Mom has gone from imminent death to severe but stable, to being moved out of the hospital and into a rehab facility. Obviously, we are thrilled that she has recovered. However, she is basically in denial about having a colostomy bag. She does not check the bag for leaks. She hasn’t memorized the list of foods she can no longer eat. While she seems to be doing work to recover lost muscle and get mobile again, she won’t really admit that she has a colostomy bag.
We have not told Mom that she can no longer live on her own. For years, it seemed like she could. After an entirely preventable crisis requiring life-saving surgery and a respirator, we can no longer trust her to take care of herself. My sister has been trying to get Mom to move into an assisted living facility in Jacksonville for years. Mom doesn’t want to lose her independence and extremely active social life. If we tell Mom that she will never be going back to the condo, she will likely become severely depressed and her recovery will stop.
I thought that it was settled that Mom would be going to assisted living in Jacksonville. My sister said that if I could find a place in Philadelphia that fit our criteria, Mom could go there. Besides the fact that I will be able to see her more often, of the relatives she told us to contact as soon as she was conscious, before she was even off the repsirator, all but one live in the Philadelphia area. Mom also very much wants a Jewish facility. There are none in Jacksonville. I am certain there are a few in Philly. Mom is a big Eagles fan. I’m assuming it is easier to watch all their games on tv in Philly. Mom is also a huge fan of the Mummers. I know from previous years that is vastly easier to watch the Mummers’ Parade in Philly. I need to get some more information on Mom’s insurance and our monthly budget and I will begin looking. I may start a thread asking for help.
Mini Rants
I missed the annual home made pizza gathering of an elderly friend. He loves the Marx Brothers. I got him a two record set of their performances. I was going to give it to him at the party.
My beloved and I were going to attend a free Beltane event with a local pagan group.
The same group had a twilight tour through a cemetery. I missed that too.
Today was the West Philly Yard Sale. A bunch of people in the area just selling stuff. I could have gotten furniture I need for a very low price. I could have found more stuff to give to friends. It seems likely that I would have found a bunch of great stuff for very little money.
In other news, I accidentally destroyed my Xfinity router a few months ago. They offered to send a new one at no charge. They said it would take three to five business days. I cannot do my job without internet. They said there were no Xfinity stores in my area.I asked how far the closest one was. They gave me the address and hours and I told them I would pick up a router that day.
It only took about half an hour to get there. I got a brand new router and installed it easily. Later that week, a box from Xfinity showed up. I didn’t know if I would be charged for this router they sent by mistake, or if they wanted it back immediately. I tried calling them. Everytime I answered questions truthfully, I got a dead end. If I lied about why I was calling, I got a different dead end. I could not find a menu option that fit. I could not find a way to talk to a human being. I tried the website. It was no help either.
This past week, Xfinity sent me my monthly e-mail with my bill. If I do not return a router (I’m assuming that it’s the one in the unopened box. It could be the one that I have been using. I need to check the serial number to be sure.) by June twentieth, I will be charged for it. Also, on Xfinity Internet Essentials my monthly fee should be $14.95. My bill this month is $45.71. Normally, I would check to be sure which router need to return and head to the nearest Xfinity store. I am still in Florida. If there is way to get a human being on the phone to discuss this problem, I haven’t found it. If there is a way to solve this problem on the website, I haven’t found it.
I am briefly flying back to Philly for my beloved’s birthday. I may or may not have time to fix this and a few other problems while I am there. I would definitely have time except that we will be staying in a hotel in a beach town for at least two days.