Okay now this is just sad. This is his response to my apology:
I mean, WTF? I hadn’t blocked him yet because I wanted to give him a chance to respond in a sane manner, but he’s totally blocked now. He won’t be hearing from me again. What a loser.
Those other kids had good instincts.
I’m thinking that if this guy was still bitter about that experience 15 years later, it signifies to me that he probably hasn’t done much living in those past 15 years.
I know, right? I mean, if that’s the most humiliating thing that’s ever happened to him, he should count himself very, very lucky.
Being “hurt” isn’t an excuse to stalk someone. And the number one rule with stalkers is that you do NOT address them. It only encourages them.
If that “hurts him”, so be it. She doesn’t owe this guy jack. Compassion doesn’t factor into it at all.
Lawd, if there was any doubt about this guy’s status as an imbalanced nutjob, those doubts have now been dispelled.
Yikes. Yeah, dude, it won’t come up again.
Yep, “crazy with all the warning bells and lights.” I do hope this is the last you hear from him.
Time to block him. Keep the notes he sent (and your response), just in case. And consider letting one of those old friends know if he starts trying to escalate this - and your first response to that should probably be telling him to never contact you again. That is fucking weird.
I was hoping it was a night of drunkenness and maudlin feelings, surfing Facebook, seeing your picture, and old shame comes to the surface and he drunk-messages you. Nope.
Warning him never to contact you again is engaging him. Block him and don’t respond to anything he says in any way, not even to tell him to get lost.
Wow, that guy is crazy bananas.
My hunch is that he thinks he has a shot at guilting you into giving him another go. Maybe he regrets not going further with you the first time and that maybe he can manipulate you into giving it up this time.
Good job with blocking him, absolutely the correct decision.
The only thing I will add is - good for you, OP! You never need to feel guilty again. Your instincts were totally on the ball. You apologized and tried to be an adult; he is mentally forever fifteen, you cannot help him. Consider that you dodged a bullet.
And the crazy keeps on coming…
I just now logged back onto Facebook to officially block him (my son woke up from his nap so I was pulled away before I could do it before) and saw there was another message from him. Couldn’t resist the temptation and read it. This guy is nuts.
I have no recollection of the the incident he describes. That pool hall is long gone, and I think I went there maybe once or twice in my life. It only existed for a few years, so I can narrow down the timeline, and if it even happened, the guy I was kissing “at him” was almost certainly the guy who is now my husband. It’s just scary to me that he remembers all these little details about me from *years *ago when I can barely remember what he looks like, and the ins-and-outs of our non-incident back in college are hazy to me, but he seems to remember every conversation word for word.
And he has to know I’m married…my profile pic is a picture of me, my husband and our little girl.
He’s officially blocked now, btw, I swear.
On preview: Thanks, Anaamika!
Yeah, scary crazy.
It sounds like perhaps his “Brothers” were not exactly nice about it. He may be attributing to you the humiliation they inflicted. Guys can be super horrid once they find a weak spot, or a weak member.
I’d send him one more note ebfore blocking, just to say “Hey, all I did was kiss you, and then I wasn’t interested. Whatever these guys did I’m not taking responsibility for. Good luck to you, I’m going to block you now because I don’t think there’s anythign to be gained from further communication.”
IOW, don’t just disappear again, make it clear why, that you ahve apologized all you are going to , and that you are not interested in communicating with him any further. Make it very, very clear.
ETA: This was written before I saw your update. Eeesh! ! !
Ugh! Hopefully that will be the last you’ll hear from him.
No, no more contact with this guy, for any reason.
Well, it only took 30 minutes for my hopes to be shattered. 
Let’s try this again. OK, now I really do hope this is the last you hear from him.
(Personally, if I were your husband, this is something I’d want to know about, but if this does appear to be the end of it, you might be fine just leaving well enough alone.)
Oh, my husband was the first person I told about it. He, along with everybody else thinks this guy is a weirdo, but he’s not the type of man to get all angry and territorial about it. He knows I can handle it, but he’ll step in if I ask him to. I doubt it will be necessary.
As long as he is aware. I didn’t mean it in any Alpha Male sort of way; just a matter of being informed, in case the situation doesn’t go away.
Yeah, I defintely know what you mean. I told my parents, too, so if he calls them again looking for me they can tell him I’ve moved to China or something. 