My girlfriend and I broke up about 8 months after she moved in with me. She moved away and promptly got into another serious relationship. I kept myself cheery by hanging out with my friends whom she hated and by making messes and painting rooms in my house colors I knew she’d hate.
Also, it helped thinking about what an awful person she was, lingering on all the bad times we had and completely ignoring the good. A healthy amount of beer and buffalo wings also help mend the wounds.
Try to enjoy being single. It’s a sad but true fact that more people will be interested in you if you’re not looking for anyone.
Tell yourself all the horrible things she did… when you start to long for her, your appropriate response is “remember that time she did X? forget that bitch”
Dogpile on Turk for using the word bitch in
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Listen to Sparklehorse’s Apple Bed on a continuous loop… fall into the double helical, downward spiral and mine its singularity–pass into its black bile and purify yourself. Get it out of your system and be generous to yourself. Hold onto what is useful, but forgive.
I once quit my job, sold my house, and lived in my truck/friends houses/South American hostels for six months. It wasn’t necessarily all a response to getting dumped, but I wouldn’t have done it if she’d stayed with me. Thanks Kathleen, if you ever read this - I wouldn’t trade that time for anything in the world.
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Kind of a shock to see my ex-GF’s name there, though it’s hardly an uncommon name… (Is she by any chance from a mid-western state and gone to an Ivy League college and a grad school in UK?)
And sorry to hear what happened, Vagus. I know how you feel.