Or go very minimalist and get a single flower wrapped with a trailing ribbon. I cradled one calla lilly with a lovely thick white ribbon draped around it, and my bridesmaids had red (burgundy) roses with matching ribbons, as their dresses were burgundy. The church flowers were just pots full of the same color of mums, wrapped nicely with cloth and ribbon around the base. I got married in a very ornate church, so we didn’t feel the need to get nuts with the flowers.
On the other hand, if she’s paying for it and not being a pain otherwise, let her go nuts. It’s not your money and she’ll feel like she’s contributed something.
Or, if you really wanted to go minimalist, you could carry a small white sign that says “Bouquet” on it - I recommend Arial for the font as it makes a bold statement and can easily be seen from a distance. Though traditionalists will say that it should match the font used for your invitations and programs, this is not de rigueur.
I’m with DeniseV - let your mum splurge on the flowers. How many occasions crop up in our lives where someone can justify spending obscene amounts of $ on flowers? Plus, if it’s a really fragrant bouquet, you won’t have to shower before the ceremony!
Mom has been very good about the whole thing- it’s my bridesmaid/flowergirl’s mother who’s gone slightly berserk at times. And, come to think of it, the photographer, who wants to take pics of us outside the church. In December. Not unless we’ve got a rain of monarch butterflies happening, and live carp in the background. And the requisite Canadian polar bears.
I should point out that it’s 28 days, now. Other-half-who-practically-never-posts, are you going to post to this, or just pretend it’s not happening?
Also, flower-girl-person, are you going to register here already?
UncleBill, sorry, no sisters. My parents have a dog- he’s really, really spoiled. I mean really. He gets spoonfed, with an actual spoon. I have pictures, and if i had the technical knowhow, I’d scan them and link. I may someday.
[hijack] I just found out that there are pictures of me in my Hallowe’een costume at the website of the club I was at. It’s called Savage Garden, mentioned above. I’d try to link, but it is a commercial site, so I don’t know if it’s allowed…
In case anyone bothers, I’m the one on stage in the bellydancer stuff. The pictures aren’t bad, considering, and I will link if I find out it’s okay.
The church’s organist emailed to say she can’t do the music. We need a pianist, and fast. Anyone know any good ones? There are only three hymns- the other music is on cd.
Gahh! Can anyone recommend a particularly good recording of Debussy’s “The Snow Is Dancing”? It’s our recessional.
I love the idea of live carp - nothing says love and romance like, er, well…
My Perfect Child[sup]TM[/sup] has taken piano lessons. She doesn’t stink too bad, but she hates cold weather, so I can’t volunteer her with much confidence.
Hey, instead of releasing butterflies, why not have all the guests dress as butterflies!! Think of the hushed whirring of polyester-blend wings as you exchange your vows!! And the beautiful rainbow of colors when everyone turns their backs to you!! <sigh>
My 19th anniversary is Dec 9 - we eloped - no flowers, no music, unknown witnesses (employees of the notary who officiated) and a drive-thru lunch at McD’s afterwards. All it needed was a live carp to make it perfect.
Costco has roses for $12.99 (US) for 2 dozen. Beautiful roses. All colours. Go there.
My aunt has played the organ and conducted a choir for the Pope. No kidding. Unfortunately, she lives in Florida. But if you don’t mind moving the wedding, I’m sure I can talk her into playing for you.
I mean all these people coming to see you get married and you need to get them a gift that will make them justify in their minds what they are going to give you three days later. I’ll be bet most of your gifts will be bought in the after Christmas sales so I you splash out some really nice gifts you are bound to reap the rewards on your wedding day.
I once got for a friend a wedding countdown clock from a Hallmark store. You put in the time and date of your wedding and it gives a hours min, sec, count down. This should help with the panicing I would imagine.
Hey, it was Sunday and there were important football games to be watched on TV.
Or something like that.
It’s a bit late in the game for the organist to be canceling if you ask me.
The nerve of her.:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
Doesn’t she know this is the single most important day in the history of humanity, nay the history of the unvierse, because you, Lissla Lissar are getting married.
What is she going to be doing that could possibly be more important? Giving birth to triplets on that day? Turning herself into the authorities? Starting a 12 year jail term?
WSLer,the best awful bride story I’ve ever heard involved a woman whose matron of honour and husband had been trying to conceive for years.
Eight months before Bridezilla’s wedding, they succeeded! The bride threw a fit. “How dare she ruin my wedding?!” Why couldn’t they have waited? They’re sooo mean!"
I’ve given my maid of honour permission to be nine months pregnant if she can manage it. She has… three weeks, now, but I originally told her she could way back in September. We’ll see.
FairyChatMom, I’m glad you like the carp idea. There’s also live crabs- king crabs- releasing them would liven everything up!
Lissla Lissar best of luck with that whole panic thing
Leechboy and I got married interstate so we left all the details up to my mum who lived closer. It was meant to be a garden wedding with a BBQ reception. We ended up getting married in the bar of the yacht club near mum and dads place and having the reception in the clubs restaurant.
It was great all we had to do was dress pretty and turn up.
i rather like the crab idea. it reminds me of the smother brothers singing the star -crossed love song of the crab and lobster. perhaps that could be “your big dance” song.
Look into a little prescription for tranquilizers. Seriously. I took half of one on my wedding day when I was about ready to have a complete fit and faint or throw up or both - calmed me down, allowed me to just enjoy the day instead of puking in the ladies’ room. Better living through pharmaceuticals, I always say.
(Here’s a link to our wedding pictures from this summer, if you want to have a look.)
It’s a thought- I’ll probably take a sleeping pill the night before. I always have trouble sleeping before anything exciting- when i went to Iowa in May to visit my best friend, I got one hour of sleep the night before.
I will absolutely have wedding pics up after the ceremony. I will figure out the coding thing. I will.
I just had a terrible thought- I won’t be able to post for the whole week and a half of my honeymoon! Aagh!
Hey Lissar! The evening news just announced that a swarm* of killer bees is on its way north and should be in your neck of the woods around the end of the month. Apparently they’re attracted to really expensive floral arrangements! You can cancel the order for the butterflies! Isn’t that great?!!
*IIRC, the phrase “of Biblical proportions” was used…
I hope everything turns out wonderful. Try not to panic!
Things may go not as planned, but when you look back at it, you will be happy. I was so worried that it was going to rain or snow the whole time. My HUSBAND always tells me “worrying is like a rocking chair; it gives you something to do, but it gets you know where.”.
I had my wedding last Saturday. Some things were a little off center, but it was perfect now that I look back! I am sooooooo happy. Good luck. Love JD
