Kicking myself......

Damn it! I am such an idiot. I normally only read and post from work, but I just feel the need to share this now. I don’t think this has a point, and it definitely qualifies as stuff, so I might as well post it here. And I might just develope a point along the way.

I just got back from the grocery store and may have missed a chance. I was walking down the cereal isle and spotted this girl coming up the opposite way. I don’t normally go for blondes, but there was something about this one that just seemed unbelievably attractive. We kind of eyed each other for a second, then broke off and kept walking. For those of you who have read some of my other posts, you know I have trouble just walking up to strange people like that. That, and I’ve been single for like 5 months now and it’s starting to weigh on me a little. So, I get all of my things and step into line. I’m standing there for a few minutes, then notice that she’s just stepped into line right behind me. There was a slightly faster line, but I’m not sure if she realized that or not. I turn around and smile a little and she smiled back. That was it. I froze up. I couldn’t think of anything to say. And I’m not talking about coming up with a pickup line or anything. I couldn’t even blurt out a hi or anything. I had total brain lock. Instinct propelled me through the lane, pulled out my check card, entered my PIN, and grabbed my groceries. He was also kind enough to walk them out to the car for me before I figured out just exactly what I did(or hadn’t done). Why didn’t I say anything?!

So. Did I miss a chance, or do you think she would have said something if there was a chance? I don’t know. This sucks, and I can’t quit thinking about it. Maybe writing it down like this will help me get some sleep, but I don’t know. This is just one more blown opportunity for me. God knows there have been others. This happen to anybody else recently?

No, you didn’t stuff it up. You played it cool. She either thinks you’re confident enough to not need to speak or that you’re mot interested (or that you’re a mute - sorry I’ll tyr and remain serious).

Seriously, don’t worry about it. Next time you see her you can casually say hi. If possible make a joke about the shopping last time. If nothing comes to mind just keep it brief. Move slowly but APPEAR confident. It doesn’t matter what’s going through your mind - just what she sees.

If I was cynical I’d suggest that the perfect play is to talk to her briefly so you maintain the right level of seeming indifference/half interest.

I would like to know-

When is it going to be okay to just be people who connect, instead of being “cool” or something? Who should want to be “cool,” anyway? Isn’t warm or hot better?

I am so tired of all this crap. ('scuse the bad language)

Scotti

By the way, Aglarond-

You are not an idiot, you are a real person with fears and phobias and concerns about your potential failures, just like the rest of us.

Do you really think that the “heavy weights” on this board are not moving through life with the same icky moments that the rest of us are dealing with?

Do you really think that Donald Trump and Oprah Winfrey are as happy and free as the clouds in the sky?

Sorry, my friend, you are wrong if you think that.

Life is not easy, it is not always kind, sometimes it stinks. This is true for everyone, and if you think the “beautiful people” in any walk of life are doing any better than you are, I have to say that I believe you are wrong.

We get up in the morning, and if we are working to make the world a better place, we move on into our lives and jobs and we try to make the world a better place. We accept the fact that not everyone is there with us, but we sort of “keep on keeping on”.

Boy, I did a hijack here, and I didn’t mean to do it.

But, I just don’t want you to think that you are alone in the world.

You are SO not alone, babe-

You WILL be yourself, and you WILL find a marvelous woman who will appreciate YOU. Who you are, what you believe, how you embrace life.

Scotti has spoken!