Might have to consider that. In the next go around, if I get what’s coming to me, I’ll be short, squat, warty all over my body, and eat flies. Not Dangerosa’s type at all. 
I’m living through the painful state of not being my long-term s.o’s “type” - and contrary to what’s been posted here (about guys and “types”), it’s a very big deal to him. Although we love each other very much, he’s not sure about marriage, commitment, etc. because we’re not “ideally matched”.
He was involved in implementing a study while attending grad school, and the preliminary results were that people not matched with their “type” tended to have problems maintaining long-term relationships. Thus the doubts. I have never had a “type” and have dated men of all shapes, sizes, and colors. The issue is a bone of contention, needless to say.
This would be a HUGE red flag to me. HUGE.
My husband’s type is petite, athletic women with dark hair and eyes. I’m medium height, carrying a few too many pounds (very curvy, actually), with blue eyes and (at the moment) red hair. We’ll be married 10 years next month, and are disgustingly happy together.
If this is a big deal to him at this stage in your relationship, I’d think you ought to consider moving on now, for your own sake. As I said above, I’m not my wife’s type. Because women are less fixated on looks, I think it is easier being a man who is not his wife’s type than the other way around. For the first seven or so years, it was no problem. Once real life set in - after grad school and after the first couple of kids - it became more problematic. There are just fewer compliments, dates, times of being “in the mood”, and so forth. It was only when I made her consciously aware of what we were missing have things been good.
Frankly, if he is expressing misgivings this early, you could be in for real self-esteem battering at times, or he could bail early. On the other hand, my wife’s best friend had all sorts of misgivings early on about her man. She almost went with another man more her “type”. 15 years later and she’s still completely infatuated with him.
You have been married, SMT, and I haven’t, so I defer to your judgement (quoted below).
But I stand by my claim above: men care more about how their spouse looks, women care more about type.
My take:
Consider a vector.
It has both magnitude, and direction.
Think of one’s physical attractiveness as a vector. It has both magnitude (“How hot is he/she?”) and direction (“What type is he/she?”)
Men care more about magnitude, women care more about direction.
E.g., if a woman tells you that she prefers tall, thin, blond cowboy-types, and you introduce her to a short, handsome, muscular Italian guy, she will likely say, “He’s gorgeous… but not my type”
Conversely, if a man tells you he prefers tall, thin, blonde fashion model-types, and you introduce him to a beautiful, short, busty, Italian woman, he will flip. Remind him of his stated preference, and he will reply, “Yeah… but look at her!”
Just my two cents.
ggurl, that study sounds like bullshit. My “type” is dark, tall, and wiry. My husband is short, pale, and redheaded. We’ve been together for over 5 years, and I wouldn’t trade him for all the Johnny Depps in the world. Does my husband look like the movie stars I fancy? No, but he’s incredibly attractive to me nonetheless.
Even if your boyfriend did meet and marry his type, what happens once Miss Perfect Match has 3 kids and the body to match? What happens when she gets crows’ feet, gray hair, love handles, and saggy boobs? Is he gonna trade her in for a new wife who better fits his type?
ggurl.
I’m calling bullshit as well. If he’s smart enough to do a study in grad school, he’s smart enough to know that you can’t predict individual behavior based on population means. It doesn’t matter what “most” people do, it matters what HE will do.
Dump the guy. He doesn’t think you are the girl for him, therefore he is not the guy for you. Go find a guy who thinks you are either just his type, or so stunning that he forgets what his type was.
I’m really not the person to say this, but there’s a great deal of difference between being beautiful or handsome and being attractive. Said difference is usually apparent after he or she has opened his or her mouth.
I agree with you - when you are talking about physical attractiveness. However, women also let things like being nice, funny, intelligent, etc. get in the way of their physical response. I think men are more prone to mistake lust for love.
Dangerosa said what I was trying to say, but didn’t have the guts.
Yes, I would have to say, my current boyfriend is not my type. My last serious boyfriend, who I was with for 9 years, he was my perfect type: very rugged and manly, short dirty blond hair, a full beard, tall, skinny, muscular body, nice manly hairy chest, gorgeous blue eyes…he’s very ourdoorsy, I used to call him my Mountain Man. Very ruggedly handsome. Now my current boyfriend has long hair, which I wasn’t really a big fan of. He has no facial hair; I like facial hair. He has glasses and brown eyes; I never dated anyone with glasses and I always liked blue eyes. He is skinny and tall though, which I like. However, even though he’s not my ideal type, he’s very handsome nonetheless, so I consider myself a lucky girl! 
I have come to the conclusion that while you might have a “type,” you will still find people who don’t fit that mold attractive. Who knows, you might develop a new type!
I find that the men I think of as “my type” all have similar ways of acting and similar personalities but can have very different physical features. Sadly, my husband is not my type at all and it’s very difficult lately to be with him. I don’t really care what he looks like and he’s a very good person… he just has a personality that is not attractive to me.
I don’t know how to deal with it.