From my experience in life:
If you flash your penis around while any male is in the vicinity, you are gay. You will be branded gay for life by any present parties. No one wants to see that. No one cares how “big” you are.
If you’re asking me, this boy is gay gay gay gay gay! Even my gay friends(and some of them are extremely gay) don’t whip out their wangs!
Even if he isn’t actually gay, I will still call him such.
XD
Does he like Gladiator movies?
Verbigerate: I have!!! About 90% of the guys at my university!
OK, i’m going to try to address as many of the issues that have been addressed since the last time i checked out this post.
he was… well-endowed. it wasn’t huge but it was a good size, definitely the biggest i’ve ever had.
I am asking about him for the reasons that October stated. we dated for three years and have been friends for six.
wyatt, sorry i have no ass pictures to show off. although, i’ve been complimented on it several times.
kellibelli, his name was not dale.
mandaree, the more i think about the more i think he was just a non-sexual person.
lolacocacola, he DOES dance with his hands in the air… especially to pussy control by prince.
his mom agrees that he has lots of issues and a lot of growing up to do. she told me her other children matured a lot between 22 and 24… here’s hoping he does the same.
He sounds incredibly immature.
Standard disclaimer: this anecdote is, well, anecdotal and does not constitute proof of anyone’s sexuality besides the people involved in the story.
Now. Away back in college, I was in a relationship with a guy who professed to love me dearly. We were together about a year and were basically picking china patterns and names for the kids. He was also the first person I had ever been really sexually involved with, so I had nothing to really compare to, but he would show little or no interest in sex, and when we did have it, it would take him ages to come. I had led a sheltered life and never suspected this wasn’t the way most guys were.
So anyway, finally one day he comes out to me. In, frankly, not the most diplomatic or caring way. I’m really happy he feels free to be himself these days, wherever he may be, but the humiliation of learning that what I had thought was a really intimate relationship was in fact a cover for him was…well, very intense.
Anyway. The whole thing was quite educational for me in a number of ways, most of which I won’t go into here. But one of the things I noticed in subsequent relationships was that every other heterosexual guy I’ve gone to bed with has had a much more enthusiastic response to me naked than this guy did.
So, that said, while the bizzare, immature aspect of this guy’s behavior doesn’t say anything about his sexuality, the lack of interest in sex with you may very well be an indication. It may be that he likes (liked?) you very much and felt he should be with a girl. Or maybe he’s just got a low sex drive, who knows? But having been through the experience very briefly outlined above, I can understand your questioning it.
cgholycow, is this the same boyfriend you wrote about here? Did you find out if he was unfaithful with a man or a woman? Because that might be a clue 
I don’t know - are you male or female.
Ahem.
Sorry, I thought it was funny.
Anyway, seriously, imho, I don’t think you can tell on that information. What you posted isn’t a clincher either way - being a (repressed?) gay might explain some of it, (never having known a gay guy like that) but there’s plenty of other things that would.
He definately doesn’t sound like he was a very good boyfriend, but I wouldn’t presume to judge that on one post.
gr8, yes that is the same guy! he was unfaithful with a girl he’s been friends with for years and years. there was no physical contact between them, just very inappropriate behaviour. there’s and old thread posted by october that outlines what exactly happened, if you’re interested.
shade, i’m a girl but your posted was hilarious. he had many good qualities and a few unfortunately fatal (to our relationship) flaws.
I was just going to post about a similar relationship I had (minus the flashing), when that caught my eye, and I realized I could work it into the story nicely.
When I was about 20, I was dating a guy a couple years younger than me. Now, 18-year-old boys are supposed to have limitless sex drives, right?
Apparently not. My boyfriend and I didn’t live together, he still lived with his rather strict mother, but he could usually manage a Friday night at my place. We would see each other a couple different nights of the week, but Friday night was the only night we’d get down, so to speak.
It was like pulling teeth to get him to have sex with me. Which, naturally, gave me all sorts of self-esteem issues–I must be horrible at it, I must be incredibly unattractive, it naturally must be all my fault. And yet, I’ve heard stories from his friends all about my voracious appetite and my high skill level.
Voracious appetite? Well, pardon me for wanting to get laid more than once a week–and gods forbid I want it twice in the same night!!
And back to the “visiting the kitty” point–in the four years I spent having a sexual relationship with him (whether our romantic relationship was on-again or off-again), he never once gave the kitty a kiss. The one time I requested it … well … let’s just say that Elvis left the building immediately. In fact, I think I can count on one hand the amount of time he even bothered to pet the kitty before setting to work.
I know, I know, TMI.
I entertained the notion that he was secretly gay for a long time. He had some effeminate qualities, and somewhere deep inside, I would rather believe he didn’t want to sleep with any woman than that he just didn’t want to sleep with me. But as time has passed, and we’ve remained somewhat-distant friends, I’ve come to the conclusion that he was, and still is, an immature little boy who was mortally afraid of my sexuality and didn’t deserve any part of the bounty Mother Nature gave me.
I think I had a point here. Oh, yes. Maybe your ex is gay, maybe he’s just stupid. Either way, the important part here is that he’s your ex, and that you’re free to find someone who pays a little more attention to your needs. The kitty needs love as much as you do.
“I’ve come to the conclusion that he was, and still is, an immature little boy who was mortally afraid of my sexuality and didn’t deserve any part of the bounty Mother Nature gave me.”
i couldn’t have said it better myself. thanks to my ex, i have never had sex more than once in a night. ever.
i’m so glad i posted about this. it’s nice to know that there are similiar stories out there. i’m feeling much better about the whole situation.
Okay. He’s gay because he shows his wang. To back that up, you point out that your gay friends, even the “really gay” ones, don’t show their wangs…
IT JUST DON’T ADD UP!!
(I have a feeling your “experience in life” doesn’t yet include 11th grade)
Anyway, I think this response:
…proves my theory correct. Score one for the pizza-man!
Uh… guys that don’t want sex from their girlfriends are usually gay. 