It's been a really shitty month.

[sleestak]

@Chefguy

His son is what keeps him from just jumping off a bridge, I think. I’m very worried that his ex-wife may decide that the boy isn’t safe with him and take away visitation rights. It would be the final blow for him, but she is certainly well within her rights to do it, and a judge would agree with her.

I’m pretty sure this episode may spell the end of his current relationship, as well, not to mention costing him his job. There’s a slim chance that he could keep the job, as it’s tied up with another family member, but if it comes down to it, nobody is going to risk their own financial security for him. That would make him pretty much unemployable, as he’s burned too many bridges at this point. Fucking hell.

I second Qadgop recommendation of Al-Anon. It can really help.

I was your son for a while, except without the son. I got sober when my family said ‘Either you get sober or we stop all contact. We will help you find somewhere to get sober but nothing else’.

At that point I had a choice. I knew I needed to quit but a) didn’t quite want to quit and b) had no idea on how to quit.

Long story short, I ended up in a halfway house. If I can get sober, anyone can, so there is hope.

I will be 13 years sober on the 20th.

I highly suggest you go to Al-Anon and talk to people and, additionally, find a therapist in the area that deals with addiction issues and speak with them.

Whatever happens, it is going to be rough. I wish you the best.

Slee

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{{{chefguy and family}}}

I’m going to add on to the Al-Anon recomendation. I spent a number of years on the “other” side of the church basement drinking bad coffee and [del]bitching[/del] sharing. Try different groups if you find one more woo than you can stomach, but they are out there and there is moral support from those who have been where you are and some who still are.

[TokyoBayer]

Really sorry to hear this. I’ve had friends go back out drinking and it really sucks. That much worse if it were a child, I’m sure.

[Chefguy]

He was discharged today, and I think is staying with his mother for the time being. Docs gave him a list of addiction therapists. I hope he follows through on it.