My wife can come in 3 minutes flat with no foreplay. 
I’ve pretty much always considered such criteria when judging whether or not I’d date somebody.
Do you even need to show up? 
I wouldn’t like that, why not take the time and enjoy it?
Well with the baby now…
Actually I “take care” of her first, then slow down and enjoy myself.
When we get down and dirty, I’m the one who’s got to think about baseball until hubby’s ready.
I’m just sayin’ is all…
I never have! And I never will, either. (At least, I think I won’t 
) I think that if my partner can’t handle the fact that I’m one of those women who just can’t manage it with penetrative sex but that I still enjoy the act immensely, he doesn’t need to be in my bed.
TMI following: I can come with penetrative sex if there is some clitoral contact, but it’s not as deep or enjoyable as one without. That leads me to believe that my body is set up in such a way that penetration actually decreases my chances of coming. Doesn’t decrease the appetite or enjoyment, though.
I used to be really insecure about not being able to come during intercourse, so I can understand women wanting to lie about it. And I’m sure some of them really do manage it during sex. But I also am sure that it’s just like what you have to do when a guy tells his buddies how many women he’s been with: Cut the number in half, and you might have a better estimate of how many times it’s really happened.
Good sex isn’t about orgasm, in my mind. It’s about both parties having fun until they’re exhausted!
How can I put this…not all positions are equal.
Doggy style isn’t the same as girl-on-top or even boy-on-top-girl’s-legs-on-his-shoulders. Sometimes friction from the guy’s pubic bone against the clitoris is enough.
Me…I’m pretty much like Eleusis’ wife, but some positions are still better than others.
There’s something that came up recently with a friend which might help men understand better. It suddenly occurred to me that a man might think that an orgasm originating in the clitoris…is experienced in the clitoris, just as a the sensation of a man’s orgasm is mostly concentrated in his penis. I asked my friend, and found that that was indeed his assumption. I explained to him.
A man might not “regret” a clitoris-only orgasm when he realizes that such an orgasm takes up much more…real estate…than just the clitoris. The orgasm sensation, itself, is felt throughout the pelvis, deeply inside, as waves of contractions of the uterus, vagina, and who knows where else. It can be extremely powerful, and is most definitely not concentrated in a teeny location. That’s just the power-supply.
Regarding something mentioned by a few women here, our sexual response can and does change throughout our reproductive lives. I don’t just mean being in the mood or not, but the actual quality, intensity, and trigger of the orgasm can be very different at different stages of life. What gets you off can change too. At 50, I was surprised to find that mine are much different and much better than when I was younger, and my libido is more like a teen boy’s.
I disagree with Wonderlust (is THAT why you have that name??). For me clitoral orgasms are not half as satisfying as vaginal and they seem very much on the surface, not the ‘whole body pulsing’ as vaginal are.
Wow, I’m learning a bit here! I had no idea that there were women under 30 who weren’t aware how an orgasm should feel.
I’d also like to reitterate what some have alluded to already - men can take a long time to come and women a very short time, although I’m guessing that it is usually the other way around.
As for my name: have you heard the term “wanderlust” ? It’s a play on that, reflecting my curious nature and love of sf and fantasy lit (sense of wonder).
Of course, I should have said orgasms vary by woman, but the physiology of female arousal and orgasm includes the vasocongestion of the greater external area as well as contractions throughout the internal pelvic area, regardless of how that may be experienced by the woman. My point being it’s not just located in a small spot.
From Not Safe for Work:
Rhythmic muscle contractions occur in the outer third of the vagina, the uterus, and anus. The first muscle contractions are the most intense, and occur at a rate of a little more than 1 per second (0.8 seconds). As the orgasm continues, the contractions become less intense and occur at a more random rate. A mild orgasm may have 3-5 contractions, an intense one 10-15.By the way, sex researchers would correct you in that all female orgasms are clitoral in origin, regardless of penetration (not including stories of nipple-orgasms), so that the terms vaginal orgasm and clitoral orgasm are incorrect and misleading.
The above link has lots of good information, so I will bow out of my role of educator.
I’m gonna have to go with 2 - at least, in some areas of life, depending on how close said friends are and how they were brought up. For some reason I’ve always felt the pressure to orgasm, except for with the latest guy. I always do with him, too, so that might have something to do with why I felt the need to fake it sometimes - the pressure to boost his ego and be “normal” was always there and it took a lot of the enjoyment out of sex.
~Tasha
Actually, this is under debate. Personally, I’m in the camp that there are several different types of orgasm. I can come through vaginal stimulation alone, but it feels very different for me than clitoral stimulation. Before I had sex, I always thought that the women in porn who enjoy just the being fucked were faking and I was very surprised (but delighted!) to be proven wrong.
I thought it was considered pretty much settled. Do you know of summaries of research about this that can be found online?
-FrL-
I hate to bust your bubble, but the women in porn? Faking it. Likewise, that hooker? Didn’t really come. Yours isn’t the biggest she’s ever seen, either.
*And yes, I know Kimera is a woman!
I’ll have an orgasm pretty easily during penetrative sex but only if I’m about ready to anyway due to lots of good foreplay ahead of time. It’s like foreplay or oral will get me to the top of the curve and then intercourse pushes me right over the brink so to speak. But if I’m not really charged up ahead of time, no position is going to get me there.
I think either the McKinney Report, or Masters and Johnson stated that 75% of women could not achieve orgasm through vaginal intercourse only, that some sort of direct stimulation of the clitoris was necessary.
Thank goodness too! For prior to that time Freud insisted that vaginal orgasm were the only “true” or “mature” orgasms and clitoral orgasms were immature. :rolleyes:
Uh…
Is it possible the male orgasm is misunderstood by the opposite sex almost as much as the female orgasm is?
I have no doubt that the female orgasm is an order of magnitude more bone-shaking than the male, but there’s a heck of a lot more to a male orgasm than ejaculation, and it also takes up a lot more “real estate.” Mostly along the spine, it seems to me.
Seconded.
Male orgasm does not consist, neither wholly nor even mostly, in a physical sensation located in the penis.
It feels good… um… all over.
Well, is that right? It just feels good. I’m not even sure its a physical sensation, come to think of it. (And no, I will not come to think of it right this very minute.)
-FrL-
Ladies and Gentleman:
I give you, the typical woman.
LOL, this is one of those topics that requires showing and doing rather than all these twisty-tangly words. If only we could experience our partners’ sensations along with our own!
Wait, Richard Morgan wrote a scene like that in Altered Carbon .
So, uh, huh huh, yer a chick right?