You do know that Pam liked him right from the beginning just about as much as he liked her. If she wasn’t engaged to Roy, the (somewhat one way) flirting thing would have played out much faster.
Also, why is it misogynistic to like a girl, even if she doesn’t like you back. I mean, guys like girls all the time. Would you be saying the same thing (but the opposite) if a girl had a crush on a guy, finally said something, was rejected and then avoided him going forward?
Pam was engaged. I wouldn’t confess any feelings I had towards an engaged woman, unless possibly if my feelings strengthened over several seasons … err … years, and her engagement seemed to be stalled. I’d have to weigh the creepiness factor against a lifetime of feeling regret.
Rejection hurts. It’s not necessarily misogynistic to want some distance from the person who rejected you. If Pam had got married to Ray (Roy?), Jim might have been able to become her friend again in time.
Here’s the clip from when he told her he liked her, the next scene the kissed, she kissed him back.
It should probably be kept in mind that she while she may have been happy at one point with Roy, her feelings for him were fading fast. Whether that had anything to do with Jim showing up in the picture, I don’t know, but IMO, he was rejected simply because she was engaged.
When he asked her out again, she looked pretty happy about it.
I can’t a clip from when Michael told Pam that Jim liked her and Jim and to backpedal and say it was just a crush he had a while ago. I want to see her reaction. Something tells her face wasn’t saying ‘you swine, GFTO’.
To further what Greg said, not only would I not say something to an engaged woman that I liked unless I had really strong feelings…I wouldn’t say anything to her, period. They only way I’d say something is if I knew she was in a situation like Pam’s. The wedding wasn’t happening, kept getting stalled and she was at the point where she was ready to jump ship.
I side with the OP. And I will add that his portrayal of the nice guy deep in friendzone who actually wins the girls is inspiration for a lot of guys stuck in friendzone to think they have a chance to do the same, which in turn will creep out a lot of other girls.
… I don’t know. Remember when they did the Secret Santa, and they had to swap presents because Michael got a crappy one, and Jim had made a somewhat eerie set-up of a teapot with pictures of them inside or something to give Pam, and when Pam wanted the ipod he kept acting whiny and pressuring her to get the teapot?
Jut one step away from being a stalker, in that one.
I don’t think Jim was a creeper at all, just a guy desperately in love but trying really hard not to be. He tried, multiple times, to move on and forget about Pam. He asked out Katy when Pam and Roy made up and made out right next to him on his desk. On Valentine’s Day he got up a party and didn’t let himself mope over her. And the biggest one, obviously…moving away to Stamford once he knew for sure that given all the information, Pam still chose to stay with Roy.
What would have been creepy is if after Pam said no, he had stuck around, trying to convince her. Or just acting all hurt and offended that she had dared to reject his love. She said no, he accepted it, and did what he thought he needed to do to move on with his life. He didn’t try with her again until she had made it perfectly clear that she would welcome his attentions.
Pam’s the one I get mad at, re-watching old episodes again. She, on some level, knew how Jim felt about her and was often cruel in the way she strung him along. And I say that as someone who identifies A LOT with Pam. I sympathize with her, but she carried a lot more blame in the way things played out, IMHO.
The unrealistic part is that because it’s a TV show, we the viewers see both Pam’s and Jim’s points of view. So we, the viewers, KNOW that Pam is interested in, even while conflicted about, Jim’s attentions. That takes the creeper element out of story, pretty much.
In real life? If a person is still pursuing a coworker because he/she claims to KNOW the attention is welcome even though the other person is saying otherwise … well, yes, that’s creepy.