“George” and “Martha” are retired. I worked with Martha for a number of years; they live somewhat near me, and since Martha didn’t enjoy driving, I usually drove her to/from the office on the days I was there.
Martha has had a number of health problems. I’m not clear on the details, but some time before I knew her, she had some kind of encephalitis or whatever, that left her with lingering issues: aphasia, a couple of brief bouts of “REALLY not there” that got her in the hospital. She takes medication for this - one of the antiepileptics, though I don’t recall which one. Anyway, she sometimes struggles for words, can be a bit forgetful, and can be a bit clumsy (knocking over drinks and the like). She is a very sweet person.
George is highly educated and quite intelligent (as is Martha) and a good conversationalist - but the times we’ve seen them together he is EXTREMELY intolerant of Martha’s failings and will yell at her for forgetting something or knocking something over. He yells even around other people - well, I don’t know if he yells at home when nobody is around (I assume so), but obviously I’ve seen it happen around us.
Now, he’s had a number of years of dealing with Martha’s foibles and I can understand being tired of them . But, to take the tack of being so NASTY about it… hell, I always assumed that abusers tried to put on a good face when around other people but he sure doesn’t seem to do that - to the point where I wonder if he’s having some mental-decline issue. I do know that one’s social filters often wear thin as one ages. I do NOT believe there is any physical abuse - which is good, as he’s 3 times her size.
No children, and neither has any family anywhere near. So, I don’t know whom to contact if anyone.
The tl/dr story: Aging couple, wife with history of health issues that affect memory/coordination, husband nasty to the point of being verbally abusive about the issues.
I don’t see the wife (“Martha”) away from her husband any more, and I was not aware of this kind of behavior when we were still commuting or I could perhaps have spoken of it before. I don’t believe there is any physical abuse going on.
Any thoughts of what if anything we can do?