Since this topic seems to be a sub-theme to a lot of other threads, let’s just put a piece of cheesecloth over all of them and strain them out for collection into one container. Since I’m a guy, I’ll complain about the crap guys take from *society, but I hope women will post-in and fight my ignorance about the abuse they endure (but if it’s self-inflicted abuse, be prepared to be called on it)
*note that I’m pitting society. Below I slam no individual women, and give credit to righteous women whenever possible. Women or men are not the enemy - the monster is the enemy. Please define the monster:
The Media:
We’ve had threads about commercials with the “doofus husband,” or which even show men receiving violence from women portrayed as funny, while the reverse would be unthinkable.
(bear in mind that most violent child abuse is commited by mothers, and approx. half the victims are boys. How about a bleach commerical with a hip, media-savvy reference to “A Child Called ‘It’”?
In this thread dopers are discussing films with sympathetic male adulterers. Anaamika is as fair-minded, as a critical-thinking doper, to point out the disparity between how women cheaters are portrayed as justified, but males never.
(I’m not including the “Missing White Woman” Syndrome because it discriminates against non-white or pretty women as well as men. But whenever I see it, I can’t help but think that my response is supposed to be “Aw why’d you kill her? I wanted to fuck her!”)
Dating and relationships:
We’ve had no end of threads on this topic, which include double standards that were traditional in the pre-internet conventions for meeting and courtship, and some new ones that have developed for on-line dating.
Please feel free to share yours. Lately, mine is how the middle-age women have perfectly valid reasons to want us guys just for sex but not relationships (teenage kids, careers, etc.) while twenty years ago we guys were such pigs for wanting this same advantage. Men fear committment, while women need to be free.
Sexuality:
A year or so ago we had a male doper post in asking recommendations on synthetic vaginas. A fair-minded female doper who’s name I forget posted back that she was initially skeeved-out by his immodesty, but then realized that there’d been no shortage of threads by women here on the best devices to facillitate the female orgasm.
Credit to her fair-mindedness aside, one does get the message that when a woman masturbates she’s empowering herself, reclaiming her sexuality from the patriarchy, while a man who masturbates is a loser who can’t get laid.
Workplace:
A lot of females aren’t happy about taking up the slack for the absent mommies, so I won’t include that one. But I’m tired of having to drop what I’m doing and lift things too heavy for a female to lift or crawl under her desk and connect wires becasue her butt would show if she had to. In fairness I’ve usually been sent on these fool’s errands by a male manager who just wants the godamned thing done and is too intimidated to impose equal standards.
That one may be anecdotal, and I’m sure plenty of women lift ten-ream boxes of bond paper all day long. But plenty of other women don’t because they’ve found a way around it and they may either feel like they’ve pulled a fast one on us dumb guys, or unthinkingly accept this as their due.
Talking about your menstrual period at work. I really don’t care - I’m familiar with basic biological principles and I’m not threatened by them as abstract discussion topics. But then - isn’t menses a reproductive fluid? I bet if I started talking about my reproductive fluid, - not puriently, just academically, mind you - I’d be out of a job faster than a horny cub scout’s ejaculate.
Family Court and the overall Legal System
Plenty of inequalites here. But I may already be killing my own thread in the first post by its length, so I’ll just list this as a suggestion.
Overall, the issue boils down to how people want life on their terms, which is natural. But when they twist society’s conventions of justice and redressing past injustices for that selfish end, I reach for the Pit.