Wow, both women and women? 
Was that a typo, or were you searching for women who were exactly 42 years old? 
I met my wife on OKCupid in 2008. With any luck, I won’t need it again.
On our local/regional match.com site I’m really not seeing that in my age cohort (I’m 56) . If anything there seems to be more women than men available in the 50-60 age cohort. So cheer up, if you are a male as you age the competition will die off
Not surprising at all commonsensically but it goes against the trope that men want looks and women want personality, security, beach walks etc… Everybody wants looks.
The problem with the guys who message me on OkCupid is that a full 75 percent are scammers. I spot them by a mismatch between their claimed education and the just-not-right grammar and content of their messages.
“Good morning i like your smiles You quite cool and pretty woman you should have a man that will cherish you, protect you, and love you deeply,this will happen for you. It may take time, there may even be more pain but,this love of your’s will find you, and bring you so far away from the pain you feel and will be forgotten.
Don’t push for it to happen quickly, just let it happen on it’s own. It will be like standing in the chill of the shade, and then stepping into the warmth of the sun, it will warm you to your heart.You will smile, and that will warm those around you. Never give up on your dreams, they do come true.Anyway I saw your profile and cherish your good looking and I wish to know you better if you don’t mind?I am so sorry if this message is embarrassing but if you are interested to know more about me cause I am new at this I will be hoping to hear from you soon to know each other better please…Hugs!!!
Best regards”
This from a guy who claims to be an American and to have a Master’s degree.:rolleyes:
I’ve done much better reading profiles and sending messages to the ones who interest me.
I also cherish your good looking and interested to know more about you. This will happen for you! I would enjoy to visit you presently, but I am somewhat short on the cash money dollars at present having spent it all on my costly American Masters Degree. Possibly if you could send the amount for a plane ticket to my brother in Nigeria he can forward it to me. Then you will see me like a ray of sun, a good man so cherishing you, and there will be hugs.
I had a search of women aged 24-41, and I had hidden all the profiles in which I was not interested. Thus, I knew that if I searched on women aged 42, I would be able to see exactly how many profiles up that matched my very lax criteria. There were only 20, which is really pretty pathetic for a national, popular site, in my opinion.
Yes, the site has also become lousy with fake female profiles. They use the same text and photos over and over. I report several a day. Interesting to know that women are having this same “fun.”
Yeah, that’s pretty brutal. Either OKCupid has regressed considerably in the six years since I’ve used it, you live in an area much less richly populated than I did (I lived in Houston at the time, which is both populous and sprawling), or there’s some other factor at work of which I am ignorant.
Exactly! I laughed out loud! I guess you are getting the same messages I am. Do they think I am desperate enough to fall for that? Wait, don’t answer that question!
I’m in the same area and age range as Cub Mistress and couldn’t agree more. CM, are you getting the 50-60 year old engineers in the military? That’s the latest batch in my message box.
LOL.
Astro, I think interface2x was pointing out that you typed “both women and women” when the context of your post indicated you meant “both women and men”.
Could you please elaborate on that? I don’t understand.
Basically my friend wants a guy who works in her industry, has the same interests and passions as her, and is geeky in the same way.
That stuff would all be nice, of course. But I think it would benefit her more to have a open approach. There are a lot of great, attractive, loving guys out there that may have other interests and may not be as intellectual as her, but will treat her like a queen. Basically, my advice is to look at foundational compatabilitt first and then worry about the shared interests.
With that said, do you know anybody from either your industry, and/or your graduate school, who already fits (for the most part) the criteria she has? He could be someone she already knows loosely, perhaps. I don’t know how you feel about bringing people together like that, but I find it interesting.
Indianapolis. And I think POF is bigger here than Cupid. There seem to be quite a lot of people on POF, though the quality is shockingly bad (you also can’t hide profiles on POF, which makes it a very hard site to use: you see the same profiles over and over in a search. It’s also hard to get a bead on the number of local users for that reason, so I’m not sure.)
We are in the same social circles, so not really.
I’m sorry if this is a stupid question, but why not? You could say “Hey, what about so-and-so? Ask him!”
I don’t want to make this about me personally. But in this case we’ve all known each other for years, so if it were going to happen it would happened a long time ago.
Believe it or not, Craigslist is better than both POF and OKC