OK, I was at a family/friends get together this weekend and one childhood friend of my brothers was there with her lifetime partner and their rambunctious daughter.
So I was chatting with said partner as the borhter’s childhood friend chased the child around the house trying to prevent damage. I mused over how the child seemed to semble said friend in her youth, especially in light of stories told by her parents and mine.
At some point I asked the question “who carried her”? Very casual, as if I was asking a birthweight or something. The partner answered that my brother’s friend had done the carrying, explaining that she herself was too old. The conversation went elsewhere.
Later it occoured to me that I might have asked something that some might consider to be quite rude. Was it?