OHHHHHHH Ob that’s the problem with threads like this! No I was for not for one minute saying you had done anything wrong…just that you had a hard row to hoe. I think your family are being very unfair and you should announce from the highest flagpole that you are pregnant and need their support!
I wish you nothing BUT the best…as you can see from what I have said I didn’t get ideal either!!
Oh and SanibelMan see that is the problem with generalisations…the old woman who criticised you is the equivilent of the “one girl” you met at school.
I agree, but unlike the one girl at school, I’ve heard “you’re so young” or “you’re too young” many, many times.
Oh I realize no one was saying anything specific about me… I just kinda jumped in.
I am getting support from certain parts of my family (my Dad’s side mainly though Grandma doesn’t approve much either, and my Mom despite her mother’s disapproval) They just really need to realize that yeah I may not be all that experienced and they may not approve but there is nothing they can do about it since I am legally an adult and in the end it is my life. I’m not them, nor is it 50 some years ago where good girls never ever did that without a ring on their finger and the vows said or if they did they were married immediately with as little fuss as possible. Nanna doesn’t seem to comprehend that. (The woman who btw had 9 kids and foisted them all off on family and when my mom got older, on her to watch so she wouldn’t have to deal with them all) My Grandparents were/are remarkably indifferent towards us, and their own children unless we/they displayed anything that might make them seem less than perfect in the eyes of society. Which is funny because I’m pretty sure New Glasgow is like… back of nowhere NS. Nanna could be the poster child for the CWL woman of the year.
Pha… it’s so easy for me to get bitter about this. Deep breath… let everything go…
Just like I would have heard that “you wicked murderer” if I had told. …I do really wish you the best.
Good girls frequently do it Ob and it is no ones business but yours. The choice you have had to make is not an easy one but you certainly sound like you have thought it through and will do a very good job!
Your family will probably come round unless they are very firm in there belieifs. Mostly firm beliefs are oonly firm till thhey affect ones own loved ones. You and your bub will be well loved.
Good girls frequently do it Ob and it is no ones business but yours. The choice you have had to make is not an easy one but you certainly sound like you have thought it through and will do a very good job!
Your family will probably come round unless they are very firm in there belieifs. Mostly firm beliefs are only firm till they affect ones own loved ones. You and your bub will be well loved.
Sorry bout the double post…it was not the hampsters fault. I tried to fix the typos my sticky keyboard made.
I want to throw in my support to you too, OF. There was a lot of hand-wringing all throughout my family before Michael was born - an uncle and grandma insisting we had to get married (we aren’t), mom suggesting an abortion and, later, giving Michael to an infertile cousin and her husband… A lot of plans were drafted and disposed of, and ties were strained.
I don’t want to get too personal, but how financially dependent are you on your parents/family? What really, really sucks is having someone disagree with your decision who is holding the pursestrings of your future. Thankfully, my parents have been pretty supportive of everything. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully your family will come around when you give birth to the cutest baby EVER.
Except for mine. 
I’m sure you have the cutest bub SanibelMan ever and Ob has the cutest bub yet to be. I know my chap is the best kid ever though lol
I’m not really financially dependent on them. I’ve lived on my own for over a year now but because of everything happening (won’t go into it all, big mess really) I’m moving back in with my father for a short time before I either move to another city with my Mom or find someplace up here. From there I am going to go to NAIT or SAIT depending on where I am and get into accounting.
I’m sure they will come around, it will take some time for them to get used to it but until then well I can deal. There’s numerous programs up here to help single moms and I won’t have to solely rely on one (or both) of my parents. My worst critics have absolutely no hand in financially aiding me whatsoever and have only been listened to politely out of respect for my elders and what they have to say.
If they don’t come round they are not worth the worrying about.
SanibelMan I’m 28 years old and recently had my first baby.
Here is a thread I wrote not long after Bub’s was born about being told I was too young to have a baby. It seems no matter what age you are people will judge you.
And if they are not judging you about your age then it will be about breastfeeding, use of a dummy, cloth vs disposable nappies and so on and so forth.
As long as your baby is happy and you are happy then ignore them.
ps - no way can your baby be the cutest ever because my baby is the cutest ever 
Do you have any photo’s perhaps we could compare?
and Obsidian Flutterby I’ve got heaps of clothes that my little girl has grown out of and would be happy to send you over a package if you would like?
leechbabe That would be a great help for me! My email is actually in my profile but the care package would have to wait until I have a settled address. Probably a couple of months but I have about 4 months to go yet.
Oh and your baby is cute but I’m certain mine’s gonna be a little cutie too!
Hey mine might be 11 but he was a wayyyyyyyyy cute baby
You’re kidding leechy! 28 too young? I had my first at 26 and nobody said boo to me. And we were really broke with no realistic positive alternatives at all.
Of course then I started having stillbirths and miscarriages and everyone got to have an opinion.
My parents were 17 and 19 when my older sister was born and 18 and 20 when I was born. i think they did a perfectly good job raising us both.
See I was younger then you both! I still don’t think teenagers having babies is a good thing. Yes it happens and we should be supportive when it does, but it should be avoided.
So you two are 19, barely over 18 when it was conceived. I don’t think that is an unusual reaction from anyone. Hardly worth pitting the poor woman over. She was being polite and understandably a little surprised. Be polite back to her. It goes a long way.
She wasn’t tactless, they are teens. It was a normal reaction. But yes, you are right, she was complimenting them and despite voicing her surprise at the oddity, she was very polite and complimentary.
I know of a friend ( Masters degree, high up on the monetary food chain) who has had birth control failure twice. Faithful to her pill, her body must have become immune or something to it because she and her husband found themselves preggo with #1 after years of rigourous bc. To say she was depressed about it was a minor understatement.
#3 was a child conceived on the pill and condoms. she hadn’t even started menstrating yet after #2 (planned) and…surprise.
And for the record, she is a great person, (smart, well respected at work and with friends) but not the best mother I’ve seen.
Sanibel When people make comments like that what is happening is that their brains freeze up and they go into panic mode thinking, " Holy shit, I could never handle a child and all its responsiblities at that age." I don’t believe their is any malice in the statement, just the old I’m glad it didn’t happen to me.
I admire your commitment to your son.