Hi, I’m a 30 years old man and I’m sexually illiterate. I’m not looking for the science’s say about my questions. I want the knowledge that you’ve gained by real-life practice. So if you know the scientific answers but haven’t tested them yourself, please don’t provide them to me. Now, here are my carefully-sequenced questions (please use words economically):
What is the percentage of women who have orgasms during sex? (research-based answers are allowed only for this question.)
Are women orgasms like men’s in that they are followed by an immediate decline in sexual desire?
Do women ejaculate?
Does the ejaculated fluid go inside or outside the vagina?
Does ejaculation occur simultaneously with orgasms?
Oh come on! If the greatest male sex symbol of the past century doesn’t know this from his own experience, how the hell are the rest of us supposed to know (and without the aid of science too)?
I’m not sure this can be answered. In my experience it just depends on who the “administrator” is and if they are able to understand a particular womans buttons to push. And it really helps a lot to have lots of foreplay, be a good kisser, know that there are more then just boobies and vaginas to a womans body. Some women never orgasm from just intercourse, but they still like the feeling very much. Some women can but you have to put in the time it takes for her to get there (and I guess lots of times that also has to do with the size of your equipment). Some women can orgasm from oral sex (if the guy knows what he is doing, or if the woman is able to vocalize what feels good and is getting her there and what doesn’t. Some women don’t like having a man perform oral sex on them for whatever reasons. Personally I love doing that and I can’t be with a woman that doesn’t like it.
Some womens orgasms are like men and their clitoris becomes very sensitive after an orgasm and they need any direct clitoral stimulation to stop. As far as I can tell it’s the exact same feeling a man gets in his penis after an orgasm and it becomes very sensitive. However, with that said I’ve never met a woman that didn’t love to be penetrated and pounded after an oral orgasm. (sorry if that sounds “crude”) Others can seem to have orgasm after orgasm if you can do whatever it is you’re doing that brought on the first one (oral or intercourse, or both!). Those are the ones I really like…lol! And some women can have an orgasm only if they do it themselves. A womans orgasm is a beautiful thing and really quite a turn-on…
Some women apparently do have some sort of ejaculation/discharge that almost resembles seminal fluid. Others have “squirting” ejaculation but it appears to be just the orgasm forcing urine out out of the bladder. I believe for the most part there is no ejaculation per-se but the woman does produce fluids for lubrication when she’s turned on.
Outside if there is any. Not sure I understand the question. Where would it go inside?
If there is any then yes.
No. This really is seeming quite redundant.
Clear to white looking, or like urine if she has one of those squirters.
If female ejaculation occurs at all (a matter of some controversy to begin with), then it comes out the urethra, and is not in the vagina at any point (unless it fountains out and falls back with really precise aim, or something). I know you said that you’re not interested in scientific answers, but I get the impression you really need to find some diagrams of female anatomy. And no, I don’t just mean porn, but something labeled.
I’ve read a lot about the subject. What confuses me is the unsure statements like the ones about female ejaculation. It’s as if scientist are talking about Marsian aliens’ sex life. Now I need answers from women based on their sex life. I should have written the questions in the second person form. Some of the answers were very helpful.
I’d like to add another question:
when having sex with my girl, I feel something inside her vagina (3 inches deep) when she is aroused. This thing feels like a penis head trying to penetrate the vagina’s wall.
Depends. Kinsey found that 95% of women were able to orgasm from masturbation, but it varies with age and experience. (cite) He also found that 64% of women reported having an orgasm at their last encounter. (cite)
All the rest of the questions have factual answers, but if the OP only wants answers from personal experience, this post is probably better suite to IMHO.
I felt it with my finger. It doesnt have an opening in it. It’s much closer when she’s sitting down. My girl says it feels good. But she knows nothing about her anatomy and so am I.
Are you feeling it with the tip of your finger (or penis) or do you feel it if you curve your finger slightly, as if you are pointing at her belly button?
If your finger is straight and the tip bumps into something that feels like the tip of your nose, that’s her cervix. It would be easier to find in a seated position. You wouldn’t feel an opening in her cervix unless she’s dilating and that pretty much only happens when in labor or if the doc does it manually. You cannot get anything past that cervix and you wouldn’t feel an opening.
If you curve your finger (point at her belly button) and you feel this swelling (assuming she’s aroused) about 3" in along the anterior (front) wall of the vagina, that’s her g-spot.
She should really get a copy of the book “Our Bodies, Ourselves.” This would answer many of the questions that both of you seem to have about female anatomy and sex.
During actual intercourse, it’s actually pretty low. There are a lot of factors involved, and you can increase the likelihood with solid foreplay/arousal beforehand, but like, the actual act of intercourse purely by itself often doesn’t hit the right spots or have the right build-up behind it, etc. Guys often worry that if their chick doesn’t orgasm during sex they’re doing something wrong, but most chicks are cool with getting their orgasms other ways (oral, toys, etc.) and some of them don’t even actually EXPECT to orgasm from intercourse because it’s either rare for them or has never happened.
I tend to go for the foreplay/oral orgasm or two and then when I can tell she’s close to the edge, that’s when I go for actual intercourse. Just stacking the deck in my favor.
Not generally, but there are a number of girls who’s bodies become too sensitive after an orgasm to continue playing around. Usually these girls have only ever orgasmed once per session in their life just because it’s physically uncomfortable for them to keep going. Generally can’t make these girls squirt because their parts are too sensitive to keep playing through the necessary build-up to do it…these are my least favorite types of girls in bed haha but it’s not their fault or anything, they just happened to get dealt a particular hand in the poker game of sexual play.
haha oh ya. Lots of them, and when they do it’s like squirting porn you can find around the net. I’ve been with girls who make epic puddles of ejaculate that pretty much obliterate the sheets/mattress/couch/etc., and there are times where both of our bodies are covered in it. It’s pretty funny at the time, but cuddling afterwards is akward because the entire bed is a cold damp puddle. I usually just keep a towel near the bed and whip it out before we get to that stage.
Depends on the girl and the level of arousal and how comfortable she is pushing it out, etc. I’ve run into girls that squirt but it sticks to just making her vagina super wet, and I’ve run into girls that can shoot across the entire bed haha
Squirting specifically is a different kind of orgasm than a standard clitoral/vaginal orgasm. You have to manipulate the g-spot and it feels very different to the girl (in a good way). From my own experience I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily always an orgasm if they’re squirting because as you finger away they’ll just keep squirting and squirting with each finger motion (VS just one big burst after a build-up), so best I can figure it it’s like a long drawn out extended orgasm, which is super intense for them…usually the girl can barely talk afterward and her legs will randomly quiver uncontrollably for anywhere from a few minutes to an hour while you just lay there cuddling after.
It’s very intense and once you make her squirt you can chill for like 30 seconds, then go back to the g-spot again and make her squirt right away. You can usually do this anywhere from 2 - 5+ times depending on how much her body can physically take (it’s really physically draining).
Nah. This is why people think it’s a myth. A lot of women don’t even realize they can ejaculate like that, because the angle you manipulate the g-spot at is kind of akward for a person to do to themselves and they figure out how to do clitoral/vaginal orgasms and those are fun so why search for more if you’re satisfied with that? Ejaculation also takes a lot of build-up, preferably after she’s had a few orgasms. So you can’t just go in right away and play with the g-spot and have her squirting…but if you get her going and she’s a couple normal clitoral orgasms in, she’s usually good to go. So for those first orgasms, there’s no ejaculation, but with the g-spot stuff after them, there is.
In my experience, the “rubbing the clit really fast and shooting out buckets of ejaculate” thing some girls do in porn isn’t how it works and I generally figure those girls are just peeing for the sake of the porno. I’ve only seen girls squirt through manipulation of the g-spot inside her vagina. There’s a great porn called “Squirting 101” that teaches you the hand position and finger motion for making a girl squirt and the technique in that video is what I use and have found to be EXTREMELY effective.
Clear. It’s also very liquidy, not sticky/gooey at all.
Ya, though sadly I’ve found it’s because they’re used to guys who are shitty in bed and can’t get them off so they’ve just kind of accepted “sexy time doesn’t always result in an orgasm” and are fine with it. Also for girls the whole work up TO an orgasm is fun, just being turned on in general is good stuff (whereas us guys tend to get frustrated blue-balls if we’re turned on for too long without release). I would imagine a lot of girls who don’t have an orgasm finish the job themselves as soon as they’re alone, haha
I think a lot of people are just very ignorant about sex. They find that “one move” that works somewhere back in high school and stick to it the rest of their lives. It always amazes me how many women don’t realize they can ejaculate, and often I have to coach them through it in the moment because to them it feels like they have to pee and they don’t want to embarrass themselves in front of the guy or make a mess so it can take a bit to relax them and get them to fully let go. A friend of mine used the method of fooling around in the shower with her to get her to not worry about the mess part (but be careful, accidentally flushing water in the vagina is a bad thing).
I imagine a lot of scientists don’t get laid that much. My experience jives with other friends who get laid a lot. I’ve found that generally the ones who think the g-spot/female ejaculation are a myth are a solid 80% of women in general, and most guys who don’t have a lot of sexual experience.
If it’s on the upper wall (like she’s on her back and your palm is facing upward and you beckon your fingers back like you’re saying “come over here” to someone), that’s probably her g-spot. It’s feeling/texture/hardness will change throughout arousal, there are a lot of nuances to it. You can do all sorts of fun things with this spot.
I recommend you guys watch Squirting 101 together. And stock up on towels.
oh, also: You CAN make a chick squirt through actual intercourse. There are certain angles where the penis hits the g-spot (Google it), but I’ve found it a million times easier to manipulate the spot with my fingers instead.
]1) What is the percentage of women who have orgasms during sex? (research-based answers are allowed only for this question.) I haven’t researched this, so I won’t answer.
Are women orgasms like men’s in that they are followed by an immediate decline in sexual desire? Not really. Women can have several orgasms in a row, so after one, I just might feel more hungry for another.
Do women ejaculate? It happens.
Does the ejaculated fluid go inside or outside the vagina? Outside.
Does ejaculation occur simultaneously with orgasms? Afaik, pretty much yes.
Are all orgasms accompanied with ejaculation? Not at all.
What color is women ejaculation? Colorless.
Can women be sexually statisfied without orgasms? Yes, but (much like men, I suppose) an orgasm brings the most satisfiable (is that a word?) finish to it.
My experience jives with other friends who get laid a lot. I’ve found that generally the ones who think the g-spot/female ejaculation are a myth are a solid 80% of women in general, and most guys who don’t have a lot of sexual experience.