I think it depends on the person and the situation. Some people are very integrated with their real self and their online self. Combine that with a sensitive nature and some people can be truly hurt by online insults. Whether that’s healthy/normal or not is a whole different story.
hell, when I worked at a correction center, there were times I would respond to :“motherfucker” as if it were my name.
So you’re saying I should think of SDMB as a SuperMax? 
well, as long as I get to tell you where to go… 
And your point?
I’m tougher than you, of course.
Missed the first part of that conversation there. I was discussing with Heffalump how heated discussions lead to harsh words being spoken in response to his/her assertion that things just aren’t said in real life.
Right. Kind of know what I’ve typed as the Alzheimers thankfully hasn’t caught me yet. Just because it’s not socially acceptable does not mean that it isn’t said at all. Try not to jump into other peoples discussions unless you’ve followed the whole thing.
Strawman. Not saying that it’s admirable. Just that it’s standard pit behavior. Have no intention of saying it’s humor either. In the future, try not to guess what I’m going to post. It’ll save you some embarassment.
Well, gee…that wasn’t very funny.
Is this Stating the Obvious day, then? Yes, people say nasty things in real life. They also abuse children and murder people. So that means Dopers are supposed to do same because ‘it’s done’?
I was thinking about this question of what’s socially acceptable. I know I’ve tried to explain this to QG before, but I’m going to try one more time.
Society is not a monolithic entity. We all live in numerous microcosmic societies: our families, our workplaces, our community, state, nation, etc. The SDMB is a society unto itself. It has rules that have worked with good success for quite some time. It allows for a BBQ Pit wherein people can flame each other, call names, be nasty.
This may not jibe with the society of your family, or your little knitting circle, or whatever you are using as your standard of what “society” is and what’s acceptable in it. That’s just too fucking bad. There is a different set of rules operating here, and you should try a little harder to accept that. Or don’t engage in the behavior you find objectionable. But outside of breaking the SDMB’s society’s rules, no one is actually doing anything wrong here. This is an internet message board. This is the way we do things here. End of story.
One could say this is how we do it 
Ja wohl!
:rolleyes:
‘Because’ is never a reason. I’m not six.
Bwuh?
Apparently, the argument being used to justify the jackal behaviour is ‘people do this’ . Which begs the old ‘if everybody jumped off a bridge, does that mean it’s smart or right to do’ ? retort.
How much bile? Show me a post I’ve made that you have a huge problem with. Without a cite, I’ll assume you are talking out your ass as always. I use as much bile here as I do IRL, not that I can prove it to you.
Please respond to what I posted and not your interpretation of it.
Where do I state that I type things that I would never say IRL? I specifically have stated I would say these things IRL. I do say these things IRL. Everywhere I go I’m me. I don’t say these things in inappropriate forums because this isn’t my sandbox, I just rent post space here. Just like I didn’t paint rooms in rental houses if I wasn’t given permission. My landlord here has said it’s okay to say fuck you, and so I shall.
um…I may be mistaken, but I believe that both those are against the BBQ pit rules.
And I don’t believe anyone is saying they are ‘supposed to’, they are saying ‘they can’ and the rules here do appear to allow that. So what is the issue here for you?
Fluiddruid or Giraffe–can we get a ruling on this? Is it okay to abuse children and murder people here in the pit? I personally think this runs afoul of the wish death or harm on another poster rule 
Is the phrase “tilting at windmills” beginning to seem apropos, Quiddity? Some people simply relish behaving cruely and will defend with all manner of obfuscation, disingenuity, immature semanticism and dancing-on-the-head-of-a-pin their justifications for doing so. It pains me to see you expending such effort talking into a dead phone.
Neither am I. Why should we change our behavior because you don’t like it? We are not kids that you can dictate how we respond to other people on this board. If I want to tell you to stick an umbrella up your cunt and open it, I can. Just because the people at the “let’s be nice to people we like and bitch about everyone else” club don’t tell you what a self-righteous, interfering, PMS-obsessed, bunny boiler you are doesn’t mean to say we can’t.
I would venture to say in my opinion you have acted cruelly in this thread and elsewhere on the dope. Do "I’ do that—have you ever read me behaving cruelly? You justify your behavior because the poster was RedFury as if that is justification for your actions. Why is that acceptable? Without that knowledge of that feud how would any reader know that you feel it is justified. Perhaps it is, perhaps it isn’t. I think you should be able to call him what you like within the limits set up here–and obviously the powers that be feel the same way as they didn’t call you out on it.
Luckily my opinion isn’t what is used as the line here in the Pit, nor should it, nor should yours or Quiddity’s.
All anyone here has asked for is where is this line you keep referring to. I have reported posts that I personally felt went beyond my personal level of acceptability. Some the powers that be agreed with and others they did not. That is the way it works. Perhaps you guys should open your own Message Board and write your own rules.
I do think the phrase ‘tilting at windmills’ is apropos here–but at your end. You refuse to engage in any true dialogue because you likely know your position has no merit.
I (unlike the three or four times you have stated such) am out of this thread. This is getting old, and you guys can have you fun trying to change the Pit. Won’t happen and I can guarantee that next week and the week after there will be plenty of nasty stuff posted here. Some I will read and some I won’t–life will go on.
Aren’t we all?
Okay, I just can’t follow this anymore … well, actually I lost track a few pages ago. I just have some final words for you all …
You’re going to end of imploding in it.
[sub]Can’t say I didn’t warn you.[/sub]