I had just the opposite problem with my last boyfriend. My “lounging outfit” was either silk lounging pyjamas (very Gertie Lawrence) or my daytime wear of a simple sweater and skirt. Whereas Paul would be plonked down in underwear or a sweatsuit.
“You don’t look . . . Comfortable,” he’d say, and finally talked me into . . . A sweatsuit. I sat there immobile, like I was badly sunburned. “Aw, fer chrissakes, go put on your regular stuff,” he finally said.
Well stated, sir. Though my boyfriend and I have never discussed my loungewear, he’s always taking out the kitty box or investigating cat noises in the middle or the night or doing a host of uncomfortable activities to keep me happy.
You can’t MAKE her wear it, but I’m honestly a bit surprised that she’d be so opposed.
Buying her a sex romp outfit is NOT THE SAME as buying her a nice set of lounge PJs. Don’t suggest she just wear it while watching Everybody Loves Raymond.
She oughta kick your ass, my friend. 
shudder
This reminds me of the horrible ‘Wonder Bra’ incident of 1999.
Never again. Never again.
So your plan is to buy your wife something she has indicated she has no interest in, and then what?
Hlanelee, you can’t just pop a red bustier and fishnets on your SO and expected her to be ready to go. She’ll more than likely be ready to smack you, from how it sounds. If you’re really into getting her to be a bit more, well, appealing in attire, I’d suggest starting off easy. Give her silk pajamas for her birthday. A lacy nightgown for Christmas. A satin robe for Valentine’s Day. And make sure she understands that these gifts are for her comfort and pleasure, not so that you have some in-house eyecandy. Even if the latter is the real reason.
** Jonathan**, what Wonderbra incident? Tell me tell me tell me… 
hlanelee You have one and only one chance at success in this, and I doubt you can afford it.
The attire you’d like her to wear is the equivalent of a swimsuit. People wear swimsuits when the weather is in the mid 70s. If you want her running around the house wearing not much of anything, NOT ONLY will you need to pop for the most comfortable, non binding, non itching non creeping up the back lingerie, you will also have to have the thermosat set to NO LESS than 75 or 76 degrees.
If your house is the typical winter house anywhere, the thermostat is set around 68 or 70, but the actual ambient air in the house is a little cooler. You’re a cruel human if you’re asking her to be basically naked in that kind of temperature.
(And NO it doesn’t count if you prefer to be that temperature yourself. Women are wired to respond differently to cold than men are)
Anal Scurvy, have you ever actually worn nylons? Or a bra for that matter?
From what hlanelee said, I’d gues his wife is large on top. I can tell you from personal experience that even bras made for every day wear are painful and a pain in the ass to wear if you’re large chested. Wearing a bustier would probably be akin to water torture.
Nylons are binding, pinching and just plain uncomfortable. If you’re too large, they can actually hurt. If you’re too small, they never stay on right.
Why on earth should this poor woman endure this agony just so her husband can have some eye candy while watching TV at night.
Lingere is made to be taken off and thrown in a corner. It’s not meant to be loungewear.
I disagree with the above statement. There is some lingerie that can comfortably be worn for hours, if the room is warm enough.
I’ll grant that a bustier and hose are not it though. More like baby dolls, peignors & the like.
I think you should let it go. It’s one thing to buy your wife outfits and ask her to wear them during play time, but you’re basically just complaining about how she looks when she’s hanging out and relaxing. I don’t really see a way to get what you want without looking like a selfish bastard (and then still not getting what you want).
For what? When she wants to convey “I’m in the mood for love,” or when she’s really just lounging around the house? There’s a reason women don’t wear hose, much less bustiers, for lounging in. They are not comfortable. If you feel she should occasionally make some effort to make herself more attractive for you, okay. But you should not be suggesting it as something she should always do, as if your approval of how good she looks is more important than her being comfortable in her own house. Not to mention the whole subtext of “you’re not attractive enough when you dress that way,” which even a single girl like me can see is so obviously a Swamp of Danger filled with the Alligators of Recrimination that only a fool of a married man would even approach it. To say you must step gingerly is a gross understatement, and you should be aware that it’s very possible you will not be able to step gingerly enough. How would you like it if she requested that you “lounge” in a suit and tie because you’d look good in something different and have attriubutes well suited to such attire?
Advice? Well, since you say then the subject is not open (by which I assume her answer was a firm “no”) but you indicate you’d like to by the “items” anyway, I can only assume you’re buying them for yourself. In which case, my advice is to buy cheap hose until you’re good at putting them on, and be sure to sit down in the bustier to make sure its not so stiff it pokes you in the stomach or the thighs – especially if its boned.
Buy her a nice lacy net teddy and some matching panties. That’s what ladybug was wearing when she waited in the bedroom for me to get home last nite.
[flashback]
Me (shutting the door behind me): “Hello”
(silence)
Me (walking down the hall): “Hello?”
(silence)
Me (putting the mail on the kitchen counter): “Hello?!?”
(silence)
Me (climbing the stairs, beginning to worry): “Sweetie??”
(silence)
Me (reaching the boudoir, seeing her in the teddy): :eek: “Well, hel LO!”
[/flashback]
maybe he could give her a garter, then ask her to dance around and he can stuff dollars in the garter.
That seems to be what he wants.
heck, I will come and do it if she won’t(depending on many dollars)
vanilla,once a dancer always a dancer
too funny!
I canNOT imagine Eve in sweats.
Tho they are soooo comfortable.
I’ve sat that way once!
In a dress that actually reached my knees!
Hell, if we’re talking fivers I’ll weaqr the bustier and hose and dance around!
I can’t believe I agree with Bruce Daddy on something concerning women.
Try the attractive lounging pajamas, like hepburn wore. Get expensive cotton, not nylon or even silk.
waves a fiver in Johnathons direction
LOL
Speaking man to man, this battle’s been fought and lost by our brothers long ago (look for the Stephen Ambrose book). Refighting it will do you no good.
What are you going to do for her?
It constantly amazes me that even though the man’s libido is GENERALLY (yes I know there are exceptions) higher than the woman’s, she is the one that is expected to look sexy all the time.
Anal - how the hell do you infer that she is insecure because she doesn’t want to sit around in her underwear all night?
Because if she wasn’t insecure about her appearance, she’d know that she looked hot hot hot, and that would be worth the itchiness of the clothing, and having stays dig into her, and freezing to death sitting around in her skivvies. After all, it’s makin’ her man happy. :rolleyes:
Yes, marriage means compromise. That means that sometimes you do stuff you’re not terribly into, but it also means you don’t push for stuff that you know the other person is going to bloody well hate.