I concur with this. Whether or not the “wife’s” post was real is undoubtedly irrelevant at this point. If Incubus is to remain posting, it’s in everyone’s best interest to at least, initially, give him the benefit of the doubt. And that said, I, too, understand a shift in tone online when there are underlying issues involved. After my last hiatus, I came back to the boards with more of a “no fucks left to give” attitude. The reason why isn’t important, but re-reading a lot of what I’ve posted since, I don’t want to become one of those people that others wonder what the hell happened to. So, going off the insights mentioned here, I hope that I’m more self-aware of being less of an ass myself going forward. I know I’ve been guilty of taking this board way too seriously in the past, now I need to make sure I can’t be convicted of the opposite in the future… being so severe that I forget that real people (and all their attendant quirks) are behind those screen names. So, I’m hoping all take away good things from this. Especially me.
It would be great to understand why this is happening to me , honestly. Perhaps because in the past, there were a lot of people that ‘tolerated’ me but didn’t necessarily ‘like’ or ‘respect’ me. Presently there are a great deal of people in real life that really do like and respect me, but it can be hard to genuinely recognize it. So I take inventory of all the good that is happening but wonder if I’m just fooling myself. There are probably plenty other posters that would have an easier time believing someone’s mean behaviors are more genuine than their kind ones.
But who knows. Anyway, trying to cut down on the abusive and judgemental statements, and also the ‘I’ statements (as much as possible; sorry for the really awkwardly-phrased sentences as a result). A poster such as myself should be extremely grateful the community here has poised themselves to encourage me to cut down on it so it can be done willingly, rather than the mods telling me “Next fat bashing thread you are banned forever”.
Unlike Dominos in every place I’ve ever lived, this thread *delivers. *
Eh, try not to beat yourself up about this. I have a lot of bad memories of stupid shit I did back in my high school/college days. I had a lot of trouble with boundaries because I was raised by shitty people. It’s embarrassing to think about, but you can’t change the past. No reason to let it consume you.
Ambivalid, Incubus is douchebag? How can?
Hey man. I’m andros. I don’t post much outside the Pit and GD, and never really have, so our paths haven’t crossed much. That is to say, I have very few preconceptions about you, your posting style, and your history.
The fact is, you’ve developed a habit and reputation for coming across as, well, a douchebag. That said, ISTM that there’s a lot of decent advice in this thread. It can be really hard to sort it out from the pile-on in these situations, but it’s there. If you’re willing to take the bad with the good, and accept the bruised ego, I highly recommend reading through this thread with as open a mind as you can manage.
People aren’t all going to like you. Some will never even tolerate you. But you might be able to glean an understanding of why that is, and how you might present yourself in a different light.
so, it’s official? we meet at the campfire to sing Kumbaya and make smores.
Yes. Sometimes I think I am in love with Monstro. Is single?
I have a bit of a crush on her and her sister.
<sips drink>
“Now go home and get in your fuckin’ hugbox!”
whine but the fiberglass down in the crawlspace is making my lungs itchy! whine
Well, I think a large part of the problem is that you worry too much about how other people see you. This explains the bravado you’ve exhibited. It also explains why you need us to believe your wife is perfect and has all these high standards; you feel this proves to us that you’re top quality.
The same number of people who liked you back then may very well be the same number that like you now. Or it could be different. Really, though, what does it truly matter? The feelings of other people are notoriously capricious and ever-changing; pining your self-esteem on that is a losing strategy.
It is far more important you like and respect yourself, and accept your strengths and weakness, regardless if you have a fan club or not.
Greatest pit thread ever
Surely, NOT the best?
signed
Mrs The Great Unwashed
This has gotten to be downright surreal.
No, I think Incubus predates the surrealist period, a heavy dose of chiaroscuro though.
Bahhhh …I remember when DIOsaurs roomed the pit.
Can we make pizza smores?
They do, which pisses many of us riders off. Muni drivers make more than cops in some cases. OT, dontchaknow.
http://www.sfexaminer.com/sanfrancisco/driver-salaries-fueling-deficit/Content?oid=2135249
"T*he average base pay for a Muni operator — those who drive buses, cable cars and light-rail vehicles — is roughly $60,000, which is determined by a City Charter mandate that says they must be among the top paid in the country.
And Muni’s 2,350 operators are almost guaranteed a bevy of overtime pay. In calendar year 2009, 622 Muni operators raked in more than $80,000 in total pay, including 82 who brought home more than $100,000.
More than 400 operators were paid overtime in excess of $20,000. One operator earned as much as $78,722 in overtime and brought home a total of $146,498 in pay last year. Seventeen operators earned more than $51,000 in overtime, contributing to more than $100,000 in take-home pay for the year, according to data obtained from the city controller.*"
Somehow I missed your apology for calling him a liar about how much he made as a bus driver.:rolleyes: