So, an odd question, which is frivolous enough that the mods can move it to MPSIMS if they see fit: Would you judge someone based off of words that they say in their sleep?
(No, this is not meant to be a thread about myself, haha, although I’ve certainly said odd things in my sleep before.) “Judge” isn’t quite the word I’m looking for, but, basically, would your opinion of someone be influenced or changed by something they mumbled while asleep?
So, for instance, you overhear a friend of yours saying things like “Obama is an [N-word]” or other such things while asleep. I would guess that a lot of the debate may center on whether what someone says under such circumstances jibes with how they really feel inside, along with their previous (awake) behavior.
This is like the threads on things people say when they are drunk. How do you know they’re saying things they think or feel or repeating things they heard?
No just like I wouldn’t judge someone who has Tourette’s who was having a verbal tick and saying something horrible, or an old lady with Alzheimer’s who starts saying racist stuff. To me it just isn’t fair to do so, there is so much crap in the average person’s brain, so much media they’ve been exposed to, so many books read, and a lot of it I’m sure is just total awful garbage and they aren’t in control of what is coming out. I think I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt.
I think it depends to a large degree on what they say, specifically. If, for example, a SO starts speaking (unexpectedly) fluently in Japanese, when you never even knew he/she spoke it, you might feel lied to. A lie of omission, yes, but a lie nonetheless.
LOL! I just watched Barney Miller and everyone was in quarantine and Harris was talking in his sleep ! It was funny seeing your thread . My dog talk in his sleep a lot ,I hope he not calling me bad words !
Glad to know I’m not the only one. My wife’s DreamOmar is a bit of a rogue. He’s cheated on her, treats her rudely, isn’t good with the kids, etc. Real Omar, me, has to pay the price. Very confusing.
I had a girlfriend who did this. It wasn’t always easy to gracefully deal with being held responsible for things I had nothing to do with.
After several fraught episodes, I asked her whether I ever did any nice things in her dreams: “Oh yes, sure, that happens a lot. But I expect that from you, so I don’t feel they need to be mentioned. I’m really concerned only with the times you’re a problem.”
Once while the three of us shared a hotel room, my sleeping mother said, “Lieutenant, close the refrigerator!” and sleeping me replied, “Sir, yes, sir!” My awake sister thought it was funnier than hell.
Nah, it’s stupid to be upset by a sleeping person uttering random things produced by the subconscious. I remember my ex-wife being upset with me because I said something about “Joan” in my sleep. When I woke up, she glared at me and said “So who is Joan!?” My response was a confused “Joan who?” It went downhill from there.
