I have a friend who often wants to meet for what will normally end up being turn-based games. Recently he has developed a habit of bringing his laptop along and “working” in between his turns. In the same way, if I’m supposed to be doing something with my brother he’ll normally spend half his time on his phone chatting with his girlfriend. Both have an “it doesn’t matter” attitude to this - they’re present, they’re doing their parts, etc. This is starting to really irritate me, and it takes a lot of the fun away. I feel that if they want to do something with me they should either commit to it or not bother, but I can’t justify this irritation. I try to justify my positions if possible, and re-evaluate if not, but justification here is eluding me and yet I don’t feel I’m wrong. To some extent I disagree with the “doing their part” bit, because in my experience a person multitasking overestimates their ability to do so effectively. But that’s not a good enough reason on its own, and it’s very debatable - the “guilty” parties would simply argue they are in fact doing what they’re “supposed” to be doing and I’m not interested in trying to prove they’re only half there.
So the question is, am I wrong? Perhaps I’m simply trying to exert control or demand attention. Or if you feel the same way in similar situations, what’s your own reasoning?