Some people would consider me a very lucky person to have the girl that I have, but we seem to have sex just about every day of the week, (sometimes twice in the same day). Is this normal? Believe me I’m not complaining at all about it, its just that I seem to be a lot weaker than I once was and neither one of us seem to be able to leave each other alone. Its almost like we’re both addicted to each other. I really love watching her undress at night and she says the same about me, but its all starting to take its toll on both my health and appearance. What can we do to control our desires. I feel really silly about going to a counselor because I really don’t want it to seem like its a “problem”. I just think that in order to gain my strength back we need to slow down a little. What can I do?
If it’s taking a toll on your health, you ain’t doing it right.
No better exercise. If you mean you’re not getting any sleep, then you should probably start smoking or something. She’s bound to find you less attractive.
Great advice and well said Madame Spider…if you believe it is affecting the things you state,is there another way? I know it is tough but it is the truly the best way to solve the situation.
According to theories of Tantric and Taoist sex, ejaculations make you lose ‘essence’ of some kind, so they encourage you to slow down and focus on the experience instead of the goal. If you do this you can build up your stamina - and, as a bonus, reach exciting new heights !
Worth a try, and it doesn’t take much effort, just get a book or two (The Multi-Orgasmic Couple is Taoist, there are zillions of tantric ones). Try to ignore the silly-sounding parts and find something that works for you and your partner. I got a few books that I read casually, and I find the advice is often useful at appropriate moments.
I don’t believe marriage will slow it down, but I absolutely guarantee that if you have a kid, wait 'til he’s two years old, and demanding nightly to crawl into bed with Mommy and Daddy… you’ll get your slowdown.
If its wearing you down, yeah you’re definately doing it wrong. Sex is an excellent cardiovascular excercise, and the chemicals orgasm release are more likely to energize you than wipe you out. Most likely you’re getting tired because of lack of sleep, not sexual exertion.
Me and my ex would have sex at least once a day, but usually 2-5 times. I never sufferred from it, and as far as I know neither did she. However, we never had sex as we were going to bed… we’d always start around 6pm and end between 9 and 11 (there were generous spaces of rest, tv watching, etc in that time as well).
Here’s my advice:
Make sure the sex is not in the way of sleep. If it is, go to bed earlier, have your fun and get to sleep at a normal time.
Check your diet. Sex burns alot of calories. You have to feed that fire if you plan on burning it. Maybe an extra slice of chicken or a bread roll at some of your meals would help.
Like any excercise, hydrate yourself. If you’re getting dehydrated that can slow you down and ultimately make you feel like crap. Drink lots of juice and water… I hear certain juices, like pineapple for example, have other benefits.
Having sex every day is a good thing if it’s working for both of you. If it’s not working for both of you, then it’s a problem, and you two need to work it out some way.
Based on your post, it sounds like it’s pretty early in the relationship, and things will likely calm down a bit after a while. It also sounds like you’re not getting enough sleep or food or fluid. Or you might be sweating enough that your electrolyte balance is a bit off. (If this last is the case, ignore the people who tell you you’re not doing it right.)
