Only sometimes, and nothing too bad. My cervix is tipped, so in certain positions it will always get hit and that is a sharp pain (for me). Also if frequency has been down, going for longer or more often means I’m just a bit sore at the opening of my vadge the next day. No biggie though. I would describe it more as discomfort than ‘hurting’.
Almost never hurts.
It’ll be briefly uncomfortable if I am completely unlubricated (if I just woke up or something) and if I’ve been going at it several times a day, my labia will start feeling a bit banged up from the pounding.
I can’t imagine sharp pains.
My tired eyes read this as ‘sharp penis’.
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I generally fall between the two most of the time options. It has been this way with everyone (except my first, oddly enough - he was so small I barely felt anything). I’ve gotten used to it and it’s unfortunate but there’s not much I can do about it. My GYN says there’s nothing wrong with me that would make it hurt.
I’m not even trying to be a jerk, I promise: but I once saw a documentary about women who had literally no physical thing that should have made sex painful, but it hurt them. What ended up happening is that the women went to sex therapists, who through counseling and exercises made it so the women could painlessly have sex.
Wow, that sounds like a set up for a really shitty porno.
Anyway, seriously though: if it’s genuinely painful, I’d consider seeing a doctor who specializes in sex. There are all kinds of psychological factors that could be contributing to your sex pains. Might be worth a shot.
The only time I have an issue is with a well-endowed partner and then only if he’s a bit too enthusiastic right away. My cervix needs some time to move upwards, so some slow, deep penetrations that push on it in the beginning help a lot, and from there pretty much anything goes.
Also, lube should be required in the bedside drawer.
Not during but…
It’s not uncommon for me to have deep cramps after an orgasm, especially if I’m getting busy with Mr. Hitachi, and especially during the 2nd half of my cycle. The closer I am to my period, the more likely it is, and the worse the cramps are.
They used to be so bad sometimes that I would curl up into a ball and couldn’t move for like 15 minutes. That hasn’t happened since I got a fibroidectomy a few months ago, though.
And again, they weren’t related to PIV sex per se, but to orgasm - it’s like the natural uterine contractions got turned up to 11, and went demonic.
I do tend to have a cervix that bleeds easily, but it doesn’t hurt, just causes a bit of spotting after sex or sometimes makes the fella think I’ve started my period when I haven’t.
I appreciate the advice. It’s not that big a deal. It used to be. I found a simple way to deal with it actually. If I take control (which he doesn’t mind) I can control everything so if something hurts, I make adjustments until it’s better. That way, it doesn’t have to kill the mood and he doesn’t feel like he’s hurting me. It can sometimes be hard to find a position that doesn’t hurt and if that happens, we finish with oral and everyone’s happy.
I’m going to chime in as one of the “only when I want it to hurt” folks. Different positions bring different sensations, most of them pleasant and occasionally some of them “not so much”, but never painful.
The most paid I experience is from my back or hip cramping or from being tossed off the bed into the wall and then being stuck between the bed and wall, was funny, but also moderately painful!
No, unless… I sometimes get low-level yeast infections where literally the only symptom is painful sex. It was very un-fun until I figured that out. Now times are much better.
A few times last year it did and I went to my obgyn right away and everything was normal. It was just a wrong angle or something. We switched positions and it was fine. Otherwise, sex has never been painful for me. We both love foreplay and lubrication is never a problem. I was one of those people who never orgasmed during penetration but pregnancy has changed that and I am praying it doesn’t go away after the baby is out.
No, it usually doesn’t for me. When one isn’t excited enough and or lubricated I guess certain positions can hurt… or if it goes on for so long that you start feeling “raw” then it could also feel uncomfortable. With anal sex, lubrication is especially important. When properly relaxed and lubricated it can be a lot of fun Also, an especially large penis can feel uncomfortable, but not necessarily painful. I am one of those gals who strongly believes that quantity is not the answer to better sex. It has so much more to do with technique than size.
Certain types of birth control can interfere with your body’s natural production of lube. Also certain types of penises can as well. Some guys have more of a ‘scoop’ on their dicks (meant for removing sperm of rivals), which means they’ll pull out your lube as well. Even without these issues, it’s a good idea to have a nice supply of lube. With plenty of lube, there shouldn’t be a need for healing, unless the pain is on purpose or you have a medical condition.
Sometimes the pain I have during sex is muscle pain. For example, my legs get exceptionally fatigued to the point of distracting pain if I’m doing doggy style. I’ve got a solution, though, which I figured I’d toss into this thread in case it helped anyone else. That’s the Liberator Ramp. It’s a triangular foam pillow with a removable, washable cover. It can be used in a number of positions (some of which help my husband not have leg pain, too). Google it–I think any link I’d be able to provide would violate the 2-click rule. The combination of the Ramp and the Wedge makes many, many positions much more comfortable and sustainable. Just an FYI in case anyone else out there experiences position-related muscle or joint pain. It really can help a lot.
Its not painful unless my cervix gets bumped without adequate foreplay. However, stubble on the scrotum caused “rug burns” that took 3 days to heal…ouch!