It have 29 days until my wedding. May I panic now?

This thread will record my gradual descent into wedding-hysteria. I was actually going to start it yesterday, and call it “One month until my wedding. Help!”, or something like that, but I forgot.

Anyway, I’m getting married in one month- December 28th- and so I think I’ll spend the next month watching nervously for snow. We aren’t allowed to have snow until after all the out-of-towners fly in, you see.

My manager gave me permission to have occasional panic attacks at work, so that’s good, even though I work in retail, which is not a good place to have panic attacks near Christmas. I think I’ll have my first one today, after all the extra boxes are delivered.

Oh, yeah- all the big details except the organist and flowers are finished. We still haven’t figured out where to put all the young, poor student types who are flying in. I guess there’s still room in my parent’s basement.

I’m not really nervous about the actual being-married bit. We had considerable problems with the premarital counselling, so we’re both suitably grateful that this is actually happening- two months ago, it looked like it might not- and having had to fight for it, we’re both pretty sure about it. The inchoate, trembling nervousness I feel today comes from looking out at the sleet outside (see the bit about ‘no snow’ above), worrying about finding an organist, worrying about plane crashes etc. Oh, well.

As I think I’ve mentioned, we’re going to Ottawa for the honeymoon (our wedding’s in Toronto) and taking 20 or so of our closest friends with us for a big New Year’s party and general hanging out.

Anyway, if anyone’s still reading, there’s too much to do, and I’ve suddenly realized that time is running out. Gah. I’m panicking.

Bugger. “I have 29 days…” Stupid me.

It was so polite of you to ask first. Of course you may. :stuck_out_tongue:

Yup, bombs away. Freak out all you like! :slight_smile:

My parents got married on December 28th, 1973. Therefore, with my sample size of one, and my lack of belief in much superstition, I still feel I can say that December 28th is a nice, happy, auspicious day to get married.

Thanks. I do try to be polite.

Stop frigging snowing out there, okay?

Except to the damn weather.

I think you should bottle it all up until the wedding day itself, then have a total freak out and make your soon to be hubby wait 3 or four hours at the altar for you to appear.

Then again, I don’t have to live with either of you afterwards, so my advice may not be the best.

Hmm. Where do you live, welby? Fairfax? We could move…

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Perhaps I should phone my bridesmaids and tell them that I’ve changed my mind, and they have to wear green polyester pantsuits with big mauve picture hats. Yes, that’s a good idea.

My maid of honour wants to release live monarch butterflies outside after the service. She saw an ad in a bridal magazine for live butterflies, and thinks the rain of dying insects would be colourful and pretty. Don’t tell PETA on her. I wanted to give out live carp as wedding favours. They’d be memorable, and useful!

:smiley: My sister did that for her wedding, and it worked out well. On the other hand, her wedding was in July in Chicago, rather than in December in Toronto.

I’ve spent Christmas in Toronto.
It was lame.

However, I have a friend who lives in the 'burbs of that sprawling city, and he’d be more than happy to serve as your <ahem> last fling <ahem> should it prove necessary during one of your upcoming hissy fits.

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Oy! Christmas in Toronto will be fun! My maid of honour/best friend is flying in on Xmas eve and we’ll go to a really high anglo-Catholic church for the late service and they have a kickass choir and then on Christmas morning we get to play my family’s traditional game, “get Dad out of bed before noon”, and then there’s turkey and panicking because of the wedding and the bachelorette/stag parties are on Boxing day and it will be cool!
(pant, pant)

Does your friend go to goth clubs? We’re (the girls) probably going to my favourite club on Queen West, if it’s open. :smiley:

John should go. He’s got that pallid thing down!

But he’s always afraid that someone from the bank (he’s a manager at one of the big 5) will spot him at said club, and then he’d have to converse with them.

I shall send him a note that I’ve found two women who want to attend a goth club with him.

I keep telling you-ELOPE!!!

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About 15 women, actually. Unfortunately, most of us are really, really taken. All of us are of course both brilliant and beautiful, and between the ages of 20 and 35. :smiley: Tough luck.

As I understand it, the guys are going to a pub to play pool and talk philosophy and literature. Perfectly normal. They can have a bellydancer only if it’s one of my teachers, and since some of the guys are pretty conservative, it won’t happen. Pity.

But Guin, if she elopes, she won’t get to wear the Pretty Dress!

Glad to hear all the major kinks have been worked out. Don’t worry about the snow - I’m sure you’ll only have a couple dozen feet to dig through on the way to the church. Just watch out for polar bears - I know they’re rampant in Canada - especially Toronto.

Oh, and I hear a deep-fried Mars bar is the perfect balm for pre-wedding jitters…

Wow. I didn’t freak out until 3 days before the wedding, and that was only because I couldn’t get my rassinfrassin CD burner to work so I could make copies of the mix CD I was going to give out as favors. I highly recommend the laid-back Key West wedding (a little too late for you, LL, but to others).

Mrs. Moto and I have been married a year and a half. In that time, we’ve bought and furnished a house, and Mrs. Moto lost her job.

Then she got pregnant, and just two weeks ago gave birth to twins. To say the least, it’s been an exciting eighteen months.

See what you have to look forward to?

Hope this helps!

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Gah. Gah. Gaaaaahhhh!

Thanks a lot.
Yep, Octavia, that’s why I can’t elope. Ohh, I got the veil done, too. I swear, I am NEVER hand-hemming silk chiffon again. The dress was a lot easier than the veil- although I did get to use some of my Dad’s high temp soldering gear… :smiley: No, not on the chiffon, on the silver wire headpiece thing!

We went to look at flowers yesterday. Eighty dollars for a single bouqet??!! For some reason my mother won’t let me run out on the day and just get some flowers from the supermarket. For some reason that reminds me- I should finish my bridesmaid’s necklaces.

Oh, yeah: last weekend I underwent two bridal showers on the same day. Don’t recommend it as a stress-relieving thing.

Albertson’s. $19.99 for the bouquet, the hairpiece flowers, and my boutonniere. They were perfect. Tell Mom it’s your show.

Maybe if I sit down and have a nice, calm conversation with her, i can go and get a bunch of roses and dry them.

She is paying for the flowers. It’s just moral indignation I’m feeling about the price.