As mentioned in the locked thread, it’s official - Sampiro’s mother is terminally ill. If you need to take some time away from here, please go and do what you need to do, but go knowing that most of us are wishing you well and wishing that we could do something to help you when you are obviously feeling so upset and angry and helpless. If someone has said something inexcusable to you, please know that they were not speaking for any of the non-trolls here, and mad as you are, try to consider the source.
When you can, please come back to us so we can continue to try to comfort you in our ineffective, stranger-on-a-message board ways. You’re family, you know.
Yeah, ditto. I watched the trainwreck unfold in real time, and was sitting here literally biting my nails not knowing whether to jump in and say anything or not. I chose not, because Sampiro was so upset, I don’t think he would have heard even kindly meant words as anything other than further triggers.
I hope he can come back and read this a little calmer and know that for every asshat being a jerk and a troll to him on some other board, at least a dozen people here genuinely care about him, including me.
I know some people don’t think that a message board can be a real community. I think they’re wrong. I feel like Sampiro’s a big brother, or perhaps silly uncle, who tells wonderful stories and is witty and sweet (and cute, to boot!) I’ve had a Dopercrush on him for a year now, and would really hate to seem him leave.
But even more, I’d hate him to think we’re all jerks who don’t care.
What they all said. The vast majority of posters to this board like and respect you, and you have their sympathies and support. The few… exceptions are not worth your attention. Don’t let them poison this board for you.
Yeah, reading his latest saga in the PIT makes me happy that my closest “dying” relative is (or at least was before dementia got to her) reasonably sane, not really dying at the moment, and signed the appropriate documents so that when she became unable to handle her affairs herself, her sons could take over with the finances, and when she dies her money will be distributed as she wished it back when she was of sound mind and body.
And I cringe every time Sampiro responds to nasty posts or nasty people or references nasty sites. I’m sure that it is easier for me to say “ignore them” than for him to do so, especially when he’s down due to family strife and other stuff. Still, I’m not that keen on reading verbal abuse, and I hate seeing flame-outs take shape.
I like your stories, Sampiro, I don’t envy you your family in the slightest, and I want you to stick around for the long haul.
Message boards are what one makes of them. I consider this one a community, or I would not be here. I consider Sampiro a member of that community, and I respect him even though I don’t know him like you all do. Just adding my support.
At the risk of being redundant, ditto. My dad’s doing the death thing as well, so I have some idea what you’re going through although I’m lucky enough not to be having to deal with the day-to-day shit the way you are. Remember that those of us who aren’t cocks are here for you and that those of us who are cocks fit neatly on an ignore list.
Anyone know the Latin for “Don’t Let The Bastards Get You Down”? Embroider it on a pillow for Sampiro, would ya?
Let me add my voice here – I greatly admire and respect Sampiro, and always appreciate his ability to turn a phrase, to paint a picture with metaphor and simile that is vibrant and alive and real.
And in this trying time, Sampiro, please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours, and I wish I could tell you something more comforting than that. I have lost a parent, when I was in my early twenties, and I remember that even the most well-intentioned of well-wishers offering solicitude somethings made me grimace, because it didn’t help and they didn’t GET it.
But ultimately, it did help, and I hope my wishes of comfort and support, joined with all the other folks here that care for you and wish you well, will find a way to help at least a little with what you’re going through.
Wow. I just went back over to the other thread. I don’t know exactly what happened, who did it or where it was, but shit! That’s just wrong. Take care of yourself. You’ve got lots of support here.
What thread? I went back to the one in the Pit about the will and all, but it’s not locked(?)
Anyway, it doesn’t matter. I would like Sampiro to know that I sympathize with his complicated, honest feelings about his mother and I do hope that peace comes to his mother and the family.
I feel like a little baby with my under 1,000 posts, but I too read that whole thread while it unfolded and was, for one of the few times on the SDMB, emotionally affected, both by Sampiro’s original post and the few totally heartless clowns who came afterwards. For what it’s worth: best wishes
Sweet jesus-I found it, but thanks (I think?) for the link.
I don’t understand people–I don’t know what happened or who perpetrated it, but there are some sick fucks out there. I loathe my MIL, but would never say or think what was posted about Samp’s mother.
Why do people want to spread shit? Seriously, as I get older, I have less and less patience with this–what is to be accomplished by the hate aka “snark”. Not funny. Not nice. Not acceptable.
I hope sampiro isn’t banned. I think he is going on no sleep, massive anxiety and grief. Surely, there is wiggle room?
Who knows? I’ve been to that site twice - both times when someone here mentioned it. Both times I was amazed at how pathetic it is. A site set up specifically to talk shit about another site? How silly can you possibly get? These people have the time and energy to read through thread after thread by people they hate, just so they can write (anonymously) about how much they hate them, and they don’t even have the stones to do it here.
Man. I can’t even get angry. It’s incomprehensible.
