Oh, barf.
Let’s be realistic, if something happens more than once or twice, it’s almost a 100% that it IS you.
Some people can be very picky. It could be a bad tooth, a filling that shows when you laugh (yes, I’ve known this to be a cause for rejection more than one time), it could virutally anything.
But if it’s happening more than twice, it’s you.
But that’s not necessarily a rap of you. Perhaps you’re looking in the wrong place. After all one doesn’t go to Australia to find an elephant, nor does one go to Botswana to find a kangaroo
Of course it is me. I just don’t know what it is…
Two friends of mine had suggested two things seem very far-fetched. One of them being that the friend who is sent over, is actually “cock-blocking” them. In other words, that friend may be making up negative things about me.
The other suggestion is even more paranoid, and SHE is paranoid. I acually started a thread about her a few months ago.
Women actually say this to you? Out loud?
It sounds like a personal ad. A BAD personal ad.
Where are you approaching women? What types of bars? Maybe you just need to find a new location, where there are women who are more your type. You’re interests and what you want in a woman don’t sound at all weird, maybe you’re just looking in the wrong place.
Sure it’s a stereotype. And as I mentioned, she may not be either type herself. I’m sure there’s a continuum, the OP falls somewhere on it, and the woman may be looking for someone from closer to the other end of it.
The OP mentions having a low voice which, like any other trait, will be more attractive to some and less attractive to others. It could explain why from a distance, there’s an attraction but once they talk, the attraction dissipates. Or it could be something else (bad breath etc.). However, it wouldn’t explain why one stayed and talked for an hour, so the voice isn’t a universal turnoff or anything.
My thought, in that case, was that maybe the woman expected the OP to do something, like get a phone number or suggest leaving and getting coffee, etc. She may have thought, ‘She’s interesting but maybe she doesn’t have enough confidence to push the matter further, or maybe she wants to kill time, just shoot the breeze all night.’
She may also have thought, ‘As long as I’m sitting here talking to her, others will think we’re together and nobody will approach me.’ So rather than come back, she left for another bar or whatever.
I think we’ve probably found the problem then. You have an impacted wisdom tooth that was infected. If it was infected once then it could probably be infected again, but not necessarily in a way that hurts. Plus, if you don’t have dental insurance, that probably means you haven’t been to the dentist in a while, right? You may have cavities and you may have gingivitis. There might even be visible problems with your teeth and gums.
You wouldn’t be able to smell or see these yourself. Your friends and family might never notice because they don’t have flirty face-to-face conversations with you. But all it takes is one whiff of the corpselike odor of dental decay to turn someone off forever.
Seriously, if nobody ever told you this before, I’m telling you now. Dental hygeine isn’t like cable TV, you don’t just cancel it when money is tight. Dental neglect has some really bad effects, both medically and socially. You need to make an appointment for a cleaning, X-ray, and exam right now.
Maybe you’re not butch enough, do these women tend to be “Llipstick” or “Butch”? Do you appear “Butch”, do you go after the ultra feminine types?