Let's Get Froggy! A Beachy MMP.

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Awwww, thanks… :wink:

Welcome back, FLeader! It’s been so long, I almost couldn’t remember your nickname! Happy almost anniversary :smiley:

I left work 2 hours early and I’m waiting for the arrival of the inlaws - they should be here within the hour. I just ate a cheese sammich and I’ve got a load of unders in the washer. After I finish posting, I’m going to empty the dishwasher and gather the household garbage for a run to the convenience center. I should mow the lawn, too, but I may put that off till tomorrow.

**FCD ** wants to take his folks sailing, so we may do that tomorrow. Mostly I’m hoping we can relax and be distracted this weekend before the surgicals. He’s in Baltimore right now hanging with my sister and waiting for his appt at the hospital to get all the prep stuff done. And somewhere along the line I need to warn my mom that we’re descending upon her on Sunday. Unfortunately, she’s out of town and won’t get home till Sunday. SURPRISE!!

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I guess the firstborn child as currency is so several centuries ago. :dubious: :smiley:

Speaking of firstborn children, my dad has sent me an email - first in awhile, we usually just communicate through my mom - about how he’s worried a) about my marriage prospects, and b) that I’m going to become satisfied with teaching at community colleges and abandon my plans for a PhD. :dubious: Well, to be fair, my marriage prospects are pretty much shot at this point if I ever go back to Korea - someone who’s lived in the US for any extended period of time is basically thought of as a “loose” woman, not to mention I’d be considered too “overeducated” for my own good. :rolleyes: But I’ve made it clear to my parents that I plan to settle down in the US anyway. As for the second part, my dad is such a snob sometimes. Why he thinks getting a PhD is so much better than simply teaching is beyond me. Gah. Parents.

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A lot of the time, parents paint this picture of what their kids will grow up to be, which is all well and good unless what you wanted them to be is smart and independent, at which point it all goes to hell when they start that whole “making my own decisions about my life” business.

Gah. Kids.

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Thanks VBob and everyone for the input on what to do about my former best friend. In all honesty I forgave her long ago, I have too much on my plate to carry a grudge against anyone. As for letting her back into my life, well, the fact that she sent such a brief glurgy note (which was attached to a glurgy forward, grr) out of the blue is…suspicious. No, she cannot move back to the island and stay here at my house, it’s completely out of the question, if that is what she is angling for. As far as renewing our friendship, there is even more back story than I shared, and we honestly have nothing but history in common, and most of that history is not a place I wish to revisit. At this point I think I will just let it go and if there are future emails or phone calls, I will play it by ear.

I am waiting for my daughter and granddaughter to drop by, I am showered and dressed and feeling no worse for the tequila I consumed last night other than being a bit thirsty. Yay for Friday, although my girls will be returning to Anchorage I do not have to get up so crazy early (FCM crazy early) tomorrow to get the kids off to school. Granted, the beasts will wake me up around nineish, but that is four hours later than I generally get up!

It’s a bright sunny Fall day, and I think that the leftover pot of chicken soup will do for dinner. I may even get some beading done!

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**Kai **-- I agree with your “ignore it now and play it by ear if it continues” approach. Although with that kind of back story it would take a lot for my reaction to further contact not to be “throw her out on her ear…”
People :mad:

**Haze **-- if you need help with your firstborn (including producing it)? ;)…
On a more serious note, don’t judge your father too harshly. He’s a product of his society; you are no longer a part of that society, for better or for worse; misunderstandings and mutual frustration will happen. That’s the way it is… it’s not easy being an immigrant (which is what by now you basically are) – but there is beauty in it, too. And I hope you feel, as I do and I assume most other “Westerners” do, that “Western” society and values offer you something you couldn’t find in your parents’.

We’re settling in for at least a longish haul of hospitalization for my mother – unless the whole fiasco was a direct result of rapid and unexpected resurgence by the cancer itself, in which case all bets are off :frowning: but I’m still hoping it’s peripheral and she might yet get strong enough to go home and maybe even continue fighting the cancer.
We’ll see.

On another note – On Yom Kippur here in Israel, it is customary not to drive. At all. so… for the secular among us, it has long become “Bicycle Holiday” (because the streets are empty)

It’s eerily impressive to go out, even to the Super-highway about a mile away, and there’s no motor traffic – just kids on bikes and people strolling in the middle of the road.

And this year for the very first time each one of the three kids (Special Teen is home for the holiday) took off, on their bike, in a different direction… even the twins parted ways with us and with each other. They’re growing up… :slight_smile: :frowning: :eek:

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Oh, I’ve given up being angry at my dad. I know he does love me and that his concerns for my future come from living in a society where a woman is considered a failure if she doesn’t get married to a successful man and produce perfect children. I just wish he’d come to terms with the fact that I’m not very “Korean.” I don’t think I’m quite American either, but I do identify more with the latter than the former. But my dad is a firm believer in bloodlines - like most Koreans - and he can’t comprehend how I can feel more at home in “a strange land” than the land of my birth. Well, it’s his fault - he’s the one who wanted to do his PhD in the States. So :stuck_out_tongue: to him, I say. (With affection, of course.)

My friend’s father just passed away yesterday - I can’t imagine having to deal with that at this age. I guess everyone my age assumes their parents will live forever - or at least long enough to see us get married and have kids. All I can do is pray my parents are around long enough to get pissed off when I marry a white dude. :slight_smile:

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Could I visit your firstborn,** Haze**? I’m good with visiting babies… :slight_smile:
Dads are dads the world 'round. When I told mine I was going to marry, he said I was too young–this after telling me earlier that I had better settle down! :dubious: :rolleyes:

Does he feel strongly about you marrying a Korean man? And what about Brother–does he HAVE to marry a Korean woman or is this only Dad to daughter stuff? (It was only last year that my dad expressed disappointment that my brother hadn’t married–my brother is now 47! But all the girls needed to get married… whatever). Sorry to hear about your friend’s dad.

Ah, family-can’t live with 'em; can’t kill 'em.

Off to start dinner.

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Sorry I haven’t been around much - didja miss me?

DB - no fair that your hockey has already started; mine doesn’t start until October 20. Training camp starts the 15th, so at least I can go watch some of that. Found out last week the player I sponsored won’t be returning; now I have to decide if I want to sponsor again.

Kai, sometimes you have to let go of toxic friends. Sounds like you can do that.

The chiropractor seems to have helped! Really and truely, after only two visits! I was very very sore after the first visit; not so much so after today’s visit. And I noticed as I was leaving the post office today that my “stride” is coming back! One of the problems I’ve had since I fell was that I lost my “stride” - I was known for my walking pace. I didn’t stroll; when I walked I covered ground. After I fell I didn’t walk that way anymore; anyone could keep up with me. Today I noticed I was covering ground again! I’m still on “light duty” - the doc says not to try walking any distance or working out yet - but I see a light at the end of the tunnel! * does moderate happy dance*

And I really recommend “BioFreeze” for muscle pain; it works much better than Ben Gay. Of course it costs more, too, but them’s the breaks!

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Yay yay yay yay!!! It’s Friday!!! And I seem to have survived the week. Yay!

Good to see you stop by, kai. Sadly, sounds like a friendship that needs to stay ended. Glad the grandbaby is there to cheer you up, though.

Yeah, it’s hard sometimes to straddle cultures. I have the same problem with my family in Mexico. One of my aunts suggested at one point that I should move to Mexico and live with my mother since I’m not married. Yeah, that would work. :rolleyes: And of course, I’ve spent enough time in Germany that that side sometimes runs interference too. Love to visit both places, but I couldn’t live in either.

More good wishes headed out for SpecialMom.

I need a printer cartridge…guess I’ll go buy one.

Back after a while.

GT

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Hey y’all! Thanks for all the warm wishes, both on my return to the MMP and on the upcoming anniversary! It feels like both more and less than a year that we’ve been married, both in good ways of course!

Lunch today was fantastic, both for the awesome food and for getting to see my friend. I had pom-pom chicken and she had egg foo yung - it was cheap, incredibly filling and it’s just around the corner from my building. w00t.

My car is in the shop right now, I just dropped it off after work so it could be there first thing in the morning. I am so planning on still being in bed when they open at 8AM. Then grocery shopping and laundry and picking up prescriptions and cleaning and a whole lot of chillaxing in between.

Oh! And the Fearless Husband and I were invited to a costume-mandatory Halloween party for the 28th, any ideas as to what I should go as? I haven’t dressed up for Halloween since I was about 11, I’m so excited!

I am way too far behind on this thread but just off the top of my head-

My thoughts going out to **SpecialMom ** and SpecialFamily. I’m so sorry for all that you’re going through.
SCL, Flusband went to a chiropractor when he had a pinched nerve, he just went for one session but felt it helped a lot! Glad it’s working for you too!
Kai, I gotta agree with the others telling you to run. This woman sounds toxic!

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My dad would flip out if I married a non-Korean guy, but he’d have a stroke if my brother brought home a non-Korean girl. It’s more of an issue with my brother because the bloodlines are traced through the males; the daughers are erased from the family registry and become part of their husband’s family.

I don’t think he worries about my brother, though; my brother is a lot more Korean than I am, and I can’t see him seriously dating a non-Korean girl.

Glad to hear you’re feeling better, SCL. :slight_smile:

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Achod - my nephew works for Global Rescue, a company that helps folks get back to their home if something happens while travelling - just like with Achod-Eema. I’m glad she’s home where at the very least she’ll feel more comfortable.

home from PT, tired, must sleep
buhbye

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kai it’s great that you can forgive but do not under any circumstances let that toxic creature back in your life. I mean it. Don’t make me have to come to Kodiak young lady! Seriously, you don’t need that anymore. Nobody needs that.

Howdy Y’all! Just a quick driveby howdy here cause I’m prolly gonna have to turn puter off again shortly. It’s been rainy and stormy here off and on all day and it appears that another nasty storm front is on the way any time now. Y’all had any of this Snakes?

Got a feelin’ that I’m gonna regret not mowin’ the front yard by Sunday. With all this rain it’s likely to shoot up to hiney high now. :smiley:

I hear thunder rumblin’ so I’m outta here.

Bye Y’all!

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Papa John made supper. We’re hanging and chatting. I don’t know how much I’ll be on line over the next few days, so don’t get fretful. I’ll try to post when the surgicals are done, but if I’m not on till Weds, don’t panic!

Off to be sociable.

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Let us know when you can, mom!

Ok, Monday, I was home sick. Tuesday - Thursday, I was out of the office seminar-ing. Making today my only day in the office. As I left I stuck my head in the Secretary’s office and said “Gee, it’s Friday? Feels like Monday to me…”

Then I ran.

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So, did she throw things at you? :stuck_out_tongue: :smiley:

I’m tired and thinking I’m gonna turn in early…

I’ve got a meeting at the park in the morning. Still need to do notes from our last meeting. But I think that’ll happen in the morning. Or after a nap.

Everyone have a lovely Friday evening!

GT

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Hello everyone. Much accomplished at work today. I got to go home early, so that was a bonus.

I was in a bit of of a dither, because my dang debit card wasn’t in my wallet. I was really worried that somehow, I’d dropped it somewhere and someone was off on a wild spending spree with it.

I didn’t realize I didn’t have my debit card until I went to buy some cigarettes. When I got to work, I turned my purse inside out looking for it. It wasn’t there. :frowning:

I immediately called the bank to see if there were charges to my account that weren’t mine. All was fine there.

So, anywho, I got home and looked in my bedroom. Nope, not there. Next, I checked the laundry room floor. Nope, not there. Finally, I opened my dryer, and there sat my debit card; right in the door. Whew! Apparently, I’d left it in my jeans pocket after I had gassed up my rig the other day. I don’t usually do that, so I’m sure you can understand my wee bit of panic.

After I found my debit card, I ran on down to Costco. Well, I drove to Costco, but you know what I mean.

I picked something here, something there, something everywhere. **Mr. Taters ** wanted a shepherd’s pie, but they didn’t have any. I ended up getting enchiladas from their deli section, and am currently waiting for the oven to heat up.

kai, I know it seems Og and country have chimed in with their opinions on your toxic “friend”. She is NOT your friend. Stay away from her. Go ahead and forgive her, but, if it were me, I wouldn’t let her back in my life…period.

Continued good wishes are being sent to those who are undergoing surgery, are ill, or hospitalized.

Hm, I guess that’s all for now.

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Taters - I completely understand the losing stuff. The chiropopractor told me I cannot keep my wallet in my right rear pocket anymore. I’ve been wearing it there for 5 years! But it presses nerves or something and I am not supposed to do that anymore. It’s funny to watch me at a checkout when I give myself a full body massage looking for my wallet! I will not carry a purse!

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I know how that feels! Just yesterday I was looking for my Employment Authorization Card - I distinctly remembered putting in an envelope with my I-20 document, but it wasn’t there. I combed my room, shook out all my books, cleaned out my wallet - and eventually found it tucked in-between a bunch of papers that had been in the same bag as the envelope. I was pretty relieved - replacing those things is such a bureaucratic nightmare.

The house is clean, I just had some clam chowder, and am now reclining with some cider and Simon and Garfunkel. Life can be good sometimes.

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I spent most of the afternoon with Attacks Husband. His wife went back to Hawaii this morning, really early. Only eight months or so until they see each other again. That sucks.

We had a nice, relaxing afternoon, and when Mr. Lissar got home they beat each other up. All in all a good evening.

I think I’m off to bed soon. G’night, Mumpers!