So… here’s a mild pitting or IMHO, but since I’m mainly curious as to whether I’m overreacting I’ll put it here.
Okay, I’m really not saying this to pat myself on the back, but I’m a good co-worker. If I know somebody’s having a family problem I always ask how the relative is, I always volunteer my services, I’ve driven care packages (tabloids, cosmetics, snacks, etc.) 100 miles out of my way to co-workers who were having to stay in ICU waiting rooms or the like due to sick relatives or loved ones (that was at a former job) and at my current job I’ve loaned small amounts of cash to relatives having crises and donated many hours of chauffeur service to a co-worker who had surgery on her leg. I’m not asking for a medal or anything like, it’s just strictly a banking of karma and "we’re humans, we’re in this together and to quote The Don “someday and that day may never come I may ask you for a service but until then see this as a favor on my” regular workday.
So, my mother is in the hospital. I’ve been spending most of the last 3 weeks 100 miles from work, going in about 2 days per week to catch up on paperwork, and my mother is probably terminal and half the time I’ve been here I’ve been alone (i.e. nobody to relieve me). NOT ONE PERSON at my work, including the ones I’ve helped, has even so much as SENT ME A #*(##*ING e-mail to say “sorry about your mom, let me know if I can do anything for you”. (As a matter of fact they COULD do something for me- my plants are certainly dead by now at my apartment, there’s some simple reports it would be great if somebody could do for me, stuff like that, but I ain’t gonna ask.) It pisses me off and so offends my feminine side that I think I may not be able to bear children.
So your opinion (unless you’re affiliated with a site that rhymes with stark shit dot dead gernal dot com in which case I DO NOT GIVE A DAMN WHAT YOU THINK): I’m being almost neurotic in the irritation I have with these people and I realize that to some degree it’s displacement, but do you think I have a legitimate right to be pissed? A few have asked “How’s your mom?” when they see me in person (and without going into details and a Power Point I tell them concisely “she ain’t doin’ so well”, so it’s not like they think she has a cold) but that’s it, and again, these are people I’ve helped many different ways and asked nothing in return and expected nothing other than simple human “let me know if I can do anything” stuff that I probably wouldn’t have taken them up on anyway (I’m not concerned about my plants, they’re only there because they were gifts, and the paperwork’s the only thing I may have asked assistance with).
Anyway, your opinion (unless you’re with “the other site” in which case please fellate a rabid dingo and suffer major health consequences).