I would have done it for you but I’m nice that way. He was not an ass. You were not an ass either but you were closer to being one than him.
I would gladly have done it for some of my female co-workers, while there are other women I wourk with whom I would not piss on if they were on fire.
Aw, who am I kidding? I would have eagerly done it just to have an excuse to check out the “fainting couch!” I hear they have a lamp and potpourri in there too…
Disciplinary action for going in a women’s restroom. Now I’ve heard everything.
I don’t think women grasp the double standard with regard to men and anything that looks like sexual harassment. I’ve seen women give men at work neck rubs, engage in racy banter, and do other relatively innocuous things that could easily get a man fired or reprimanded. Paris Hilton exposes her undie-less privates and people giggle, a man does it and it’s flashing. I know a mentally retarded man that had to pee behind a bush in public and almost ended up with a felony sexual predator conviction, and probably would have if I hadn’t ponied up $10k to a crackerjack defense attorney who was friends with the DA.
I don’t care if she was polising her shoes, that just changed my answer from, no I woulnd’t do it, to I wouldn’t even think about considering it.
I’m right there with you. I just don’t trust anything that bleeds for 5 days and doesn’t die.
Tough break. You’ll have to think of some other way to make a pass at him.
Well, I don’t see why you couldn’t have called maintenance. If they’re on another floor, just use another bathroom on some other floor until they get to the bug. Unless you’re pregnant or have health issues, why would you be running back and forth to the bathroom? Or, you can have addressed the office for anybody who’s not squeamish or afraid of bugs to help you out with it, not just the men.
I CAN understand where you’re coming from though. I’m embarrassingly afraid of spiders, to the point where I am too afraid to kill them or put them outside (they could attack and eat me or something…). I always have someone else do the job if I have the opportunity. Usually its my boyfriend, but only 'cause he’s the only other person in the apartment. However, when I had a roommate, she was the spider get-ridder-ofer. There was an agreement, she’d never have to clean the toilet if she handled the spiders.
However, this was at work and involved a man going into a ladie’s room. I can see why he wouldn’t go in, because nowhere on his job discription does it ever mention going into the ladie’s room. That doesn’t make him an ass or rude, that makes him someone who doesn’t want to get into trouble. Does he regularly clean the restrooms? No, so he’s not suppose to be in there. If there was an honest to God emergency, that’s a different story. A bug doesn’t fall under that catergory.
He’s NOT an ass.
I don’t understand why you felt that way at all.
Was it just because he didn’t behave as you expected him to behave? Now THAT’S assholish thinking.
What Dan Blather said. I’d be a little reluctant too. Sexual harrassment suits are as fashionable as Prada handbags these days, and too many people are too willing to see themselves as victims.
I don’t think the first guy was really an ass but his excuse was lame. Recently I’ve been looking at rooms to rent and I was looking at the bedroom in one house and there was a dead roach on the floor. The woman renting the room was quick to say that it was a Palmetto bug and not a roach. Come on lady give me a break, that thing is a damn roach.
I wish there were two things everyone could learn to do: Ask for things directly and take “no” for an answer.
You asked directly. He said “no.” If you don’t take “no” for an answer, that puts you in the wrong. No one is required to kill bugs for you, and refusing to do so doesn’t make them an ass.
You were asking him to squash a bug, to potentially embarass a woman in the restroom, to potentially embarass himself by entering a womens’ restroom, and to possibly get in trouble for going into the womens’ restroom. He declined. I don’t blame him. People aren’t automatically asses for failing to cater to your issues.
Would you go into the mens’ room to help a random co-worker’s son pee?
The “ass” did the right thing.
Years ago a friend of mine went to Washington state to go to college. One day on a saturday when the campus was virtually empty, or so he thought, he wandered into the girl’s restroom to see what it was like.
He popped in for a few seconds looked around, it was empty, and then left. A gardener, a man, saw him exit the restroom and told campus authorities. Later that day police showed up at his dorm and escorted him away.
He was convicted of a sex crime. He didn’t go to jail but he had to pay a fine, got probation and had the label of “sex offender” put on his record.
For me personally there is no way I am going into a women’s restroom but I would help you find a magazine to smack it with or a box you could drop on it or help ask other women to go kill it for you.
I’m having trouble imagining what sex crime a person could be convicted of merely for exiting an otherwise empty bathroom. I think maybe your friend wasn’t telling you the whole story.
The first guy was not an ass.
I don’t have the urge to kill everything smaller than I am. But I’ll smash a palmetto bug with my bare hands if it shows up in my house.
Don’t assume every woman is squeamish. And don’t assume that every man is there to “save” you.
You are ok with “you’re a guy, write the company logo in the snow for me,” right?
Kill your own bug or hold it until you get home. But no, he was not an ass.
That’s a little different. But then living in Southern Ca now that one doesn’t come up very much. A pity that.
Exactly, social norms allow a man to refuse to enter a womans restroom for any reason, or no reason at all. Excluding cases of medical emergency, of course, which this clearly was not.
My grampy was a marine. He was also terrified of spiders. My grandmother was resident Spider-Killer.
The guy wasn’t an ass. In most work places, the only man who has the indisputable right to be in the ladies’ room is a maintenance worker. You might believe no one would care that your coworker might go in there, but that doesn’t mean someone might not make an issue of it. It’s not fair to put anyone in the position of possibly getting in trouble just because you’re afraid of a bug.