This may be a sticky question, but my wife and I are thinking of having a child. I am not sure that my father is actually my biological father, and this is now causing some concern for long tern health issues for any child I may have.
I know the family scandal that this implies will send shockwaves, but it is a real concern. On the one hand, I’m accusing my mother of having an affair. I’m also accusing her of either hiding the truth from my father (in which case this will cause quite a stir), or accusing my father of knowing the truth and hiding it all of these years. Neither option is a good one.
There is the option, of course, that I am my father’s son. However, I look nothing like my father and my biological traits resemble my mother and her family only. My brothers all have traits of both of my parents. I do not. This has bugged me on and off for years, but now that my parents are old and may not be around much longer, I’d like to know the truth.
So, my question is, what are my rights from a legal standpoint? I am in Pennsylvania if that makes a difference. If it turns out that the man that raised me is not my father, I’m not looking to my biological father for financial support. I’m doing just fine. I’m looking for health information and anything that might be important to know as I am deciding to have a child.
As for my “father”, my relationship with him is strained and I haven’t spoken to him or my mother in years. However, my father and I did have a good relationship at one point. My mother was the one who never seemed to be too happy that I was around. Now that everyone from that generation is dying, however, things have changed considerably and I’ve begun to wonder why my mother was always so angry with me being around. Perhaps I was a constant reminder of something she’d rather forget. In any event, if I could find one shred of genetic resemblance with my father, this probably wouldn’t be on my mind at all. However, now it’s become an issue, and my wife has asked me to find out. And quite frankly, I’m curious myself.
So, do I have a legal right to ask for a paternity test? If so, how do I go about it?
Thanks in advance!