I’m in my 20s and never had sex but hoping to one day. My question is, is it as mind shattering as some people claim? I’ve always heard the sex is food analogy. When you have it, it’s very good but okay. When you don’t have it, it occupies your entire world.
It’s a big part of the human experience. It’s wonderful, and with the right person, more than wonderful.
Learn to date, the sex will come later.
The proper analogy is sex is like pizza. When it’s good it’s great. When it’s bad it’s still pretty good.
I’ll be here all week, tip your wait staff.
Depends to some extent on gender. Have you heard of terms like “post-nut clarity,” or “Before orgasm, a man isn’t thinking clearly, but after orgasm he is, but a woman thinks clearly before orgasm and unclearly after it?” The food analogy is apt; you have a strong hunger for it before it happens, but afterwards it wasn’t all that.
@aaronhernandez, is your brother actually you? No problem if he is, we can be here as a sounding board.
Like I wrote in the other thread, I have a 15 year old on the spectrum, make no judgement, and maybe can even assist in a small way…
Is sex worth what?
45 dollars? That’s what the spam mail I get offers for it…
Speaking from my personal POV, I’ll go out on a limb here and say that sex really isn’t that big of a deal. Like, movies and TV will make any (male) virgin think that sex is this mindblowing amazing thing, but after a guy has it the first time he’ll be just as likely to have a “that’s it?” reaction to it.
By all means go ahead and pursue it (safely!), but do not buy into the hype of it being this life changing experience.
I get that I may be in the minority on this view, though, so ymmv.
It’s worth it with my husband. But he’s taken; please find your own.
“Sex without love is an empty experience, but, as empty experiences go, it’s one of the best.” 
But sex with someone you care about, and who cares about you, is worth it.
It really does depend on what you are trying to achieve. While sexual reproduction does lead to genetic diversity in complex organisms that reproduce slowly, one can imagine other forms of genetic recombination, as well as mixed strategies involving both sexual and asexual reproduction. The worth of sex needs to be demonstrated in the context of complex evolutionary models, and certainly some research has been devoted to this question.
You know, a thing I remember with love about my first girlfriend, is lying naked together.
The actual sex was just a fun thing we could do together, like homework or eating.
I always thought it was like pizza in that it is just as good in the morning, cold.
Mind-shattering? Um, still waiting for that experience and likely, given my age, not going to happen. Orgasm feels good. Some are better than others. Being with the right person helps, whether its just being with someone who knows how to create pleasure with you, or all the warm fuzzies of being in love and doing something that feels really good for both of you.
It can also be pretty disappointing. Being on the receiving end of someone just seeking their own moment with little regard for their partner’s pleasure is not worth it. Not everyone is a skilled lover, but that can come with getting to know your partner. There are guys that don’t even try.
WTF does this have to do with the OP’s question?
It was not meant completely facetiously: it is a legitimate question whether the machinery of sexual reproduction is “worth it” for natural selection. I realize I have not addressed whether sex is “as mind shattering as some people claim”, but that is easy to answer: it absolutely can be, or it can be meh, why even bother; it’s entirely up to you and your mental+physical framework for it.
Girls-in-glasses porn is a thing.
One important thing: if sex is not satisfying, that is definitely not something you simply have to accept. Ask Dr Ruth.
Sex doesn’t deserve the pedestal that many people put it on.
- It’s not the super-important thing you have to “save” for your “one and only”.
- It’s not a filthy dirty sinful act that must be avoided.
- It’s not the mind blowing experience you’ve been waiting for your whole life.
It’s an enjoyable activity that you can share with someone you love, or someone you like. It’s an activity where you can give pleasure and receive pleasure. It’s a way to bond with someone you want a lasting relationship with, or a way to pass the time that’s more fun and interactive than watching Netflix.
Did the OP have urges as an adolescent? Constant erections? Need to masturbate? Need to masturbate multiple times a day? If so, did it ever occur to you that it might be fun to share the experience with another person; girl or boy?
Now, perhaps you never had such urges, and that’s OK. That happens for some people and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s just that for most people (most mammals, really) the urges are quite strong and hard to ignore.