Just why the hell are people so damn sexual?

I took a Family Law course some years ago; the instructor–who,I regret to say, is no longer living–:frowning: told us that it is quite common for a man and a woman to engage in sexual acts, willingly, and still have no friendly feelings toward each other. I snapped, “That’s their tough luck!”
Well, a lot I know.
Anyway, I think having very positive feelings toward each other would be absolutely essential before a man and woman start screwing.
In the cartoons in Sex to Sexty, one cartoonist, Bob “Bocca” Stogsdill, even depicted some children having feelings of unquenchable sexuality, depicted by bizarre body postures and cartoon markings around the head: “plewds” (drops of water indicating exertion or emotion) to the side of the face, and a single “waftarom” (wiggly line) above the head.
It seems to me sexuality is hard-wired into humans,as into just about all other creatures in the animal kingdom…

Dale,

  1. Compare “emotional, I’m in love” sex and “it’s time for F*CKING!!!” sex with a $80 medium-rare 18 ounce steak (we’ll assume the age old consumer opinion and marketer’ tool that more expensive = better quality, for this example) and the McDonald’s Value Meal.

They’re both good aren’t they. That steak is going to smell just right, it’ll melt in your mouth, put a smile on your face and have you stroking your stomach in ecstasy all night long. The McDonald’s hamburger on the other hand doesn’t smell right from the beginning, it’ll give you heart burn, it’ll make you stink for the rest of the day, and you’ll swear to never eat that sh*t again.

Most people end up eating at McDonald’s. Just mull that over in your noggin a bit.

  1. An addition to the post about the primates from someone… there is one type of primate out there that has sex all the time, they have homosexual sex when two males fight, they have sex when they’re happy, sex when they’re sad, sex when they’re frightened, sex in a bag, sex with their green eggs and ham. Which, Dale, might help you better understand the term “make love not war.”

  2. And lastly, I’ve been on the internet for a decade now, a full 10 years, and I’ve been using the www for about 8 years. Not once in all that time, have I come across any porn of people eating shit (referred to as “scatting” I believe) or mounting an animal, or masturbating with vegetables UNLESS those pictures were directly sent to me by someone who thought I might enjoy them. And believe you me, in all that time I have been on the web, I have actively been searching for, masturbating to, viewing, appreciating, editing, analyzing and collecting porn. I probably have logged more porn hours in the internet than you will ever attempt to fathom, I have invented so many techniques for optimizing the downloading capabilities of a 2400, 14.4K, 56K and even cable modem then you would like to see a crazed multi-tasking demon discover. And I repeat, I have never “accidentally” come upon anything “worse” than sodomy or bondage (except for the time we were competing to see who could find the sickest pics on the internet).

Which leads me to believe that you my friend are a little more wacky than you seem. Fooling people with your mock innocence, shame shame. Please, stay in the house, I don’t want you eating people in the streets.

ham- ham- hambondt!

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*Originally posted by minty green *
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I’ll put this one to rest right away. My pastor may be pleased with my sexual innocence, but he will frown upon my software kleptomania. I have spent several hours looking for free full version software online. Just to a search for “warez” and you’ll find a whole kingdom of free software (well hidden in a maze of links), this is also the target audience for porn pop-ups.

I’m guessing that marketing research must indicate that those who “pirate” free software must also have an affinity for extreme sexuality ranging from beastiality to people considering human waste a culinary delight.

By the way, I do realize that I’ve just provided a new gateway for all you pervs out there. You’re welcome.

You’re trying to illegally obtain software and complaining that you get sexual pop-ups in the process? Okay then…

I think we have been missing the point.

Perhaps a more acurate thread would have been ‘why is the media fulla sex’ i mean, 10, 15 years ago would you have expected ‘sex in the city’.

Something has changed, what ?

OMG, you’re right, Dale! I put “warez” into google and the fifth thing on the list was this bestiality site. Clearly, the woman has an unhealthy relationship with her ferrets.

[sub]Disclaimer: No actual ferrets were touched in a bad way in the making of that site.

I can’t believe I clicked on your link, minty. In that third photo, the ferret’s cat costume is frighteningly realistic. Kathy is a real sicko.

Yeah – and those newborn baby ferrets in the first panel! My God! Bestiality wasn’t enough for this woman, she’s gotta try to get the Kiddie Porn angle in too?!

And don’t forget Bud the Stud Muffin, the king of ferret porn.

Yeah, I had a feeling Dale had a yen for Warez. That’s where you’ll get assaulted by the porn pop-ups! [sub](Why do I know this? Don’t ask. Move along, move along… I never use Warez - not me!)[/sub]

I think I kinda understand where Dale is coming from - sex is good, but some people maybe are too excessive for her (? Are you a he or a she?) tastes.

I mean, when you hear people bragging about cheating on their wives, or engaging in “risky” behavior, throwing their common sense out the window “cuz they just gotta have it”… (As in “so damned” sexual.) I can’t speak for Dale - but is this part of what is irritating or troubling you?

Mmmmm…yes, but you do want to get your free toaster oven, don’t you? :smiley:

I’ll second tracer on this one…

I just had a thought.

Dale the Bold, have you ever … um … (gee, how do I phrase this delicately? Aw, the heck with it) … have you ever had an orgasm?

Dale, I’m trying to follow your thought here, but jeez, you’re all over the place. The progression so far has been like this:

1. Sex is gross.
2. People should respect both celibacy and the bounds of holy matrimony.
3. Boy, those pop-up windows on the software piracy sites really chap my hide.

I’ve written those thoughts down on index cards and tried rearranging them in varying orders, but I’m not really clear on exactly what you’re trying to say. It seems like three different topics, rather than the development of a single issue.

If you think that some sexual practices of a small percentage of the population are pretty disgusting, I’ll agree; perhaps I’m narrow-minded, but coprophagia isn’t something I want to see either.

If you think that sex should only take place between a married couple, then we will have to agree to disagree and respect the other’s right to conduct our personal lives as we see fit.

If you don’t like seeing porn, you should get something along the lines of Net Nanny to avoid nasty surprises. It might keep you out of the piracy sites, but that’s the risk you take.

If you do indeed think that these three things are related, could you take a stab at making the relationships a little clearer?

I know why I am this damn sexual----I’m healthy, hormonally balanced, emotionally fit and in a monogamous relationship where I am in love and in lust. Maybe it’s a happy chemical accident that my man’s skin projects phermones I detect or maybe it’s the way he listens and responds to me. I wasn’t always this way----I was a 19 year old virgin with my ex-husband and it didn’t take long to discover things were’nt okay. I had almost no previous experience with men at all but being a smart girl with a library card, I discovered this wasn’t what I wanted. Sex as duty, sex as an obligation isn’t a good way to have sex. Just being married and faithful doesn’t make good sex. Feeling cherished, feeling desireable, feeling there is no wrong way to touch each other makes for good sex. I need to feel safe and special to enjoy sex. And I really really enjoy it because of all the millions of neuro-receptors I can focus on when I feel secure and loved. Human skin responds to tactile stimulation. Some humans like male touches, some humans like female touches, some humans like both.