So, I’ve started seeing someone. I met him in the beginning of May, and our first date was Memorial Day (5/29). I saw him again on June 9th, and a week later on the 16th. We have plans to meet up again this weekend.
I was talking to my grandmother today and after I told her about him, she remarked that we were seeing a lot of each other. I said, “What do you mean, it’s only been 3 dates so far.” She says, “Well, that’s 3 in three weeks…I think that’s a lot.”
I said I didn’t really think so, I thought a date a week is about average. I said times have changed and a relationship moves a bit faster now than it did when she was in her 20’s.
So I’m taking a poll. What say you, Dopers? He and I are both 25, by the way.
I thought once a week was as close to a traditional standard for dating frequency as we had. It’s certainly not excessive, especially if that’s the only time you see each other.
It’s only too much if you are giving up things of lasting importance to you for a short term relationship.
Although, if in fact that is the case, and you are only going on one date a week, I’d vote you had yourself overcommitted in the first place and might benefit from some “me” time. And if that “me” time includes this guy, so much the better.
I guess a third answer is “It’s only too much if you will be emotionally devastated if there comes a week when you can’t coordinate your schedules for a date.”
See each other whenever you feel like it. There’s no “right” or “wrong” number.
My now-Hubby and I started seeing a lot of each other almost immediately. We liked each other from our first date and after that, we were virtually inseperable. Since that first date, the longest we’ve spent apart is 48 hours, and last month was our eighth anniversary.
Did we go “too fast”? Probably, but it worked for us. Do what works for you.
Thanks, you’ve all confirmed what I thought. I’ve had a couple of relationships that I dove headfirst into and spent all my time on, and I didn’t want to repeat that. Maybe that’s where my grandmother got her impression from.
I’m 24 and I’ve been seeing someone for a couple of weeks. I think we’re averaging about two dates a week, since we otherwise wouldn’t see each other. Doesn’t seem like a lot to me, and it’s definitely not too much if you don’t feel like it is.
