Is there a polite way to nudge a guest out the door, when no specific end to an occasion has been set? For more information about this specific case, it’s described below. What could I have done differently?
To draw a brief picture of the situation:
A guest has been invited to come for dinner-casual invite, made a few hours before, and the host mentions having plans for the evening. The guest comes over at 5, the rest of the guests arrive, everyone eats dinner and dessert between 6 and 7:15. Everyone retires to the living room and watches TV for a while. A movie comes on TV.
At about 8, the rest of the guests start the guest exodus, where the departure of one group starts the departure of the other. The lone guest is left, along with the host, her parents and her brother, in the parents’ home. The lone remaining guest is chilling on the couch, watching the movie.
At 9, the host’s brother, with whom she has plans, says he’s ready to go. The host, who didn’t hear him say he was getting ready, asks if he’s leaving now. He says he is. There is confusion, with the lone remaining guest saying that if the host wants to leave, he’s fine with it, because he’s tired. The brother is willing to wait while the host gets ready to leave, but the host tells him to go ahead. It would, after all, be rude to leave a guest.
The host watches her brother, whom she hasn’t seen for some time and wanted to see for a while, go out the door. He’s going to a friend’s house, then to a bar, but she could catch up with him later.
The lone remaining stretches out on the couch and gets comfortable. The movie ends. Having missed the guest exodus, the lone remaining guest stays past the end of the movie. He stays to the end of the TV show that’s on when the movie ends. The guest finally leaves at 11, when the host and her mom remember they have to go buy a birthday card for an occasion the next day.