I walked out of a Mighty Mike’s ‘gas station’ with a twelve pack of Icehouse beer.
As I got into my vehicle…
Homeless Man: Hey man, how you doin?
BrightSmite: pretty good man, how you doin?
HM:You need your truck washed?
BS: naw man, I’m good.
HM: Hey uh, I need some money for some beer.
BS: (I never give to someone who I think is going to buy alcohol w/ it…but) How much does one beer cost?
HM: dollar thirty seven…
BS: (I pull a dollar out of my billfold and then grab 37 cents from floorboard of car) here ya go man…
HM: hey thanks man, whatever whatever
BS: (I start to think how much ONE of my beers cost me [.93] and I say…) Hey, how bought you give me that money back and I’ll just give you one of these cold beers…
HM: OK cool
BS: (I figure he will give me either the change OR the dollar bill back… He gives me ALL!) Hey I’ll keep in touch about that carwash!
HM: alright man
BS: (I drive away feeling a little disgusted at humanity)
Why disgust? It sounds like this particular homeless guy was absolutely straight forward with you, offered to work for what you gave him, and was honest when you gave him the good instead. I’d have driven away feeling a little bit better about humanity.
I don’t quite see how that follows as a rational analysis of the transaction.
A chronic alcoholic told you the straightforward reason why he needed money
You offered him money and he accepted
You then offered him (again… a chronic alcoholic) a ready beer and he gladly traded you the money for the alcohol. A fairly rational choice given the circumstances and gave you all your money back.
I, too, am going to ask you to explain why disgust? Disgust at him? He was straight up about why he wanted the money, didn’t lie and say it was for his kid or anything. He refunded all your money when you gave him the beer. Maybe disgust at your self for giving beer to an alcoholic? I don’t think that was so bad. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
You gave him money. Once the gift was made, the money was his, and was no longer yours.
You then offered to sell him a beer, and you accepted his money as payment for it, but instead of handing over the beer, you kept his money and drove away.
At best, that’s breach of contract on your part, and at worst it is fraud or theft on your part.
Yeah, let me say that my disgust was not aimed at him, his homelessness, or his supposed alcoholism. Even then the word ‘disgust’ is too strong. I really just felt sorry for him for getting to the point of offering a stranger a carwash at 10pm so he could drink a beer.
If anything I’m disgusted at myself for giving him a beer. That beer isn’t gonna help him at all…
Well it isn’t going to help you at all either, but that didn’t stop you from forking over $.93 a can for it. Why does he need a better reason than you do?
I used to think that too but really if it makes his miserable life less miserable for a few minutes then it is not all that bad. We can’t help everyone, and as much as you’d like to think denying him a beer would set him on the straight and narrow, it just won’t.
The only person that is going to stop him from drinking is himself. Besides he was pretty starightforward with you.
Seriously, even if he’s an alcoholic, he’s hardly getting drunk off of one beer. 'Specially Icehouse. You might as well have given him a bottle of water.
I just love this board; it never fails to give me a geniune laugh, especially when I need it most (like today). You guys are so funny.
BTW, I agree that if you brightened the life of someone like that and gave him the chance to feel better for a few minutes having a beer to enjoy, you did a good thing. The more desperate your circumstances, the more the little things mean, and the more you’re struggling, the more you appreciate any tiny respite. And that beer sure wasn’t going to make things any worse at this point.
You should go back tomorrow with a 12 pack in hand and see what you can get him to do. You could have yourself a genuine beer slave if you play it well.