Is it time to resign??? Care to help MSK?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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As many of you may know, I am currently in a job that has no good points to it, other than receiving a weekly paycheck. Much of my reasons for dislike of said job is explained here.

My job has now begun to affect my physical and emotional well-being. This is only my third week, but my body is a mess. I have constant, moderate to severe wrist pain in both wrists, most likely the oncoming of CTS (carpal tunnel syndrome). All of the knuckle joints of my fingers feel as though they have been “jammed” and are quite painful after a night’s work. (As far as I know, I don’t have arthritis.)

Both of my knees are quite painful 75% of the time. I have to do a lot of kneeling at work, plus crouching, and repetious getting up/down off/onto the floor. My knees literally feel like they have been hyperextended nintey degrees inward toward the center.

My back is constantly in a knotted state and very tense. The pain is excruciating. I have been popping Advil like they were M&Ms candies, to no avail.

I hesitate to mention one of the other side effects. Let’s just say I have been “running” to the restroom a lot. :frowning:

The emotional effects are overwhelming. I really hate what I am becoming outside of work. I am constantly bitter, and always in a hurry. I feel as though I am though I am turning into a monster. This type of behavior is not who I really am. It is even affecting my family. I tend to snap at my mom over trivial mundane pointless stuff I never even would have thought about before this job. She is equally disturbed by how my job has changed my state of mind. I don’t want to be like this. It just happens.

I have quite an enigma, here. I would love to just go in, talk to my manager, and tell him that this job just isn’t working out for me and I have to leave. (I wish I could say what I really wanted to, lol)

However, I am also at a point in my life where responsibility to myself, has become extremely important. I can’t afford to just up and quit, financially speaking and ethically speaking. OTOH I also feel that even if I am out looking for a better job, I can’t wait around until something opens up elsewhere. My physical and emotional health are at stake here, as well as how the situation is affecting others I care for in my life. I am being unfair to my mom, and I haven’t even talked to my friends in weeks. When I get upset outside of work, it “just happens” and I feel like a total asshole afterwards. I even keep telling myself, “You’re not AT work right now. Don’t let it get to you.” but that mantra fails me. I feel like Bruce Banner changing into the Incredible Hulk… quote: “Don’t make me angry; you wouldn’t like me when I’m angry.”

My job is a sycophantic force, sucking away all of the lifeforce and positive qualities of what makes me who I am. Without imposing any personal beliefs upon anyone else here, the only way I get through my job every night is by reading my Bible when I am on my breaks. I also go hide away from all the freaks I work with at break time. I do not want to be “one of them.” I have nothing in common with them. I do not think that I am special, but I am a much better worker than they are and I am far, far more mature and respectable, IMHO. I recently heard of an incident that one of my co-workers did to his own grandmother, and was appaled at the level of cruelty and utter lack of respect for family and humanity therein. They all thought it was funny and laughed. How sick.

My questions to you are:
How do I go about handling this situation responsibly and maturely? Am I already doing so?

I do my job. I am there every night I am scheduled, and I don’t screw around or chit chat. I am never late, which is more than I can say for any of them. I do a damn better job than any of the rest of my crew, and I don’t complain while I am working. That is not bragging either. They don’t care at all about doing their job right. They just want to get done and go the hell home. I could go into all sort of detail, but I digress.

I feel I should not just up and quit unless I have a new job lined up. Every night I spend there, though, kills a little piece of me. Time, health, responsibility, maturity, it’s all so confusing in this mess. I am trying my absolute hardest to be tough and overcome all the sludge I am wading through. If I wasn’t, I would have simply walked off my job at the end of my first week. I am proud of the work I complete, despite the fact that it goes un-noticed. I just don’t seem to be strong enough for this. I am not whining. You can’t understand the situation unless you have all of the details. Unfortunately, I could write a whole book about that pit I work in.

What should I do? Should I wait until I get a better job before I resign? I am currently seeking jobs elsewhere! I can stick it out longer if I have to, but at what cost? Whatever happens, I know I will handle it the proper way.

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MSK, kudos for trying to do the “right” thing, but in this case I think you have to go with your gut, which is telling you to get the hell out of there. Life is too short to put yourself through such crap. Think of it this way - in 30 years, will you even remember that summer that you spent a month without work because the job you had was so bloody horrible?

You want to quit your job, but you also want to be responsible. Fine. Figure out your best estimate of how long it will take you to find another job. Be realistic - estimate longer rather than shorter. It’s always better to say “Hey, it only took me 4 weeks to find a job, and I thought it would take 6 weeks!” rather than saying “Damn, I thought I’d find a job in a week and it took a month.” Figure out what your expenses will be in that timeframe. Figure out a way to borrow that money - be it from a credit card, your mother, etc. Also come up with a payment plan. Quit the job. Start looking for a new one. Voila. Problem solved. Easy, ain’t it? Now can you fix MY job problems?!? (hehehehee! It’s always easier to be the other guy, isn’t it?)

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For me, the big thing is money. Can you make it until you get another job? If you can, quit now. It’s not worth all the pain you say you’re in. If you can’t, it looks like you’re stuck.

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Give your two weeks’ notice. Go and find something else to do . . . anything that won’t turn you into a zombie.

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OK, MSK, I have responded to your other thread and the other one you started today. I have one question: Where do you live?? In your first thread I said to find another job pronto, and quit this one. You say you have some leads. I live in a small town, and it’s still possible to get a minimum wage job in a day. They are all pretty shitty, but at least you could get a better shift.

Now I’m getting a smite bit tired of your complaining. I’ve read about how horrible your job is in at leat 4 threads by you.
QUIT!!! I mean come on! If it’s that fucking bad just quit, you act like it’s a complete hell on earth and it is killing you. IF IT IS THAT BAD… QUIT!!!

Jeez, If you’re not quiting then quit worrying/complaining about the job until you do quit. I think you are making it 10 times worse on yourself.

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OK, MSK, I have responded to your other thread and the other one you started today.
In your first thread I said to find another job pronto, and quit this one. You say you have some leads.

Now I’m getting a smite bit tired of your complaining. I’ve read about how horrible your job is in at least 4 threads by you.
QUIT!!! I mean come on! If it’s that fucking bad just quit, you act like it’s a complete hell on earth and it is killing you. **IF IT IS THAT BAD… QUIT!!! **

Jeez, If you’re not quiting then quit worrying/complaining about the job until you do quit. I think you are making it 10 times worse on yourself.

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OK, MSK, I have responded to your other thread and the other one you started today.
In your first thread I said to find another job pronto, and quit this one. You say you have some leads.

Now I’m getting a smite bit tired of your complaining. I’ve read about how horrible your job is in at least 4 threads by you.
QUIT!!! I mean come on! If it’s that fucking bad just quit, you act like it’s a complete hell on earth and it is killing you. IF IT IS THAT BAD… QUIT!!!

Jeez, If you’re not quiting then stop worrying/complaining about the job until you do quit. I think you are making it 10 times worse on yourself.

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OH my i’m so embarrassed. I didn’t intentionally post 3 times. The board was slow all of a sudden and it got stuck on the thank you for posting screen and I checked once and my post wasn’t there. Ugh. Sorry

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MSK - I’m in a job I hate, which is affecting my mental and physcally. But I keep on. Why? Because it pays the bills. You’re working 3rd shift, as I recall. That means you have all day to pursue another job. My advice would be to suck it up until you find something that suits you better. But make sure you’re out there looking! Employers won’t come beating down your door. You like delivery, you said? Most pizza places go through devilery guys.

StG

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I am gunna tell you the secret to life (well, mine anyway).

  1. Do NOT sweat the small stuff.

  2. EVERYTHING is small stuff.

I just left a job that was doing similar things to me (not quite to that extreme, but similar). You need to just sit down, figure out EXACTLY and be totally bare bones honest here, how much you need to make to live. If you can find a job right away that equals that - QUIT right now, do not pass go, do not collect severence pay.

If you can’t find one that matches that figure quickly, look around until you do, THEN quit.

Never, but never, let your job effect your normal life. Remember, you work to live, not live to work. The other advice applies too, don’t just whine. If it is bothering you, do something about it and do it quick.

CandyMan

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Well, MSK in case you didn’t notice there are people on the board with actual problems, for instance:

Ayesha, Welfy,tubagirl, and Persephone

Those are only the people who are POSTING about their troubles, even. Like previously mentioned, this is the FOURTH whiney thread about your job,(Some people on this board don’t even HAVE jobs,) and if you even spent one THIRD of the energy into finding a new one that you put into bitching about it and griping about GAS PRICES of all things, then you’d probably be president of your own freakin company already!

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Quit, of course. If you want to “be responsible,” then give two weeks notice and help train a replacement. That is the extent of your responsibility.

Start spending your off hours looking for another job, beginning this very minute.

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I don’t mean to sound unsympathetic here, MSK, but perhaps it’s time you took an objective, “tough love” look at yourself.

You’ve been very open and honest here about your problems. Unemployment was excruciating to you, affected your self esteem, your relationship with your family and your confidence to meet women. Fair enough, and many, many people here gave you comfort and encouragment on your problems.

Now you’re three weeks into a job and are so stressed and upset you want to quit. You list the problems and their impact on you quite well…but what exactly do you want and what steps are you taking to make it happen?

You hate your new job. Not quibbling, plenty of jobs suck. But the plain fact is the more you job-shop, quit and try again the harder it’ll be over time to find any job that could lead to something. You’ve often and eloquently tied your self esteem, peace of mind and human relationships to employment.

Well look at it the way employers do: what in your track record proves that you can pay dues, suck it up and handle the hard stuff to earn experience and credibility for better things? Reliability is prized as greatly by employers as it is by family and potential romantic partners.

Please consider this “tough talk to heal”, but you’ll have to make your own future. By all means job hunt during the day. But perhaps you’d fare better if you’d learn to suck up the bad parts of life and take responsibility for what you need to do get the good parts.

Veb

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Get a back brace and some knee pads. Try those out for 2 weeks. If you still feel the same, then yes, it’s time to look for another job.

I know you’re worried about your financial situation, but you have to think about the future. When you’re older, your body will constantly be aching and you’ll always be in pain, and you’ll never wanna do anything.