Life update: Moved out.

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Just thought i’d share some more life updates from myself for those who have been following. I haven’t been on here in awhile, but I wanted to share.

I decided to move out of my folks place. A good roommate was available, and so I decided instead of safely living with my folks and being a dependent, to be ambitious and get on my feet again. So I officially boomeranged for one year back with my parents after my live-in relationship ended. Now I’m 31, with some savings, trying to get full time work (I’m a substitute teacher), starting my private music studio, and finally getting to enjoy a larger centre like I’ve wanted to for awhile. I really must thank people for the advice they gave me. I’m in a better place right now. It feels good to be my old independent self. I will admit it will be a challenge not to lose money for the first two months on my own again (subbing pay is quite a bit less than full time), but I’m happier being poorer on my own than being supported by my folks. It’s exciting to be entrepreneurial again as well. I’ve been out pounding the pavement and making my presence known.

I was thinking of buying a place, but I think as a single without full time employment it’s better for me to just enjoy life. I’m hesitant to admit my latest guilty pleasure but I’ve signed up for dance lessons. It seems like a good way to meet new people…and I do enjoy it as well. I did a short course years ago, and was always saddened I didn’t get to continue it. I’m trying to make this a year of fun and breaking out of my comfort zone a bit more (it seems like I work on this every year…) I hope some positive things spin out of these decisions…but again I’m trying just to take things one day at a time and enjoy the moment. I do hope I meet someone this year…cause I’m feeling older all the time…but I know I can’t control everything. So I guess the goals this year are to continue being fit (I lost 30 pounds), continue my music, learn to dance, keep improving my swimming, get a more permanent job, and meet lots of new people and have new experiences with them. Wish me luck!

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Dancing is a great idea - movement therapy helping you get out and meet people and be physically active. Great for combating depression and stress. Even if you don’t meet a new significant other, new friends are always good and the dance classes give you something to chat about with people.

I hope the roommate works out for you, and your subbing is profitable.

What type of music do you do?

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Good for you! It sounds like you’re on the right track, and I think having a bit of fun makes perfect sense. It’s hard to motivated if you don’t find the fun in life.
There’s a lot to be said for being independently poor. :slight_smile:

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All kinds. I’m a guitarist by training. I’ve perform mostly jazz and classical, but also play in a cover band. We’ve do ethnic stuff (Ukrainian), rock, pop, country…so whole gamut of things!

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Good. Your list of goals will be complete once you add “get a livejournal.” :wink:

I’m kidding (mostly). It’s a relief to finally hear some good news from you, Q. Keep up the momentum, ain’t nobody gonna breaka your stride, and all that jazz.

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A big “thumbs up” for you! I love how you’re staying on track and keep moving forward.

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Congrats. I’ve been following your story and it’s inspiring. I’ve been through some similar stuff in the past couple years and am trying to get back on track as well.