Good luck, hon! hugs
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- I was hesitant to say anything about this, because peole who met on the internet might assume that they’re being called fat liars, but I have heard this story, in different variations, more than a couple times. It’s somewhat interesting that one of the benefits of meeting people online is supposed to be that you don’t get “hung up” on appearances, and yet stories of people posting false photos are so common. -I mostly hear about girls doing it.
- I wouldn’t think that I could get that interested in someone I’d met online who lives 500 or 1500 or 2500 miles away, to the extent that I’d be taking cross-country trips to see them when (where I live) there’s truckloads of women available locally. It just doesn’t seem practical - I doubt I’d be “satisfied” getting my hands on them only once every couple months (netsex just ain’t it) assuming that the one person was the one-and-only. Playas don’t give a sheet. - MC
MC your points are good ones. I think the reason someone is willing to get involved with someone so far away is because they can’t find anyone locally or at least it is difficult to meet someone you can relate to. Though I was very attractive when I was younger now in middle age I am balding, overweight and plain. I find it impossible to find someone in real life to date. I thought that online relationships provided the opportunity to sell the best parts of my personality without the “hang up of looks” as you put it. I made the mistake of assuming the people I was talking to were being just as honest as I was. I found chatrooms in particular to be notorious for people lying. People there often assume false personalities or other aspects of their personalities they don’t normally exhibit. It is just a role playing game to alot of them. They get some kind of thrill influencing people in ways that they aren’t normally able to do. They totally disregard the fact they are interacting with real people.
I got involved with someone who was an exceptional liar and it destroyed my life. I made changes in my real life based on my online relationship and I am still rebuilding my life based on the consequences of what happened. I think in years to come, online relationships will be more and more common and the pitfalls and advantages will be more clearly understood by the involved parties. As it is, it is somewhat unexplored territory and I recommend great caution. Don’t believe anything you haven’t seen for yourself or can’t verify somehow.
Wanderer:
This is partly what i feel is happening with me. I’ve spoken to and corresponded with via email this girl now for about one month, and aside from looks, if you can go by what a person is like over the phone, i really think she’s sweet and intelligent, and have as of last night decided that if i can enjoy three hour conversations with her over the phone, why can’t i enjoy her in persone, regardless of looks. I have decided to put my attachments to physical traits aside for the night tonite, because i have asked her out on a date. Wish me luck kids. Tonight’s blind date number one for ol’Soul!
We’re going out for some dessert and tea.
Good Luck!! Keep us posted.
Good luck! What luna said.
Soulsling, you’re a great, classy, guy. Relax, have a good time, and wipe that shit-eating grin off your face before she sees it.
Woohoo! Good luck, hon! Let us know what happens!
mag, how’d you know i had a shit eating grin on my face? Are you looking at me through my monitor? You are arent’ you?.. ahem, i’m perfectly relaxed.
soulsling, I correct my earlier post: wipe that shit-eating grin off your face and for chrissake PUT SOME PANTS ON!
mag, you’re amazing, how do you do that?..
::quickly zips up pants and splashes some water on his face::
Well soulsling my boy, I wish you the best, but unfortunately, and this didn’t line up with my intuitive feelings about it, I found out you can be very emotionally attracted to someone who repulses you physically. I spent up to 10 hours a day on the phone with this person I met online, watching TV programs together, playing interactive web games and renting the same movies and lining up our VCRs and yet when I found out what she really looked like I was totally turned off by her and I don’t know if I could ever be attracted to her. Maybe women have a different take on this, but as a man, no matter how much the emotional attraction there HAS to be physical attraction as well.
Why again are we assuming that this girl will be unattractive? I bet she’s gorgeous, and sweet, and adorable. And if the attraction isn’t there, it isn’t there, and that’s okay. I bet she’ll have the same shit-eating grin on her face.
Soulsling, not THOSE pants. You are not allowed to wear chaps on the first date. Or out of the house, really. Do I have to come up there and dress you?
Thanks for the advice Wanderer, but i’ll take my chances tonite. I’ve got a gut feeling.
How 'bout these pants mag? Kenneth Cole is good right? And these Kenneth Cole shoes? I’ve got a nice Geoffrey Beane cotton shirt to go with it, and black socks, do socks matter? my briefs are black too, is that good? I don’t think she’ll see them tonite though, but it might bring me luck. Yeah, lucky briefs…
I can’t tell if you are making fun of me with all those brand names, but you look gorgeous, dahling. Knock her dead.
Shit-eating grin is still obvious from here.
Oh, and just like size, sock color matters.
Don’t forget to give us the gory details tomorrow!
nah, not making fun of you at all mag.
…can you all stand the waiting? i sure can’t…
Awesome. That’s all i have to say. We had a wonderful time. Dessert at a café, a walk up 5th Ave. by the park and a walk through the park at night. Great kisser, wonderful woman, very affectionate, and very very pretty. I am more than impressed of my first Blind Date/Internet dating experience.
just Awesome!
That’s fantastic soulsling !
I am very glad to hear things went so well, and I am also insanely jealous. 
My internet dating experiences have never been good, but it is nice to know it works out well for some.
I wonder just how long I will have this “Single Guy Club” membership.
::sigh::
Well at least I have my career . . . and this MB to occasionally practice my flirting skills.
- NM
WOoohooo! Congrats, hon. Glad it went well.