Out with some friends last night for St. Patty’s Day, there was some merging of groups. Being a single guy, this worked out well. I had been informed that one of the ladies whom I had been speaking to quite a bit found me attractive. So as she was heading out (she had to get up early), I walked her out and got her phone number.
I had planned on calling early next week to do something next weekend, as something this weekend would be much too short of notice. But one of my friends has a couple spare theater tickets for Sunday, and thought it would be perfect for us to go in a group. However, the catch is that the theater company needs our names (the group tickets include a reception beforehand as well as a tour of the theater, so they need to have our names), and they need them soon.
So I called this afternoon when I knew she would be off work, but when I still had time to get names in.
But she wasn’t there. So… I left a message. Not just an ordinary message, but a message pretty clearly asking her out for this Sunday. I apologized for the voicemail nature of the situation, as well for as the short notice aspect of the whole deal. Regardless, it was still a voicemail! So is this still redeemable, a complete lapse of common sense or something else?
I think it’s perfectly fine, especially considering you need her answer and info rather quickly. If you didn’t have to be in such a rush, it would have been better to wait until you were actually speaking to her to ask her out, but since you couldn’t wait, this is fine. This way, she knows that she should get back to you soon if she wants to go to the theater.
Not a lady but FWIW, I think you’re all good. She’ll either accept or decline but not based on the fact that you left a voice mail message. If you sounded polite, eager and sufficiently appologetic for this last minute invitation, she’d be a fool to be anything but flattered.
You’ve nothing to worry about… I mean, with regards to this phone call… How’s your breath, by the way?
If she’s truly interested in you, as you seem to have already confirmed, then I’d say you did the right thing. Like you said, the situation is time sensitive, so you need her to respond as soon as she can. I also think she’d be flattered that you thought of taking her, even though it is short notice.
I agree that your original plan of asking her out for next weekend was a good one, and that you generally shouldn’t ask someone out via voice mail. But then you got a unique opportunity. She should be flattered that you thought to invite her to such a cool event.
That was my initial feeling when answering machines came out, but now with caller ID you have to quickly choose between blurting it out and hanging up and leaving her wondering why you called.
