It would be so great if kids had that scruff of the neck area, like ferrets do, where you pick them up by it and they immediately go limp and compliant. And I mean that for my kids as well as others’!
I realized I forgot one fun instance, that just says so much about why there are continuing problems for one of these moms. Mom, to kid: “OK, you’re not allowed [by the rules of the place we meet] to do that, so you can only do it for a few minutes.” :smack:
ShelliBean, I can be pretty lax too. My 11 month old watches Noggin, and the AAP can kiss my ample ass if they have a problem with it. I tend to let things slide when they are unimportant - want to wear your school clothes for tomorrow to bed tonight? You know what, knock yourself out, kid. That’s not a hill I want to die on. And I know that kids are going to be assy (love that descriptor!). The test is what you do about it, and whether it is allowed to continue. My five year old called her father “stupid” last night, and let me tell you, the hammer came down. But she’s at heart so sweet, and is used to being disciplined, so all I had to do was get serious and tell her that was absolutely not allowed, and she was chastened. When we’re in public, I try to teach her to be considerate and polite, while also giving reminders, cues, and physical guidance as necessary that will help her avoid bugging people. It does take some effort, but it’s not THAT hard, especially when you focus on important stuff and don’t fight about every little thing.
mswas, the diaper-non-changer uses cloth diapers, so it is even more difficult than offering a spare diaper. I use cloth too, but I wouldn’t be too motivated to offer someone who is obviously irresponsible a diaper that cost me $15. Not to mention what to do with the shitty diaper, if she didn’t have her own diaper bag. I like to pitch in, but carting around feces from another baby is over my line.
Don’t think I wasn’t tempted!
Boyo Jim, this is hearsay, but only once removed: I’ve heard tell of sweet tea and Mountain Dew being put in bottles. I’m sure the parents then wonder why the kids are hyperactive and don’t sleep well.