I’ve been talking to sandyr, and she’s really depressed. I don’t think she’s quite to the point where she’s in danger of hurting herself. But still, some kind words and a little support would be most helpful.
sandyr, anybody who loves Brittanies (or Brittany Spaniels ;)) is all right by me…hope things turn around for you double-quick.
Sandyr, hang in there…whatever it is will get better, I just know it! {{{{sandyr}}}}
Ok sandyr, I think you should come on in and let loose. Tell everyone your problems, you’ll feel better. And you could definitely use it.
C’mon, don’t leave me hanging here looking like a doofus.
Share with us. We might actually be able to help.
{{{{{{sandyr}}}}}}}
Sometimes it’s hard to see an end to tough times. But they do end, and talking about them helps.
Everything’s going to be O.K.
sandyr, I’ve been there myself. The only thing I can offer is that it will get better. I know it sounds trite, but trust me, it’s true. Ten years ago I never would have believed that I could ever feel “normal” much less happy.
If you want to share, please do. If you don’t feel comfortable sharing on this board, feel free to e-mail or IM me, it’s in my profile. Even if you don’t want to get into the details and want to talk to somebody who has been there.
Please be good to yourself, there’s a lot of people who care about you.
—Tracy
I’m in a pretty crappy situation myself, but I’ve seen worse and I know it will get better.
I nearly committed suicide on 3 occasions.
Each time, I backed out because I figured “What the Hell? I don’t walk out of a bad movie…I just gotta see what happens next.”
P.S. I love you and there’s not a damn thing you can do about it.
Sandyr, all I can do is to repeat what others have said. Don’t give up the ship.
I also want to add that there are many kind souls here, including the individuals that have previously replied. I can speak firsthand on what a class act Tatertot is, to name one. (I’m friends with her off the boards)
{{{sandyr}}}
Even though I don’t really know you, I agree with all the others. If it’s something in particular that’s getting you down, please share if you’re comfortable. There’s a pretty good chance that someone here has been in a similar situation & has advice and insight to offer. It seems we’re all here to listen. I of all people obviously don’t know all life’s answers, but when I’m upset, just talking to people and getting it all off my chest usually makes me feel better & it probably will for you, too.
And if you dont want to share (which is perfectly understandable), I offer best wishes for you to get through this as quickly and easily as possible!
Hi sandyr!
I’m new here on the board,
but I just wanted to say hang in there,
it’s awfull when you’re down and you can’t
see anything good, I’ve been there.
And I camed out of it,
so You can do it too.
A good thing is to talk about it,
you might find someone who feels the same
or have been in the same situation as you
and you can feel your not alone.
I hope you have someone there for you.
Take care
My best wishes
((((kram))))))
Anniz
sandyr–you look so cheerful in the Minneapolis Doper pictures! I hate to think anything is taking that smile away. I don’t know what’s going on in your life but I am sending tons of positive thoughts your way! Hey, read my sig line–isn’t it funny?
sandyr, I do believe this is the first time we’ve met. I’m Audrey. I’m sorry to hear you’re down. If there’s something on your mind that a good ear would benefit from, please consider it. As DRY said, we’ve got some wonderful listeners here. Take care of yourself. We’ll all be here if you need anything.
{{{{{{{sandyr}}}}}}
Keep your chin up hon, things will get better.
Thanks much to all. Including Freak, who shouldn’t have started this damn thread in the first place.
I’ve made a 3 p.m. appointment with a professional head shrinker (nice bennies go along with my shit job) so I’ll see what happens.
I don’t want to get into it here. When I type it out into English, or even say what’s bothering me aloud to myself, it all sounds so trivially inane. Unfortunately, this trivially inane stuff is making me bawl about an hour a night, and last night I found myself researching the safety statistics of my 13-year-old car, so I figured it was time to take care of myself rather than hoping time would make it all go away.
::hoping for some nice powerful head drugs::
Sandyr, been there…
As Tatertot said, things will get better. In my experience, things will always get different, count on it. I too couldn’t have imagined 10 years ago where I am today. If I had made a list of the things I wanted to do or have, I would have really ripped myself off.
I find that, no matter how trivial or pointless something may seem when I say it out loud, if it’s taking up rent-free space in my head, it’s important & I need to deal with it. The more I talk about it, the smaller it becomes. Head shrinkers can be good for this, or simply talking with someone who has had similar experiences or feelings.
I wish you nothing but the best, feel free to email if you need a nonjudgemental ear or soft shoulder.
{{{sandyr}}}
It’s not trival if it’s upsetting you. I know this from experience. (You ever seen some of my pointless rants around here?!?) Hopefully talking it out with a therapist will help, but if not, we are ALL here for you. Email me if you want a supportive shoulder, hon.
Sandyr, here is my advice on cheering yourself up - walk around bare footed on shag carpeting in the dark. I swear after about 10 minutes, your worries and troubles will melt away. Guaranteed. Plus if it helps, I have some chocolate I can share with you…
Sandyr
When disaster strikes it’s amazing what inner strength can be found but it’s the myriad mundane inanities of life that squeeze the zest out of a person.
Things may appear trivial on paper, just like when you try to explain an argument second hand to someone but, it is plenty real enough.
Oftentimes there isn’t a reason at all for the blues but that is no comfort.
The true comfort is in your friends - don’t forget about us.
Sandyr, I really enjoyed meeting you at the Minneapolis Doper fest, and I’m sorry to hear you are hurting.
I really hope things get better for you soon.