Here’s the quick background:
Last October, my fiance’s brother was kicked out of his home by his whore wife. He lived with us until some time in November. Then, he moved in with his parents. Then, in January, he moved back in with us. He left 3 weeks ago for job training. He was supposed to be gone for 6 weeks. I had gotten used to the knowledge that after his training was done, he’d be with for 3 days out of every 3 weeks. I can handle that.
Now, he’s coming back 3 weeks early. He doesn’t know how long it will take to get a truck (he’s a CDL driver) so we don’t know how long we have to put up with him until he leaves again.
To make matters worse, I went to the doctor yesterday because my reflux has been VERY bad lately. He put me back on the drug that works and told me that I need surgery. After the surgery, my reflux problems should be gone. YAY! I took my pill yesterday and for the first time in 6 months, I had a good night sleep with no nightmares and no heartburn. I’ve been so happy all day. I’m well rested and just generally in good spirits. Well, I was. Now I feel like complete and total FUCKING SHIT!
Also I quit smoking on Wednesday. I was doing really well. I haven’t wanted a butt yet. After hearing that the brother was coming back, I bummed one from a co-worker. I don’t know how I’ll make it through the weekend with him without smoking.
I hate him. I’ve always hated him. We have totally opposite personalities. He pisses me off without even saying anything. Just the sight of him makes me ill. To make matters worse, HE LIKES ME! He always talks to me
For the first 4 months after he came to live with us, I went to my room right after work and I stayed there all night.
I am ok with him spending his 3 days every 3 months with us. There’s no point in him getting an apartment if he’s only home 3 days a month. His parents really don’t have room for him. Their house is slightly bigger than ours but it has more people in it. I’m pissed off because I’m finally getting better medically and mentally and now he’s coming back 3 weeks early. I wasn’t prepared for this. I had planned on spending my weekend relaxing and cleaning. Now, that plan is shot to shit.
Their sister told me the other day that she wants to get her own apartment (she lives with her parents). That would be great because then he could have a room there. But, until she does move, we’re stuck with him.
The next time we buy a house, I’m insisting on a one bedroom.
Because there’s nowhere else for him to go. We are the only ones in the family who don’t have either children or disabled adults living with us. Not to mention the fact that we actually do have the room for him. None of us think it makes sense for him to spend money on an apartment he’ll only be in for a few days a month. There are more important things for him to spend his money on. So, this means he gets to stay with us.
To give him some credit, he has changed a lot since he first moved in. He’s much more tolerable now than he was then. You’d think that after 6 years in foster care, I’d be used to living with undesirable people by now. Also, it is only going to be for a short time. He really does have a job, with a real company. They just don’t have a truck available at the moment.
The strange thing is that when someone else in his family tells him something, he ignores them. When I tell him, he listens. More than one person has said that he’s doing better because I don’t take any shit from him and everyone else does. If his becoming a better person has to do with the fact that I don’t put up with his crap, I can put up with him for now.
I was just taken by surprise. I didn’t think he’d be back this soon. I’ll get over my temper tantrum by Sunday.
One really good thing about him living with us - I look forward to going to work
I’ve found that writing down a person’s annoying personality traits diminishes their importance, somehow. I guess because once you write them all down, you’re left with the “goodness” of the person and you can focus on that.
Well, let me try and cheer you up a bit. I have a couple of buddies who just went through CDL training program that then helps you lease your own rig (I assume this is what yuor brother did, was it in Nebraska?). They both came home early too as they were both former truckers, who had let thir licences lapse. Three days later they were on the road.
Poor congodwarf.
You can come hide in my closet anytime.
I used to live with my exboyfriends family. I couldn’t stand his uncle or brother…or mother…any of them I guess. :dubious:
We’d get in from work and go straight to the bedroom when they were home. I wasn’t even lucky enough to get a break from them as they were on house arrest. :rolleyes:
congodwarf, maybe you can look on this as Purgatory done early? :rolleyes:
Seriously, if it’s affecting your health that badly, you should be able to put your foot down. There is nothing immoral in insisting that your own needs have equal weight with others needs.
Anyway, Thanks for all the support guys.
I don’t know what happened to him in Pennsylvania but he hasn’t annoyed me all week. He’s been helpful around the house, he bought us dinner twice and he hasn’t installed any viruses on the computer. Yesterday, he even bought us each our own pint of Ben and Jerry’s
If he stays like this, I’ll have no problem dealing with him for the 3 days he’s home every 3 weeks.
The only thing he’s done that I don’t approve of is that he hasn’t seen his kids yet. He’s been back for almost a week now. He is so mad at his wife that he wont even go over to the apartment to pick up his kids.
But, he’s leaving again on Sunday. He’s going to be driving with a trainer so I think he may be gone for more than 3 weeks. He would have been gone earlier in the week but he didn’t have proof that he had paid a ticket. Once he got proof, he got his leaving date.
Also, I’ve come to realize that my mental and physical problems aren’t all from him being here. I’ve stayed too long at a job I hate so I’ve decided to leave. I’m actually feeling better already. I even left at 1:00 today and I’m taking Monday and Tuesday off so I can look for a new job.
DrDeth - I’m feeling really guilty right now because I’m not doing so great on the quitting. I’ve only bought one pack since Sunday but I’ve had at least 4 a day since then.
One more small thing to keep you off- you’ll also disappoint us .