The only girl-girl action I’ve witnessed has been thanks to the porn industry, and knowing how accurately they portray hetero love-making (Not At All), I would take what I see there with a grain of salt. So, I’m curious what goes on behind closed doors in an all-female relationship.
I would imagine the foreplay is pretty much the same: Lots of cuddling, nuzzling, kissing, and stroking, which gradually increases in intensity until you start the main event, but what happens then, when you’re seriously driving your partner to climax? Now, I realize that exactly what happens is going to vary – no one likes to eat the same meal or watch the same kind of movie every day – but what I’m looking for is the lesbian equivalent of missionary, the comforting, meat-and-potatoes lovemaking you do on a regular basis albeit with forays into the more exotic.
Is it mainly oral? 69 or one at a time? Is it stroking? Do you (or do you like) penetration? Fingers or toys? Is there something I haven’t even thought of, lacking the proper equipment?
So, how about it? How do you Do It with your loved one?
Poll? I said peach as in this picture, and as in a comment I have heard from the vagina monologues" I was hoping someone would pick it up and demonstrate, but oh well. Here is a very graphic story illustrating what I meant. For a less graphic example, see the play “the vagina monologues.”
Sorry. That being said, does anyone remeber the bit from “the Vagina Monologues” I am refering to? I was just thinking of summerizing it, but while it is probabley not too explicit, I can not remeber it clearly, and besides, I feel that were I to try, I would wind up sounding creepy, since I am not a women.
I always imagine lesbian relationships to be more cuddly and affectionate rather than outrightly sexual. Obviously, lesbians have sex sometimes, but for some reason I’d imagine it might be more infrequent than hetero sex. After all, they don’t have someone’s hard dick nudging into their leg in the middle of the night.
I know nothing about it though, so that could be a completely ignorant assumption.
hmmm… I can’t generalize, as (beyond my girlfriend and I) I know absolutely zero other women in same-sex relationships, but… I think this might work both ways. since there is nothing as overt as a hard-on in the picture, almost ANYTHING can lead to sex. it’s easy to feel comfortable being cuddly and affectionate a lot, because it won’t lead to your partner wanting sex every single time… but then being in physical contact that much gives you that much more opportunity to get turned on, and just the right kind of kiss can heat up the situation.
Hmm… can’t speak for everyone, but I don’t think the bolts on our bed are getting loose from cuddling. Well, OK, I’ll admit to a lot of cuddling. But I’ve had plently of good workouts too.
Possibly true. At least anecdotally true among the lesbian community. Maybe something about the hormone levels.
I think that’s only because the straps aren’t so comfy to sleep in.
Well, thanks, but I know feel kinda skeevy discussing this, nonetheless, I suppose I can demonstrate a technique, one out of many that heterosexuals also use. Come to think of it, there is probaby no technique that only one group uses. Ok, give that heteros use this technique too, I no longer feel so bad, so I will take up the burden of demonstrating. ::Scott picks up the peach from the table, looks at it, squeezes it, and examines it.::
Good, it hasn’t gone bad early from the heat of the flamewar I was involved in.
::He then pulls a pocketknife from his back pocket, and cuts a pretty narrow slice from it. Instead of bitting down, he holds it very close to his mouth and seems to lavish quite a bit of attention on it. He draws back, cuts a larger slice and continues. This goes on for quite a while. As of the next post, he is still quite engaged in it.::
Well, OK, I guess I’ll take a stab at answering the OP.
I can only report my own findings, but I’m having trouble coming up with a “regular” style. It really depends on individual preferences and, for me, the way I’m feeling on a particular day. I suppose one of the benefits of being a lesbian is that it encourages creativity. There’s no cultural expectation for a “normal” or “correct” position.
I don’t like toys quite as much as ordinary body parts, which are more flexible and creative, IMO. Tongues and fingers play an important role, definitely, but full body contact is another key ingredient.
For comforting, intimate sex, I like to be in a position that is pretty much like missionary style – with external body friction supplemented by the use of fingers or toys – which makes it easier to gaze in my partner’s eyes or kiss her deeply while bringing her to a climax or reaching my own. Dildos and fingers provide different sensations of penetration, both of which are great. It depends on the day which I prefer.
For a more intense physical sensation, nothing beats tongue on clit, though. Plus a little help from finger penetration. It’s not as intimate to me, but some days it’s just more fun to get each other off. However, I don’t do 69 much, because it’s hard to get a glance into her eyes that way, which I like.
heh, yeah, I guess I kinda glazed over the question at hand–
well, how about this. think of what you’d do to your girlfriend to make her feel good if you didn’t have a penis: that’s what girls do to each other. anything-- everything-- that does not involve a penis.
that said, however, I do not like toys and I am seriously squicked out by strap-ons. I might be in the minority here, or maybe I’m just relatively new at this, but I like flesh and anything non-flesh (including even tongue rings) makes me cringe.
…anyhow, the point of that was to say that not all of us use toys.
I am not a lesbian. I am bisexual and I have had sexual relations with men, a woman and an intersexed individual. I also study human sexuality so while I can not speak from the experience of a lesbian, which would be the best, I can offer generalities.
First of all, missonary isn’t the ‘norm’ for heterosexual expression when you look at humanity as a whole. The reason it is called the missionary style is because some Christians decided that that was the ‘proper’ way to have sex and insisted every other group of people they encountered follow suite. Female-on-top is actually the most popular style around the world followed by all different types including side-by-side, ‘doggy style’ and standing positions (especially popular in India). When it comes to foreplay and all the other goodies, there is no ‘typical’ sexual expressions either. Sex varies just as much as people’s personalities do.
Lesbian encounters, both in humans and our closest relatives tend to take longer than heterosexual encounters. In Bonobos, the average lesbian encounter takes 15 seconds compared to 12 seconds for heterosexuals. I am unsure of the average time of the typical lesbian human encounter, but I do know they are also longer. Lesbians spend more time kissing, fondling, stimulating the breasts, and foreplay in general than do heterosexual couples. Oral sex is also more common in lesbian (and gay) than in heterosexual relationships. Lesbians tend to be less fixated on orgasms and more fixated on romance and emotional aspects of their relationships than men do. Unlike what is depicted in porn, most lesbians don’t use toys, although their use is rising. There also isn’t typically a ‘top’ or ‘bottom’ or a more ‘butch’ girl paired with a ‘lipstick lesbian.’
Despite the generalities, the lesbian experience I had was the most sexual and least emotional of them all. Again, it all depends on the personalities of the individuals involved.
To clarify, the poster is speaking of a type of chimpanzee. I did a double-take on this sentence, before realizing we weren’t discussing humans. Just in case anyone else did a :eek: on first reading.
Poll? I said peach as in 