First, yes this is awful. Depressingly, sad, angry, beyond understanding - awful.
Here’s the anger now. Without doing a lot of digging around, I’ll go with what I know. She was an upstart girl with a set of lungs from the southside who won on Idol. Myself, I don’t get it- but mostly because it’s not my cup of tea. I understand she’s considered The Next Big One - big selling CD’s, an Oscar, etc.
She comes from Englewood. The single most crime ridden neighborhood in the city. This would be the city with an uncontrollable handgun murder problem. Around here we’re almost numbed to the TV news showing us one more family, or even worse - some student lying under a white sheet on the news. One weekend last year, there were EIGHT students murdered between Friday and Sunday night.
I saw the picture of the house her mom was killed in. Sad to say, it’s typical of that very depressed neighborhood. Her mom and sister lived in a small home, smack in the middle of the worst possible place for her to live. Tell me all about how “mom didn’t want to move, she loved her neighborhood”.
Flip this situation. Dad hits the big time somewhere. Literally an instant millionaire. And you hear repeatedly on his way up is how much he loves his kids and how much they gave up to help him become who he is now. Then, after he moves to the big time, he lets the kids - older teens for argument’s sake so he’s not breaking any laws leaving them - stay in the old house in the old 'hood.
I’m sorry, I think that if you feel that parents have the obligation to do their best to take care of their kids, that once we’re grown, and we have the means to do the same, we’re pretty much obligated. Yeah, mom liked the neighborhood and doesn’t want a Michigan Avenue penthouse. Fine. A nice bungalow in a safe, secure neighborhood. Yes they exist all over the city and in nearby 'burbs.
Talk her into it! Remind her of all the shootings that have happened on her street, all the times kids get shot at random by bangers that can’t hit a barn, and spray the inside of a house where some kid gets to die just for looking out his window. Point to every house on the street where someone she knows has been mugged, killed or shot. Remind her that her 7 year old grandson is in her house. Then tell her “mom, I love you, I need you to move because I cannot feel like a good daughter if I can’t do at least this much with my money to protect you”.
I got madder as I wrote this. Any Mod, if you think this should be moved, drop it down one line to the Pit.