So, I’ve got a dating profile on one of those dating websites.
A week ago, I get a like from a gal. I’d seen her profile before but never really went past the front page. Ok, I take a look at her profile. What the heck? She has a PhD? NO WAY! The way she wrote her profile tells me her sense of humor pretty closely matches mine and that sexually, the odds are better than even that we’ll be a pretty good match there also.
Alrightalrightalright, send her a message, hi how are you blah blah blah, generic introduction.
She responds, not only that, she responds positively. HOLY COWBELLS, I’ve got a PhD who is interested in ME!
Ok, cool yer jets boy, talk with her a bit, see if this actually goes anywhere…
Cut to yesterday afternoon …
We agree to meet at a park that is across from the Library, and has the historical museum and art museum located at the front of it.
We take in the art museum, then the recently totally revamped history museum (wow! Really cool, interactive and with a light touch of immersive media for some of the displays). After the museums, we go for a walk(almost all of the main parks in Boise are along the river and connected by a walking/biking path on either side of the river, we call it the imaginative name of “The Greenbelt”) and end back at the original park on a bench between the bandshell and her car. We sit there for about an hour just talking, getting to know each other better until the rain clouds get to be too threatening. Thus ended our date.
So here I am, with a woman who is smart, educated, funny, physically attractive to me, we like the same sorts of activities, we are sexually compatible, it seems, haven’t actually tested that one yet, and we can sit and talk and all of the sudden four hours are gone. She has a frickin PhD in social work of some sort and is a licensed therapist with a (recently sold) private practice.
As she was giving me a ride across the park to my car, she tells me that in the interest of truth and honesty in advertising, she about some legal issues that are current and ongoing.
SIGH.
She gives me the basics, enough to look up the details.
Ok, I get her situation, and it is sadly, incredibly common, people do very stupid shit at some point in their lives at least once. I have greater understanding of why me etc. So I can understand and all that cuz damn but I really like her and want to date her.
But I can’t. Her issues will, without any doubt, negatively impact my circumstances with regard to custody of my son.
Damn it, it was right there close enough that I actually got to have a small taste of as close to perfection as I never really expected to ever find in my lifetime.
Thanks for letting me whine and weep y’all