Jesus, GROW UP!

The BBQ Pit
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I have this really immature friend (now called Friend E) and I’ve had as much as I could take from her. She is just really immature. She laughs at the stupidest things; she tries way too hard to be seen as a nerd; she supposedly hates pink and preps; she thinks she’s really witty by being sarcastic all the time; she also tries way too hard to be the so-called “rejected one”; she thinks make-up is girly, but thinks goth make-up is cool; she “hates” Hilary Duff and this pisses me off because she doesn’t even KNOW Hilary Duff and SHE’S the one who’s always talking about not passing judgment; she’s always ranting and raving about EVERYTHING AND IT’S SO FRIGGING ANNOYING!!!

So, my friends and I are discussing Anime North. Friend R suggests to Friend J to dress up as some anime character and tells Friend J that she’ll need a pink tanktop. I say that I have one. Friend E looks at me really strangely and says, “You have GOT to be joking. Are you serious? It’s PINK and it’s a TANKTOP.” I just go, “So?” And she replies, “It’s pink.” I just roll my eyes and say, “Grow up.” Then she starts whining and going on and on about how I’m a disgrace because I have a pink tanktop which my aunt gave me and I don’t even wear it unless I wear a t-shirt underneath it. So who the hell cares if it’s pink?! Stop being so immature about pink because it is NOT a girly colour. Wearing pink does NOT make me prissy. Jesus!

Then, after drama class, we’re walking to homeroom and three girls, who are somewhat “preps” (I am very against this labelling thing in high school, but for the sake of this narrative, I’ll have to use these terms.), are walking in front of us. They’re all wearing pink jackets, which I have nothing against. If they like it, then that’s great. But, Friend E is like, “Oh. My God. They’re like this walking pink cotton candy cloud. They’re such a disgrace to humanity.” And she thinks ALL girls who wear make-up at our age are stupid bimbos, but she somehow thinks that goths who wear make-up are cool. Um, hello?! Both “goths” and “preps” wear make-up for aesthetic reasons!! Jesus, there’s no fricking difference!

Friend E is always complaining, too. She’s always saying stuff like, “Oh, my God, I am so hopeless. Oh, my gawd, how much more can I take? Gawd, I hate myself. I hate my life. I hate my parents. My friends are suicidal. Nobody cares about my problems. Nobody wants to help me. How can I help my friends if I can’t help myself? Even you (referring to me) don’t care. And why isn’t God helping me? I don’t know how much more I can take. Nobody cares.” She says this ALL the time. She practically has a public relations manager to broadcast all of her problems!

She’s always hanging around with me like a pathetic little puppy who won’t go away. She’s ALWAYS in my group for group projects unless the teacher assigns the groups and she expects me to do EVERYTHING with her.

OH MY FRICKING GOD!!! JESUS, GROW UP!!!

PS: I’m sorry if I should immature myself, but I really needed to get this off my chest.

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So who is this Hillary Duff? Can I hate her too?

Isn’t there enough drama already? They have to give you more drama?!?!?

Now I have the MAS*H song stuck in my head.

If she bugs you so much, it’s the old heave ho. Just cuz she is crazy doesn’t mean you have to go nuts too.

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Well, you hit the nail on the head. You sound like you’re both pretty young, and she’s lagging behind a little on the maturity. I don’t know what else to tell ya - don’t see her any more than you have to? Tell her right to her face to grow up?

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Oopsy-daisies. That should be, “I’m sorry if I SOUND immature…” And yes, the next time she pisses me off, I’ll tell her loud and clear so she understands: GROW UP. Maybe I’m too mature myself because my other friends tell me I am or she’s just really immature. Or both. But, I swear, it’s just HER who pisses me off. I think it’s alright to be immature sometimes, but she’s just immature ALL the time.

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Well, don’t immature yourself if you will just feel sorry for doing it. Or do you mean that your friend immatures you, and through staying friends you willingly immature yourself further?

If the latter is the case then you have to choose the lesser of two evils; stay friends and be immatured, or lose a friend who could have potentially grew out of being immature with your help.

It would seem that if you just talk to her about these immaturity problems, she would at least make an effort to change for you. Proof being that she readily follows you around and laughs at whatever she thinks to be a joke you guys/gals make (both signs of a person who craves approval, and who would activly change to be able to fit into a group. )

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curses to me and my 30 WPM typing.

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Tell her God won’t help her because she listens to devil music and dresses like a demon. Be sure to mention that you’ll pray for her. Trust me, it’ll work a charm.

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You mentioned that your friend likes to wear goth make-up. Well, correct me if I am wrong, but don’t goths define themselves by complaining about the rest of the world and being depressed all the time? Sounds to me she is just trying to “fit in” with the group she is identifying herself with. It’s a common thing people do, especially teenagers. But if it annoys or bothers you, then probably the best thing for both of you not to hang out anymore.

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Most teenagers are immature. Hell, most of the adults I know are immature.

But, hs and college are times when many people try out different identities and look to see who they really are. That’s probably what’s going on with her. Still, if she annoys you that much, maybe you should stop hanging out with her.

And like most teens, she’s probably insecure, thus the criticism of everyone and everything she deems uncool.

But honestly, Hilary Duff does suck, so she’s right about one thing. :smiley:

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Telling Jesus to grow up makes the baby Jesus cry.

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OK, if thinking this is the funniest thing I’ve read in months is wrong, I really don’t wanna be right.

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And here I thought that Dvorak was supposed to be faster than Qwerty. :wink:

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It is! He must not be doing it right. :dubious:

And Jesus is growed up. It’s not his fault he’s still hanging out at his Dad’s place at age 2005. It’s not like he can just go out and get a job anywhere, Sheesh.

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Yep, sounds like she’s going through that typical phase where she’s trying to be a “non-conformist”… just like all her non-conformist friends.

She’s trying to be different and assert her individuality… dressing up like all her Goth friends that are asserting their individuality…

heh. :wink:

The first thing I thought of when I read your post were the South Park episodes where they introduced the little Goth kids. Hilarious. You’d love them.

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Well, wow. Your friend is high-strung. Like a lot of teenagers.

Maybe there’s something in her life, like her family’s dysfuctional or she’s been abused, that influences her “mad at the world” attitude. Maybe she’s had to take a lot of crap from other kids, and now she’s dishing it out pre-emptively. Maybe she’s sarcastic and gothy because she has a lot of anger in her. Maybe she hates herself far more than you hate her.

And maybe there’s someone who has a whole laundry list of complaints against you.

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If it’s any reassurance, devil, I’ve found that every eighth Torontonian teenager’s like that.

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Reminds me of people who I knew in high school. Their attitude was annoying, but some of them were still nice people. She’s just trying to fit into the popular teen version of goth culture.

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Hopefully, your friend will figure out that being depressed and depressing is not dramatic or interesting. It’s just boring as shit and a great way to guarantee that you’ll end up alone. Even when you’re only 15, it’s a really bad strategy for life.

“Nobody wants to help me”, she says? I’m betting that if there is anything that she needs help with, she would feel duty bound to reject any help offered because it might interfere with her image.

Oy. Your friend is painting herself into a pretty tight corner here. I hope she finds some way out of it.

I doubt it would help your friend, but I have taken to reminding myself not to be a big whining idiot by occasionally perusing pictures of those poor people on the beach in Indonesia wondering why Life (or “God” or “Fate” or “Nature”) decided to dump a great *&&^%$#ing big tidal wave on their village and kill their entire family and leave them weeping in the pile of garbage that used to be their home. Pictures of Israeli bus-bombing victims, Palestinian children killed by cross fire and Iraquis who happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time are instructive, as well.

If you’re not in Phuket, you have no problems, in my book.

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Exactly. Being “depressed” does not make you cool. And her house and family haven’t been destroyed by a giant tsunami that has left her homeless, unemployed and completely alone in the world. Poor souls.

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Sounds like a typical teenager to me. (OK, one kind of typical teenager.) No cause for alarm or concern.

But you really should stop calling her “Friend E”. That’s just mean and impersonal. :slight_smile: