Ladies, how do you like your men? short and fit (or) tall and overweight?

Alright, so out with it already.

I like 'em smart, kind and with a good sense of humor. The package those traits come in doesn’t really matter to me. I’m no supermodel myself.

Tall and _____. I have a thing about height, I like my men at least 5-6 inches taller than me.

I’m with Lissa. The bottom line is smart, funny and kind trumps physical appearance, which is why I’ve had a few crushes on the gentlemen who hang out here.

CJ

I like 'em with breasts and a vagina. Seriously though, the men I find attractive are my height (5’10) or shorter and are muscularly slim, so I guess that’s in the short and fit category.

-Mosquito

I’m 5’6" and I think taller guys rock. As far as level of fitness, I couldn’t really care less as long as he’s happy and not on the verge of some weight-induced death. However, even if I dated someone shorter than me, my only criteria would really be whether or not I was crazy about him. If he was intelligent, witty and compassionate, all the rest will fall into place no matter what his physical attributes are.

Tall and solid does it for me. Short and fit sounds like everything I don’t look for in a man.

Short and fit (as long as fit means healthy not rail thin). However “short” what I’m generally attracted to anyway, not just out of the two choices. What a lot of guys consider upsettingly short - under 5’10" - is what I prefer.

My presumption was that “short” was a dealbreaker or at least a tic in the “con” column for most women. And although the results do favor “Tall and overweight”, it’s by a slight margin, not the wide margin I had expected.

I’m 5’7", and for a while when I was on match.com, where they have this side-by-side “do you have what they’re looking for” dot grid thing. If there was ANY category I was deficient in, dollars to doughnuts it was height. In fact there was this one girl I showed some interest in — who was only 5’4" I’d like to add — actually wrote back and said that she only dates tall guys. Wow. Her perogative, surely.

This last musing is only tangentally related to the poll: I think that guys as a collective get a lot of criticism for a superficial “no-fat-chicks” attitude, yet I’ve experienced firsthand a “no-short-guys” attitude as well. And say what you will about the difficulty of weight control, a person has more ability to affect their weight than their height — short of some questionable asian medical procedures.

Anyway, it’s refreshing to hear that not every woman out there considers below average height a real let-down.

I dated a very fit firefighter who was 5’5" to my 5’8" and married a chubby computer geek who stands 5’11".
Firefighter couldn’t acknowlege my birthday and would stick his fingers in his ears when I would excitedly relate interesting details of my surgical rotation.
Computer geek buys sparkly jewelry on Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, birthdays and Christmas and holds my hand while the dentist is drilling.

Doesn’t matter, so long as he’s sweet, thoughtful, kind, and a decent guy.

Tall and overweight, but it really would matter how overweight. A couple of extra pounds–fine. Can’t reach his own ass–no way. I’d rather date short and fit.

I do have a preference toward tall guys, though it’s not a rule. I think my preference is based less on appearance and more on how tall men make me feel–safe, protected, proud. A shorter man with confidence and skills could easily stir the same feelings. I don’t think I could date a man shorter than me, though. Never tried.

Disclaimer: I’m 5’8" and 120lbs.

I have dated some short guys, but my type is definitely tall & big. I liken big guys to big dogs. They are more laid back, calmer, less likely to bite. Short guys tend to get napoleon complexes which drive me nuts. It’s not that I dislike short guys on principle, just that in my experience, they don’t typically have the type of personality I’m drawn to. I also need a man to have meat on his bones. My rattley, boney body needs some cushion.

Excuse me while I go pack a Snickers bar in my tall (6’3") and big (250lbs) husband’s lunch. :slight_smile:

Oh, my hubby is bald also, who know I would dig THAT as much as I do?

I think some short guys get an annoying Napolean-complex, but on average, I think short guys try harder. They’re more charming and attentive. Tall guys know they have the height advantage.

So, yeah, my vote would be for short and fit. I don’t’ have nay height hang-ups but I have low tolerance for a lot of chubb.

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How YOU doin’?

Um, wouldn’t you think that if you’re internet dating, you’re maybe, just maybe looking for the right guy and you MIGHT think about dating someone out of your ‘type’? Obviously dating tall guys hasn’t worked yet for this girl. :smiley:

Short and fit.

Most of my life, I’ve dated tall men. Reeeaaaalllly tall men. Six feet plus. And I’m only 5’4"!

But my current boyfriend is 5’8". And I realized how utterly fantastic it is to be able to kiss someone standing up, without standing on tippy-toes or a chair, or making him crouch down.

So I’m a convert. Once you go short, you never go… uh, something.

I would be miserable and probably single if given that choice. I have no height preference, but I don’t like overly muscular or overweight guys, so I would say that the OP is missing a factor. Give me a skinny nerd any day!

Actually, don’t bother. I already have one. :slight_smile:

But I guess if you MADE me, I would pick tall and overweight. I would not be happy about it, though.

Short and fit I think, but I admit it depends how short. I’m 5’8" - I think about 5’4" would be my lower limit. Not for friendship, obviously, but I think a fella much shorter than that would make me feel huge and unappealing.

Yes, tall is a bonus, but any short guy who can’t get a date has something else wrong with him.