I’d be pissed that he wasted money on such services, when his own mother would gladly do it for free.
Because it is normal for adults to be interested in and aroused by people exhibiting signs of reproductive fitness. Leering at live nude men is perfectly normal as well. An adult expressing need to return to childhood and have a parent take care of everything is not normal.
Because that isn’t what psychotherapists do. They don’t listen to your problems and say ‘None of that is your fault. You’re a good boy. There, there.’
I think the need for parental approval and wanting to feel cared for is perfectly normal in adults. As normal as the need for sex. Look at all the posts that say something like, “I adequately baby my man when he needs it.” as if it were a normal thing to need. I think it’s only abnormal if it gets in the way of productive, reciprocal relationships.
I think if a person was neglected or abused as a child, then something like this might even be healing. I will submit that doing something like this on a regular basis would be cause for exploration, but I also think (JUST MHO) that regular visits to night clubs to watch men or women is something to be explored as well. But neither is catastrophic or anything to get weirded out about.
In real life, I would also understand reasons for hiding something like that just based on the responses to the question.
I just find it hard to believe that people feel that being in a romantic-relationship means that that is the only legitimate outlet for sharing feelings.
MOST women have a girlfriend who they share things with that their partner will never know. That doesn’t mean BAD stuff. Just an outlet for feelings, a girlfriend is a safe place to talk about stuff.