU - you have to go for personality not looks. Theirs and yours. Because in 50 years time you’re both going to be wrinkly old codgers - unless your fat wallet buys plastic surgery for you both 
- so what’s inside does count more.
Women that obviously spend a hell of a lot of time and money on designer clothes and personal grooming - unless they work in fashion/media or an appearance-conscious high-flying profession - are HIGHLY LIKELY to be more superficial. They are HIGHLY LIKELY to be viewing you for your wallet as it can maintain their lifestyle better. If you don’t want a trophy wife/high maintenance chick avoid them before they target you, scaring off less glamorous but far more lovely, subtle women.
Aim at women who seem compassionate and driven and career focused, and proud of supporting themselves. Like the Destiny’s Child song goes - there are “Independent Women” out there. There are women who actually don’t want your money, because they value their own independent financial status and personal economic freedoms more.
Sadly, ultress, I think the chances of this being a group whooshing are favored towards the non-whooshing side of things. There are, indeed, guys who’re in their teens & 20’s (and 30’s & 40’s & 50’s, etc.) who do indeed stumble through life with this muddled mindset. I’ve met some of them.
I mean, sure, he’s antagonizing us with the “go fuck yourself” shit & the comment regarding the abuse of women. But the real meat of what he’s spouting isn’t “faked”, I don’t think: I think that it simply stems from what seems to be his generally assholish personality.
IOW, just because he’s spouting contradictory, hyperbole-laden bullshit that seems utterly cartoonish, doesn’t mean that he doesn’t believe what he’s saying. Sadly.
And to think there’s a whole pile (ok not a pile, but a few) of us attractive type geeky chicks out there who are trying to find men who realize that although we are not going to be supermodels, we’re attractive, nice, intelligent women.
We’re kind of tired of being asked to hold some guy’s beer while he dances with Britney and her spheres.
Oh, and istara’s right. We’re not after your money, cause we make plenty of our own.
We’re not wearing Dolce and Gabanna, we don’t read Cosmo, we don’t own a Prada scarf or a Gucci purse (if we have a purse at all), and we Googled to find all of those designer names because we’re that out of touch with the bleeding edge of fashion.
We exist. We’re not invisible. A guy friend of mine used to do the same thing complaining about the really hot girls, the fashion conscious chicks, and how they wanted money and they were really shallow. I really, really liked him for three years, and figured he’d never look my direction because I’m not perfectly dressed and styled and manicured with a perfect body. One day when he was bitcing about how bad this girl treated him, I finally said something. I told him I never would’ve done that. In one of those fairy tale teen movies, this is where he would’ve realized what a great girl I am, but this is no fairy tale. He couldn’t figure out why it hurt my feelings to hear that he’d never considered me date-able.
We barely speak anymore, and I finally figured out that he’s the one who missed out, not me.
I have no idea what the point of all that was other than, y’know, a woman doesn’t have to be drop dead, swimsuit model gorgeous to be worth dating. You might miss out on the woman who’d treat you like gold because she’s the girl in jeans sitting next to the knockout in the tight black dress.
I’ve met them too, but at least they stick by the story. This guy is making his up as he goes. He makes a 6-figure income, so how old you think he is to have worked himself up to that salary? Not fresh out of college, not here. I know what it takes to make six figures in this state. He doesn’t have above average intelligence, as you can judge by his posts. I’ll stick by the swoooshed story. Seen too many of them on this board. Ah, but we continue to feed him with our posts. So I’m outta here. Enjoy.
I’m going to try to ask you a civil question, Thaidog. That okay with you? I hope so. If not, disregard.
IF you met a nice woman…a sweet, honest, witty, loyal, intelligent and pleasant woman who drove a minivan and dressed fine but was a little plump so she couldn’t dress “hot”…and, let us be honest, wouldn’t dress “hot” even if she had the figure for it because…she isn’t inclined that way…would you spend more than the time it took to say hello with her? Say she shared every single interest you are passionate about. Say she had a wicked cool sense of humor. Say she…had everything you ever wanted in a women…except that she wasn’t drop-dead gorgeous.
Now, what I want to know is…would you “give her the time of day?” Or would you say hello and immediately move on to the “drop-dead gorgeous” women in the room? Because, hon, from an admittedly limited perception of you (from this thread only) you would quite probably have said hello and moved on. And missed the person who might have been exactly the person you claim to be looking for.
To put this out right now…I have only read about the first half of this rant. I was getting frustrated and bored of the same shit being said.
:ducks head as fellow dopers throw bottles:
But I think everyone has been frustrated by the opposite sex! Especially the very attractive ones. I can definately say that since I have turned my 8 pack stomach into a personal keg and stoped flausing my diamonds and gold, women don’t flock to me like they used to. Yeah it sucks, but that’s how the masses think. The only thing I can say is to not give up hope for I have not. There is definately women out there that are hot and worthy of your love.
Yeah it might not be the best way to rant about the female gender…especially when we all know that you all are not gold digging bitches. So burn him lightly and give some positive thoughts to better his opinion and perception of “hot” women.