cazzle, there’s no way in hell you overreacted. Gwen sounds seriously unstable.
[Capt. Hardass]
In my life I’ve had the opportunity to pry off a few of the barnacles sticking to my hull, or throw overboard some of the bilge that I took on. Every once in a while some of it floats past again, if it gets too close I give it a nudge so it floats away but most of the time it just floats by on it’s own. I ain’t gonna let that stuff back on my boat, nosiree, might sink me.
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Yeah, she’s getting worse. She’s always been clingy and selfish, but over about 18 months she’s become VERY clingy and VERY selfish, and she’s coming across as seriously unstable. She’s had a lot of bad things happen (and I’ll just add that they were all her own fault too - she never stops to consider the consequences) and they’ve made her worse. She’s been through a failed engagement, lost all her friends, moved at least half a dozen times, lost multiple jobs, had to deal with the death of her beloved Grandmother… none of this excuses her, but all of this has contributed to a serious decline in her mental health. I had noticed, but was in denial for a long time. Again, I feel guilty - I abandoned a friend in need - but I feel very alienated from her, and don’t have the inclination to try to help. She’ll have to actually do something to help herself, I’m sick of trying to pick up the pieces for her. It’s so hard to feel sorry for someone who makes their own bad luck through arrogance, disregard for others and failure to learn from past mistakes.
I guess the point I made first, about her ex’s little son is one of the most disturbing. She claims to love children, but she’s never gotten along with any child, ever. The boy, Jack, is a dear sweet little fellow, and so incredibly intelligent, and I could never understand how she could hate someone so small. He’s a great kid, I got along with him so well. He was frequently sullen and resentful around her because she was unsuitably strict with him - but even then, he was often good despite the unfair treatment he got from her. I’m really very upset to hear that there’s nothing they can do for him, and I was so upset that she was happy about it. She claims to be Wiccan (though I’m not sure if that’s more than lipservice), and as far as she’s concerned, Jack and his father crossed her so they’re now getting what they deserve. She is convinced that she has the ability to make people suffer if she thinks they’ve done her an injustice. This is not the first time she’s claimed responsibility for bad luck that someone has suffered after a run-in with her. I don’t believe that she has any power in this manner, but I do find it distressing that she’s happy to believe that she’s the reason a 3 year old is going to die. I’m also horrified that she can feel that Jack did anything bad enough to warrant her wishing for his death. I’ve posted before about the feelings of guilt that struck me down when I girl who threatened to kill me a few years ago had a miscarriage that had nothing to do with me simply because I had such negative thoughts about her that I felt like I’d done something wrong when ill-fortune did befall her. I cannot relate to someone who thinks that an 18 month old child can do anything bad enough to justify wishing him dead.
Two words cazzle, restraining order. It’s quick, cheap, easy, you get to set the conditions, it will be granted by default unless she turns up in court and shows cause why it should be denied, and most important of all, it lets her know that you are serious.
It is your choice who you allow into your life, and unwanted attention from a former friend is no more acceptable than unwanted attention from a former partner.
It is your absolute right to not have this person in your life; it’s not a choice that you should feel forced to justify.
Let me know if you have any problems at G’Dope - there are administrative options we can take to give you privacy.
Oh yeah; have you considered protecting your website in some way? Password access might be the simplest short-term option.
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I could be her? but if I was wouldn’t i know? thus I can not be her? but then maybe I have repressed the memory? why would I do that? and wouldn’t I remember doing that? Maybe I am not she? Then who am I? 
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Bad attempts at humour aside, cazzle I second the ignore her advice - for as long as her attempts at contact remain electronic. If she attempts to phone you or visit your home/workplace etc then is the time to take action.
Best of luck.
Ps tell Mr Cazzle I said he has to give you lots of big hugs or I will come over and make him watch my Pokemon video! 
You deserve better, and you are SO normal (ie not crazy, not willing yourself into a wheelchair, balanced etc) that this oddness form her is VERY unfair.
Hmmph. Hope things start to go better.
Redboss